My step dad

[Liam]

I am going to get straight to the point.my dad is dead,I have a brother 20 sister 19 and myself I'm 14. My mum got married again to a new man. They have been together for 6 years and I don't really like him . He really try's though by talking to me and joking and buying nice things but I just can't seem to like him. I don't hate him. I feel terrible what is wrong with me , he is really kind but I can't like him. P.S my real dad died when my mother was pregnant with me so I didn't know him but my mum said he was not nice and hit her so she left him.

[Living For Love]

Maybe you just can't accept the fact your mum married another man after you dad's death. She just kept going with her life, I guess. You can't be forced to like someone, but if you think this is worrying you, try to talk to your mum about it.

[KylieKiss]

Ryanair said what I wanted to say... if the rest of your family is happy just acept what you have and try to talk with your mum about how you feel...

[ksdnfkfr]

You can't like everyone. Some ppl click others don't
Maybe you resented him when you were little and some
part of that has stayed with you. But at least it is not a
bad relationship - you don't hate him or vice versa. Lots
of kids with a step parent can't say that.

[Hyper]

Well is it rational? Ask yourself honestly what things about his behaviour bother you.

And what is going on in your own mind. Regarding your father, the biological aspect (how important it is to you), how much emotional attention you get yourself from your mother and your stepfather and so on...

[Pulp501]

It is like that for a lot of people with step parents, but you as long as you treat him good and all you won't have a problem

[Soldier212]

It is like that with some step parents, but I think you have found a male role model in your life, or like a father figure, but it is not your step dad. I know it may sound hard but try a little bonding with him

[deregisterme]

I am going to get straight to the point.my dad is dead,I have a brother 20 sister 19 and myself I'm 14. My mum got married again to a new man. They have been together for 6 years and I don't really like him . He really try's though by talking to me and joking and buying nice things but I just can't seem to like him. I don't hate him. I feel terrible what is wrong with me , he is really kind but I can't like him. P.S my real dad died when my mother was pregnant with me so I didn't know him but my mum said he was not nice and hit her so she left him.

The reaction that you have seems to be a natural one given the situation you're in. I'm not a counsellor, but it seems natural to have instinctive feelings in these cases. It's relatively easy to say that your biological dad and your step dad are two different people who cannot and should not be compared (though a hell of a lot harder to take in and accept). It does sound like you at least have an OK relationship with him, and that's a good start. Sometimes just having someone to sit and talk your feelings through may be a good idea. It doesn't even have to be with a counsellor. Have a chat with your older brother & sister to see what things were like, their memories, and how they now feel about your step dad, and their relationship with him too. They should have similar feelings and experiences

[John Andrew]

I think I'd be more important to focus on the father you have now and really try and give him a chance, my father is still alive but I like my stepdad more, but it took a long time until I felt that way. It really makes you feel better especially since you see them a lot