A life without sex

[dreamofdante]

As I am now reaching the age of 18 in roughly five days, I have to think to myself how I've never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, and most certainly never had sex with one. Being as they're all natural parts of life, I'm starting to think that I'm just tainted and I'm not supposed to have any of those things. Lately I'm craving sex horribly bad and I don't know how to keep a lid on it. I know I'm too ugly for sex and it will never happen for me but I really don't know how I can live life without having this at some point. I'm going to go crazy.

[Avacon]

I think a lot of people feel like this (I know I do...). All I can say is (and yes, this sounds cheesy), I'm sure there's someone out there for you. I'm sure you're not "too ugly for sex" (otherwise, think about it, how would you be alive? Surely if you were too ugly for sex, so would your ancestors, and so you wouldn't have been born...).

It won't actually kill you, and I'm sure you know it, to not have sex (though it may feel like you need it...), and despite what people say, I'm sure lots of your friends haven't, so you're not alone.

Yeah. That's probably the main thing. You're not alone in being a virgin, and I really don't think you'll be a virgin for the rest of your life (statistically, it's really, really improbably, just saying...).

[dreamofdante]

I think a lot of people feel like this (I know I do...). All I can say is (and yes, this sounds cheesy), I'm sure there's someone out there for you. I'm sure you're not "too ugly for sex" (otherwise, think about it, how would you be alive? Surely if you were too ugly for sex, so would your ancestors, and so you wouldn't have been born...).

It won't actually kill you, and I'm sure you know it, to not have sex (though it may feel like you need it...), and despite what people say, I'm sure lots of your friends haven't, so you're not alone.

Yeah. That's probably the main thing. You're not alone in being a virgin, and I really don't think you'll be a virgin for the rest of your life (statistically, it's really, really improbably, just saying...).

Everyone single one of my mates has lost it. Just found out about the last one recently. I'm the last one who has never been with a woman in any shape or form. And maybe I'm just a freak accident. My parents are both attractive but I'm really not at all. There's statistics but...I'm not completely irrational in being worried.

[Willweston]

You will have sex every one does eventually , I've only kissed girls and usually at parties after I've had a couple :3

[dreamofdante]

You will have sex every one does eventually , I've only kissed girls and usually at parties after I've had a couple :3

You look above average with looks so I can see as why you can do that. I'm the ugliest person I've ever come across. Even if you've had a few to drink, it's still something, man.

[Willweston]

Bro I'm not very clever and have a very low self esteam ,I'm sure you regardless of your looks you will achieve more than I will in your life and get more "action" as I'm really not that confident and require a drink to get me going but thanks for the compliment :)

[Avacon]

Everyone single one of my mates has lost it. Just found out about the last one recently. I'm the last one who has never been with a woman in any shape or form. And maybe I'm just a freak accident. My parents are both attractive but I'm really not at all. There's statistics but...I'm not completely irrational in being worried.

Like I said, people lie. Okay, it may be true that your friends have all lost it, but there will definitely be people you know who haven't, who are a similar age to you.

You know, you're probably being most harsh on yourself, because you probably don't see your positives. I'm pretty sure I do the same, but the problem is knowing what you're being overly negative about, or overly positive about.

Even if you are ugly (which is doubtful, as beauty is subjective...), you will have some positive qualities that other people don't. Also, if you're confident, it's been shown that people consider you more attractive (being serious here...).

Seriously. You're not alone in being a virgin, and you will have positive qualities. I am fully confident in that. I can say that because I'm a virgin, and I'm sure I have almost no positive qualities, but some people say I do.

Of course, they're lying, but they still feel the need to say positive things, so that means there must be something that I'm not doing wrong. =P

All I can say is the same for you - you've mentioned friends, so you're not a loner. Sure, you may not have had a girlfriend, but that could be due to just not being confident or something, or that they think you're not into them (because you might actually be hot or something).

Try to think positively. There will be good things about you.

[dreamofdante]

Bro I'm not very clever and have a very low self esteam ,I'm sure you regardless of your looks you will achieve more than I will in your life and get more "action" as I'm really not that confident and require a drink to get me going but thanks for the compliment :)

You're welcome man but my self esteem is none existent. It died off years ago and I'm only confident sometimes. Not very much but sometimes. You've already gotten more action than I have and you're well on the way for more. Trust me, you'll be way more better than I will, mate.

[dreamofdante]

Like I said, people lie. Okay, it may be true that your friends have all lost it, but there will definitely be people you know who haven't, who are a similar age to you.

You know, you're probably being most harsh on yourself, because you probably don't see your positives. I'm pretty sure I do the same, but the problem is knowing what you're being overly negative about, or overly positive about.

Even if you are ugly (which is doubtful, as beauty is subjective...), you will have some positive qualities that other people don't. Also, if you're confident, it's been shown that people consider you more attractive (being serious here...).

Seriously. You're not alone in being a virgin, and you will have positive qualities. I am fully confident in that. I can say that because I'm a virgin, and I'm sure I have almost no positive qualities, but some people say I do.

Of course, they're lying, but they still feel the need to say positive things, so that means there must be something that I'm not doing wrong. =P

All I can say is the same for you - you've mentioned friends, so you're not a loner. Sure, you may not have had a girlfriend, but that could be due to just not being confident or something, or that they think you're not into them (because you might actually be hot or something).

Try to think positively. There will be good things about you.

I have a picture on my profile and you can judge for yourself but I can't really see the positives in myself because I feel that they don't exist. And the reason I haven't gotten a girlfriend is because they're not attracted to me or they only consider me to be a friend. I'm telling you the truth. That's what it amounts to.

[Willweston]

You'd be surprised man I don't even know if I'm straight or not and we're I live if your bi or gay you get disowned by you friends and family , but thanks again for the compliment ;)

[dreamofdante]

You'd be surprised man I don't even know if I'm straight or not and we're I live if your bi or gay you get disowned by you friends and family , but thanks again for the compliment ;)

Sorry to hear that. That's bullshit. I've been slightly bisexual but I lean far toward women. I'm more on the experimental side with men only.

[Willweston]

Aldo bro your not even ugly in the slightest ! :)

[dreamofdante]

Aldo bro your not even ugly in the slightest ! :)

Well thanks, man...I don't see it but thanks...

[fordgtguy]

As much as i enjoy talking to you every thread you start is the same and youre just going to hear the same things. keep your head up sex isen't everyting.

[dreamofdante]

As much as i enjoy talking to you every thread you start is the same and youre just going to hear the same things. keep your head up sex isen't everyting.

Nothing is changing for me. Maybe that's why I keep saying this. Yet again, I was rejected the other fucking night.

[AlexOnToast]

As I am now reaching the age of 18 in roughly five days, I have to think to myself how I've never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, and most certainly never had sex with one. Being as they're all natural parts of life, I'm starting to think that I'm just tainted and I'm not supposed to have any of those things. Lately I'm craving sex horribly bad and I don't know how to keep a lid on it. I know I'm too ugly for sex and it will never happen for me but I really don't know how I can live life without having this at some point. I'm going to go crazy.

I'd be willing to bet that you will have sex sooner rather that later...also...Prostitutes? Lol Jk

[dreamofdante]

I'd be willing to bet that you will have sex sooner rather that later...also...Prostitutes? Lol Jk

Why do you say sooner rather than later? And no...definitely not prostitutes. That's just a bad idea all around.

[fordgtguy]

youre not fucking ugly though bro get over it when its time it will come

[dreamofdante]

youre not fucking ugly though bro get over it when its time it will come

Get over? I'm rejected by every single girl I ask out.

[lijrobert]

I know how you feel. Some days I feel like I'll just explode if I don't (pardon my language) have sex with someone right then. I figure that eventually I'll find the person I'll break my first bread with (if you know what I mean :P), till then, it's back to thinking about guys in my class and rubbing one out. Also, I will say I do feel lonely a lot of times like you describe.

[dreamofdante]

I know how you feel. Some days I feel like I'll just explode if I don't (pardon my language) have sex with someone right then. I figure that eventually I'll find the person I'll break my first bread with (if you know what I mean :P), till then, it's back to thinking about guys in my class and rubbing one out. Also, I will say I do feel lonely a lot of times like you describe.

Sorry to hear that, bud.

[fordgtguy]

Get over? I'm rejected by every single girl I ask out.

Who gives a shit bout what girls do there assholes sometimes i could easily get a gf but dont want it too many headaces now :P just leave it and when time comes and its right it will work out

[dreamofdante]

Who gives a shit bout what girls do there assholes sometimes i could easily get a gf but dont want it too many headaces now :P just leave it and when time comes and its right it will work out

Yeah you easily can. I can't. You're not fucking ugly. You don't get it man.

[fordgtguy]

Yeah you easily can. I can't. You're not fucking ugly. You don't get it man.

u saw me im pretty ugly ur not ugly bro at this age girls want so what called "bad boys" now kind loving men and clearly you are more grown up then most people your age so there like fuck that you know

[dreamofdante]

u saw me im pretty ugly ur not ugly bro at this age girls want so what called "bad boys" now kind loving men and clearly you are more grown up then most people your age so there like fuck that you know

No you're not even close to ugly and I can see why girls want you. Besides the fact that I'm ugly, the nice boy thing doesn't help.

[fordgtguy]

No you're not even close to ugly and I can see why girls want you. Besides the fact that I'm ugly, the nice boy thing doesn't help.
I dont know what to say anymore cause whatever i saw youre just like yeah that cant happen, if youre not happy with yourself then change it

[dreamofdante]

I dont know what to say anymore cause whatever i saw youre just like yeah that cant happen, if youre not happy with yourself then change it

Oh I plan on it...I won't worry about it for much longer.

[fordgtguy]

Oh I plan on it...I won't worry about it for much longer.

Just dont kill yourself lol go walk/workout and eat healthy

[dreamofdante]

Bridge jumping is good exercise.

[fordgtguy]

Bridge jumping is good exercise.

if i lived near you i would slap u for saying that dont even get that through your head suicide is for the weak man up and get through it come on dude

[dreamofdante]

if i lived near you i would slap u for saying that dont even get that through your head suicide is for the weak man up and get through it come on dude

I'm pretty fucking weak. That seems obvious by now.

[fordgtguy]

i will honestly kick your ass if that thought runs through your head

[dreamofdante]

i will honestly kick your ass if that thought runs through your head

It has for the past two years. I guess I'm in for two years worth of beatings.

[fordgtguy]

ill wait till you turn 18 to do it cause i dont wanna be charged lol but i know u wont do it youre just saying it

[dreamofdante]

ill wait till you turn 18 to do it cause i dont wanna be charged lol but i know u wont do it youre just saying it

Technically it's still assault but yeah go ahead

[DarkOmega]

Get over? I'm rejected by every single girl I ask out.

I too think the same of myself.but man ur not ugly . I got some great advice from some people here and some friends of mine .just go for it make new friends .and be nice to everybody as long as they are nice to u ,but don't let them step over u . eventually someone will see what and who u r

[dreamofdante]

I too think the same of myself.but man ur not ugly . I got some great advice from some people here and some friends of mine .just go for it make new friends .and be nice to everybody as long as they are nice to u ,but don't let them step over u . eventually someone will see what and who u r

It's unfortunate how many people I don't know I can trust...

[fordgtguy]

SEE every fucking thing we say you have something too counter it with come on dude take the advice and do your thing my dude

[dreamofdante]

SEE every fucking thing we say you have something too counter it with come on dude take the advice and do your thing my dude

Make imaginary friends.

[fordgtguy]

Make imaginary friends.

Im done i gave u some advice take it or leave it

[Fallen_Eagle]

yo jack I'm trying not to be harsh here but is it me or are you basically just posting the same thing over and over again? I tend to do this as well and it's completely normal to be a little incessant about addressing one particularly serious issue that's messing up your life. Now that that's out of the way, let me add my two cents. I didn't use to get much more than a 4 out of 10 from girls but ever since I lost weight and got in shape, girls have actually been showing some interest in me (albeit not in real life but that's only because the girls I know irl think I'm a psycho/sociopath and dislike me by default because I'm a poormun, but I do get matches on dating apps like tinder which actually proves my point since it's a very superficial medium that only shows people what you look like and nothing else). I looked like an urang utang but losing a few pounds sort of turned me into a bit more of a cute orang utang and I suppose growing up helped as well. You're not really ugly so getting in shape could actually help. Seriously, you might even score a 7 if you'd really dedicate yourself to turning things around!

ps: I'm greener than grass

[Lovelife090994]

I am a lot like you. I have never kissed, dated, had sex, none of that. And lately it's odd I'm craving sex and yet I have never had it nor was interested in it. It's not a deep crave but definitely a thought on repeat and replay.

You will find soemone one day. You see, some find all of that stuff early, some later because they may find what comes with it, "love". That's worth the wait wouldn't you say? A bit cheesy but it can be true.

Some people really do not wish for sex or even love much but they may at least want a friend, but even they can find love and at times date.

[dreamofdante]

I am a lot like you. I have never kissed, dated, had sex, none of that. And lately it's odd I'm craving sex and yet I have never had it nor was interested in it. It's not a deep crave but definitely a thought on repeat and replay.

You will find soemone one day. You see, some find all of that stuff early, some later because they may find what comes with it, "love". That's worth the wait wouldn't you say? A bit cheesy but it can be true.

Some people really do not wish for sex or even love much but they may at least want a friend, but even they can find love and at times date.

I'm not sure what you mean exactly.

[dreamofdante]

yo jack I'm trying not to be harsh here but is it me or are you basically just posting the same thing over and over again? I tend to do this as well and it's completely normal to be a little incessant about addressing one particularly serious issue that's messing up your life. Now that that's out of the way, let me add my two cents. I didn't use to get much more than a 4 out of 10 from girls but ever since I lost weight and got in shape, girls have actually been showing some interest in me (albeit not in real life but that's only because the girls I know irl think I'm a psycho/sociopath and dislike me by default because I'm a poormun, but I do get matches on dating apps like tinder which actually proves my point since it's a very superficial medium that only shows people what you look like and nothing else). I looked like an urang utang but losing a few pounds sort of turned me into a bit more of a cute orang utang and I suppose growing up helped as well. You're not really ugly so getting in shape could actually help. Seriously, you might even score a 7 if you'd really dedicate yourself to turning things around!

ps: I'm greener than grass

I've tried eating healthy and things like that but I've been stuck at around the same weight. I think something is wrong with me.

[Lovelife090994]

I'm not sure what you mean exactly.

What I mean that it takes time. What is the deal of whether you dated or kissed or had sex? Many regret it when they are young. You will find someone one day.

[dreamofdante]

What I mean that it takes time. What is the deal of whether you dated or kissed or had sex? Many regret it when they are young. You will find someone one day.

I'm worried that the longer time goes by, the less chance I'll have of it happening for me...

[Lovelife090994]

I'm worried that the longer time goes by, the less chance I'll have of it happening for me...

How do you think I feel? I'm 19, life is short but love knows not age and love can be with friends, family, or romance.

[dreamofdante]

How do you think I feel? I'm 19, life is short but love knows not age and love can be with friends, family, or romance.

I'll be 19 in a year bro...

[Lovelife090994]

I'll be 19 in a year bro...

I think you may be worrying too much. What are you afraid of? Living alone? Being lonely? Not being able to relate to others who've had sex, dated, and or kissed? Sometimes it is better to wait.

[Fallen_Eagle]

I've tried eating healthy and things like that but I've been stuck at around the same weight. I think something is wrong with me.
Clean eating won't get you anywhere! You should try determining your macros with a calorie calculator and start weighing your food and reading nutritional labels. You can pm me if you need a few useful tips/links.

[dreamofdante]

I think you may be worrying too much. What are you afraid of? Living alone? Being lonely? Not being able to relate to others who've had sex, dated, and or kissed? Sometimes it is better to wait.

I already can't relate to people as it is...So yeah I guess I am worried. And not only that I just don't think I'll feel much of anything in the next few years.

[dreamofdante]

Clean eating won't get you anywhere! You should try determining your macros with a calorie calculator and start weighing your food and reading nutritional labels. You can pm me if you need a few useful tips/links.

Alright I might PM you then.

[Lovelife090994]

I already can't relate to people as it is...So yeah I guess I am worried. And not only that I just don't think I'll feel much of anything in the next few years.

I feel like I need the whole story to truly understand. If you want, message me, I will try to help anyway that I can.

[sqishy]

I think a lot of people feel like this (I know I do...). All I can say is (and yes, this sounds cheesy), I'm sure there's someone out there for you. I'm sure you're not "too ugly for sex" (otherwise, think about it, how would you be alive? Surely if you were too ugly for sex, so would your ancestors, and so you wouldn't have been born...).

It won't actually kill you, and I'm sure you know it, to not have sex (though it may feel like you need it...), and despite what people say, I'm sure lots of your friends haven't, so you're not alone.

Yeah. That's probably the main thing. You're not alone in being a virgin, and I really don't think you'll be a virgin for the rest of your life (statistically, it's really, really improbably, just saying...).

Yes, this ^ .
As I have said before, there are many people out there. A life without sex is not a life not worth living, but that is irrelevant anyways. In the worst part of mood drops that I get, I also feel like I am missing out. But I know that I can wait for university, not go for it now. Events in the future will eventually come to the present.

[dreamofdante]

Yes, this ^ .
As I have said before, there are many people out there. A life without sex is not a life not worth living, but that is irrelevant anyways. In the worst part of mood drops that I get, I also feel like I am missing out. But I know that I can wait for university, not go for it now. Events in the future will eventually come to the present.

A life without sex for me is a life pretty well wasted. I mean that would mean I amounted to basically nothing and I wasted however many years. And odds are, I won't be going to a university so there won't be parties or anything I'm going to.

[sqishy]

A life without sex for me is a life pretty well wasted. I mean that would mean I amounted to basically nothing and I wasted however many years. And odds are, I won't be going to a university so there won't be parties or anything I'm going to.

Do not assume your life will be wasted. Why do you think you won't get into university?

[dreamofdante]

Do not assume your life will be wasted. Why do you think you won't get into university?

Look, if I can't be with a woman, have sex, get married, have kids my life is a complete and utter waste to me. I have no desire to live past 30 alone. Living for myself just to make money and get by is a waste of time to me and I'd sooner not be dealing with it anymore. I'm sorry, but that's how I feel. I knew since I was a kid that I wanted my life to be about being with someone I love and being a family man. That's not going to happen.

I have no idea what I'm doing and I'll probably do online schooling. I don't like public schooling.

[sqishy]

Look, if I can't be with a woman, have sex, get married, have kids my life is a complete and utter waste to me. I have no desire to live past 30 alone. Living for myself just to make money and get by is a waste of time to me and I'd sooner not be dealing with it anymore. I'm sorry, but that's how I feel. I knew since I was a kid that I wanted my life to be about being with someone I love and being a family man. That's not going to happen.

I have no idea what I'm doing and I'll probably do online schooling. I don't like public schooling.

If I can't use my perspective to help, I'll use yours 'against' itself. "I have no desire to live past 30 alone." 12 years, that's a very long time, a whole section of life where it can be totally different at the end compared to the start. Anything can happen. :)

[dreamofdante]

If I can't use my perspective to help, I'll use yours 'against' itself. "I have no desire to live past 30 alone." 12 years, that's a very long time, a whole section of life where it can be totally different at the end compared to the start. Anything can happen. :)

I predicted the past 8 years would be pretty lonely and I was right but yeah to be fair you can never truly predict. Hell, I might even be dead in the next five years. Honestly, man I don't know if I can survive my twenties alone. I'm pretty miserable now as it is.

[sqishy]

I predicted the past 8 years would be pretty lonely and I was right but yeah to be fair you can never truly predict. Hell, I might even be dead in the next five years. Honestly, man I don't know if I can survive my twenties alone. I'm pretty miserable now as it is.

You don't have to know. Live every day and see what the tide brings in [metaphor]. I used to try and predict what things would be like in 5 years' time, but I eventually stopped when I realised my logic and thinking was going nowhere. Now I can't even predict what will happen in my life within a month, maybe 50% accuracy a week in the future.
Quoting from a book:
"Life, the universe and everything is a journey from nothing to nothing. Let us embrace the nothing and relish its extravagance". I use that perspective rarely, but it might help for you. Turn any fear/dead of the uncertain future into adrenalin and innocence.

[dreamofdante]

You don't have to know. Live every day and see what the tide brings in [metaphor]. I used to try and predict what things would be like in 5 years' time, but I eventually stopped when I realised my logic and thinking was going nowhere. Now I can't even predict what will happen in my life within a month, maybe 50% accuracy a week in the future.
Quoting from a book:
"Life, the universe and everything is a journey from nothing to nothing. Let us embrace the nothing and relish its extravagance". I use that perspective rarely, but it might help for you. Turn any fear/dead of the uncertain future into adrenalin and innocence.

Not that I would wish my life on anyone but you ought to live in my shoes for just one day. You could see what I mean about predicting everything and how dead inside alone I feel.

[sqishy]

Not that I would wish my life on anyone but you ought to live in my shoes for just one day. You could see what I mean about predicting everything and how dead inside alone I feel.

I can only imagine what your perspective is like, yes. Your point holds. The outside world changes your mind, but your mind can change the outside world. I can't help much, but I can try.

[dreamofdante]

I can only imagine what your perspective is like, yes. Your point holds. The outside world changes your mind, but your mind can change the outside world. I can't help much, but I can try.

I appreciate that you're trying to help me but the way things are now, I'm probably going to die a very very very lonely death.

[mww113]

I didn't do much until I was around 18. I got a handy around 16 but that's about it haha. You've got plenty of time to get out there. :)

(In the meantime though, try investing in a fleshlight? haha.)
(No but really, I have one and I regret nothing.)

[dreamofdante]

I didn't do much until I was around 18. I got a handy around 16 but that's about it haha. You've got plenty of time to get out there. :)

(In the meantime though, try investing in a fleshlight? haha.)
(No but really, I have one and I regret nothing.)

I'm 18 in three days. And I don't have cash for a fleshlight.

[Axw_JD]

as far as fleshlights go there are cheaper alternatives too. I have a super head honcho which is about $12: http://www.amazon.com/Sue-Johanson-Super-Head-Honcho/dp/B00190LIII

As far as feeling lonely goes, would you like to talk? I am lonely myself, and while an online friend might not be much it is something.

[Unsubscribed]

As I am now reaching the age of 18 in roughly five days, I have to think to myself how I've never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, and most certainly never had sex with one. Being as they're all natural parts of life, I'm starting to think that I'm just tainted and I'm not supposed to have any of those things. Lately I'm craving sex horribly bad and I don't know how to keep a lid on it. I know I'm too ugly for sex and it will never happen for me but I really don't know how I can live life without having this at some point. I'm going to go crazy.

I'm with you bro, with a twist though. I've had a gf, never kissed anyone, and don't wanna have sex. You've just gotta realize that the time will come. And really, just to be safe, don't have sex until you're really ready.

[dreamofdante]

I'm with you bro, with a twist though. I've had a gf, never kissed anyone, and don't wanna have sex. You've just gotta realize that the time will come. And really, just to be safe, don't have sex until you're really ready.

I've been ready for a very, very long time, man....