I'm afraid my girlfriend will die?

[outweighfeelings]

my girlfriend and I are both 17. her parents are so cruel and has been always abusing her. they treat her like a slave and they're punishing her with every little thing she do. however she's grown into a pretty decent girl but has a low-self esteem

right now she's in a coma because of an accident. its a long story (and i think it's her parents fault) i don't know what to do, her parents couldn't even care and never visited her in the hospital. the doctor says it is impossible to tell when will she gain her consciousness again. I've never known other people who's in a coma, this is the first time. i don't know how long i will wait

i feel depressed too because of what happened and since i learned about what happened to her i started to spend all my time there in the hospital. i want to be always there for her, I'm the only one who truly cares for her..and i don't know, i just feel so sad that she's just there lying and i can't do anything

I can't tell much about what do i feel to everyone, because my friends and my parents don't like her for me (because of her parents). but i don't care. i love her, she has a low-self esteem because her parents don't appreciate her but she's extremely beautiful, smart and funny. she's very decent and she's not like other girls in school who goes to partying all night, drink and do drugs. she's the most amazing girl I've ever met and she's not like everyone else. i cannot just leave her. we have many plans for us.i can't accept it if she'll be gone. she makes me happy.

i don't know what to do. please help me :(

[KidImage]

You can't do much bro just stay by her side and be strong until she wakes up, be strong for you and for her.

[RavleIncarnate]

Kelly Clarkson, Stronger - what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stand a little taller, doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone. What doesn't kill you makes you a fighter, footsteps even lighter, doesn't mean I'm over 'cause you're gone. Dude, I only have two things to say: I admire your loyalty and will hold you in regard because of this and your devotion.


Stay Strong.

[outweighfeelings]

You can't do much bro just stay by her side and be strong until she wakes up, be strong for you and for her.

Thanks bro, though these times it i honestly almost losing hope she'll wake up

[thatgothgirluknow]

if you think its her parent fault then the best thing you can do for her right now is to call the police that way if she does get better she wont end up back in the same situation and if she doesnt then she will get justice im sorry dude it must be hard but stay strong and never give up hope stay by her side because if she does wake up then she deserves to see you before anything else

[outweighfeelings]

Kelly Clarkson, Stronger - what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stand a little taller, doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone. What doesn't kill you makes you a fighter, footsteps even lighter, doesn't mean I'm over 'cause you're gone. Dude, I only have two things to say: I admire your loyalty and will hold you in regard because of this and your devotion.


Stay Strong.

thanks for the song lyrics. and thanks man. some ppl thinks i'm daft because i still go to her :/ they said that i should start dating other girls instead of waiting for her

[Sanctum]

Well since she is in coma nothing can be done by doctors.
You just need to wait and pray for now.
Visit a church and pray to god if you are a religious person.
And i will do because you said she is decent and not like other girls just thinking to alcohol or going to party or shit.
Stay strong many people have returned from coma.
Dating other girls?
Then thats not love it is lust

[outweighfeelings]

if you think its her parent fault then the best thing you can do for her right now is to call the police that way if she does get better she wont end up back in the same situation and if she doesnt then she will get justice im sorry dude it must be hard but stay strong and never give up hope stay by her side because if she does wake up then she deserves to see you before anything else

The whole neighborhood knows about what's going on their house but they don't interfere because they're afraid of her parents. I actually asked one of the neighbors what had happened and they say my girlfriend's mom pushed her and she fell off the stairs. her head was hit really hard, that's what happened.

i don't know what i'll do if i'll call the cops, my family doesn't want me to get involve with this. so that's why i'm not doing anything at the moment. but when my girlfriend wakes up i'm going to take her away from her parents. that's another problem but i'll just think about it later on.

[Sanctum]

The whole neighborhood knows about what's going on their house but they don't interfere because they're afraid of her parents. I actually asked one of the neighbors what had happened and they say my girlfriend's mom pushed her and she fell off the stairs. her head was hit really hard, that's what happened.

i don't know what i'll do if i'll call the cops, my family doesn't want me to get involve with this. so that's why i'm not doing anything at the moment. but when my girlfriend wakes up i'm going to take her away from her parents. that's another problem but i'll just think about it later on.

It sounds like a god damn story.
I don't think any parents would do tha

[outweighfeelings]

Well scince she is in coma nothing can be done by doctors.
You just need to wait and pray for now.
Visit a church and pray to god if you are a religious person.
And i will do because you said she is decent and not like other girls just thinking to alcohol or going to party or shit.
Stay strong many people have returned from coma.
Dating other girls?
Then thats not love it is lust

I'm not that religious but i prayed for her, and thanks if ever you'll pray for her, i guess that will help a lot. yeah she's decent and different from others, that's why i love her and i won't date other girls. in this society most of the guys my age just date girls for sex. and girls too just go for that kind of guys. it's bullshit. but i really love my girlfriend. she's conservative and we never had sex.

It sounds like a god damn story.
I don't think any parents would do tha

It is. But it happened, before we start going out she already told me about her family backround. she said i wouldn't like her because her parents are horrible. her mom's like partying and getting drunk every night and her father is everything hateful and into drugs too. this is why my parents don't like her for me.

she told me that her mom does something rude or mean when she do something for her, while her dad is equally rude as her mom but seems to be nice in front of other people. i dont have doubts about it because i don't see why she should lie about that. i've seen how rude her mom myself. and i know my girlfriend is sick and tired of them

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[RavleIncarnate]

I'm only thirteen and we ( my girlfiend and I ) will most likely not have sex till we are eighty or later, cuz she is shy and despite my looks and height and stuff, I have very serious self-esteem issues as well as trust. But I trust her, and we are both virgins, and we are still only thirteen, so yeah. The most I've done was being in a Speedo in the pool, and touch her boob by accident
It was an accident don't think of me that way!


Stay Strong.

[Sanctum]

Heard something new from you.
She is a difference.
Stay strong.

[skiman]

If and when she wakes up, ask your parents if she can move in with you so she doesn't get abused. Then, when and if you go off to college, you can live with her, so your parents dont have to pay the bills. I dunno.

[RavleIncarnate]

Whoa! Your devotion is amazing! And it really aounds like she's got the Midas Touch!( It means she is a very nice, honest and good-hearted person. You know, like if I say you have a heart of gold for being so loyal.)


Stay Strong,
The Dragonrider

[outweighfeelings]

Heard something new from you.
She is a difference.
Stay strong.

yeah, thanks man

I'm only thirteen and we ( my girlfiend and I ) will most likely not have sex till we are eighty or later, cuz she is shy and despite my looks and height and stuff, I have very serious self-esteem issues as well as trust. But I trust her, and we are both virgins, and we are still only thirteen, so yeah. The most I've done was being in a Speedo in the pool, and touch her boob by accident
It was an accident don't think of me that way!


Stay Strong.

that's really good to hear that from you. most people i know lost their virginity around 14. so they say i'm kinda old for a first timer sex. lol and that's nice that you respect your girlfriend. well, girls are really admirable especially when you know they respect their selves first. and thanks. i will, i'll stay strong for her

If and when she wakes up, ask your parents if she can move in with you so she doesn't get abused. Then, when and if you go off to college, you can live with her, so your parents dont have to pay the bills. I dunno.

my parents don't really like her but I'll still try that. thanks

Whoa! Your devotion is amazing! And it really aounds like she's got the Midas Touch!( It means she is a very nice, honest and good-hearted person. You know, like if I say you have a heart of gold for being so loyal.)


Stay Strong,
The Dragonrider

yes, thanks. she's really good-hearted. but her parents don't appreciate her. i've seen it myself. one time i helped her clean their house. It was dirty before and we cleaned it so well people actually noticed how good the house looked. Anyway, the after people noticed her mom just started to place everything in the wrong spot, make everything un tidy and stuff and my girlfriend asked her why she did that after all the hardwork we put in, and she said " it wasn't a good job anyway" and i see that it really put her down

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[thatgothgirluknow]

It sounds like a god damn story.
I don't think any parents would do tha

trust me some parents would my grandma pushed me into a closet and got my stomic cut up on hangers and when i said that they had cut me she just said good and i was only 5 at the time she has also chked me before so i have no dout that a parent would do that

[outweighfeelings]

trust me some parents would my grandma pushed me into a closet and got my stomic cut up on hangers and when i said that they had cut me she just said good and i was only 5 at the time she has also chked me before so i have no dout that a parent would do that

whoa why did she do that to you? yeah some parents really do these things, which is so harsh

[RavleIncarnate]

I've heard a lot about fathers raping ther own flesh and blood, which is incest as well. Thanks for the inspiring words, my girlfriend is turning fourteen on december the 30th. I got her a halfheart necklace. She's so hot. All my friends want me to break my hymn with her. But I won't.

Stay Strong,
Sig

[thatgothgirluknow]

whoa why did she do that to you? yeah some parents really do these things, which is so harsh because i couldnt find one of my shirts to wear to some special event

[Meganium]

Dude, I only have two things to say: I admire your loyalty and will hold you in regard because of this and your devotion. Stay Strong.

This.

It's uncommon for absolute loyalty in the world of relationships. I salute for for maintaining it. For now, you can't worry about it, as it is not in your control. Whether she wakes up soon or at all, the only thing you can do is wait, and if you follow a religion, pray.

[RavleIncarnate]

That is one great Meganium.

[scott757]

I would like to know how this ends for you. It really is amazing you are sticking by her so strongly as you are. I hate the fact that, as you say, she is one of the few decent girls, yet she is the one has to live the way she has. Trust me, you must mean the world to her and you are being one great guy by sticking with her. I really do hope for you that she gets out of this, I would hate to see something terrible happen to the decent people in this world... it sucks.

[outweighfeelings]

I would like to know how this ends for you. It really is amazing you are sticking by her so strongly as you are. I hate the fact that, as you say, she is one of the few decent girls, yet she is the one has to live the way she has. Trust me, you must mean the world to her and you are being one great guy by sticking with her. I really do hope for you that she gets out of this, I would hate to see something terrible happen to the decent people in this world... it sucks.

yes it really sucks. it especially sucks that only few of my friends support me. (but its because my friends act like douchebags) so i feel alone being there for her. i feel more sorry. i don't have any idea when she'll wake up, but i try my best to be always there beside her. honestly sometimes i almost lose hope and get tired of waiting. i thought that i can leave her whenever i want. but i can't. i just can't. i love her and she deserves what I'm doing, and you're right. i never cried in my whole life but i cried because i dont understand why it has to happen to her, she's doesn't even do any wrong. there are many bad people who should be in that situation. it's really frustrating. thanks btw

I've heard a lot about fathers raping ther own flesh and blood, which is incest as well. Thanks for the inspiring words, my girlfriend is turning fourteen on december the 30th. I got her a halfheart necklace. She's so hot. All my friends want me to break my hymn with her. But I won't.

Stay Strong,
Sig

yes, and it's crazy. is your girlfriend on your signature?

This.

It's uncommon for absolute loyalty in the world of relationships. I salute for for maintaining it. For now, you can't worry about it, as it is not in your control. Whether she wakes up soon or at all, the only thing you can do is wait, and if you follow a religion, pray.

i can't help but worry, but i'll do that. thank you so much

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[TipoRimvis]

You earned my full respect! You're a true man! If you love her and feel that she will wake up, wait, be with her! I truly hope the best for you!

[outweighfeelings]

You earned my full respect! You're a true man! If you love her and feel that she will wake up, wait, be with her! I truly hope the best for you!

Thank you so much for your appreciation dude. I don't watch any corny love movies but it's i just had to say that loving her is the only force that still keeps me on waiting. I love her so much. Goodluck to you btw. I hope you'll get to do something to that girl you said you liked.

[RavleIncarnate]

My ex-girlfriend is on my signature; yes. If ya wanna know why she- Hakuna Matata; don't worry be happy. I can't believe the way you stick to her side. It is truly amazing. Oh yeah: listen to some motivato music like stronger and skyscraper by kelly clarkson and demi lovato.and if that's you on your avatar, I'm straight but I have to say I love your hairstyle and your eyes are amazing.


Stay Strong
The DragonRider

[outweighfeelings]

My ex-girlfriend is on my signature; yes. If ya wanna know why she- Hakuna Matata; don't worry be happy. I can't believe the way you stick to her side. It is truly amazing. Oh yeah: listen to some motivato music like stronger and skyscraper by kelly clarkson and demi lovato.and if that's you on your avatar, I'm straight but I have to say I love your hairstyle and your eyes are amazing.


Stay Strong
The DragonRider

Hakuna Matata? Her name sounds like japanese, but idk. lol thank you so much. i had a blonde hair but i just dyed it to dark brown. i think my eye color changes a bit too. its weird. btw i know you speak english there in south africa but also do you speak arab there and french?

[WeAreOneRepublic]

This is very touching and I wish her and you all the best.


Now, the way you are feeling seems to be depressed, anxious for upcoming events, and something towards yours(because of their non-acceptance) and her parents(because of the way she was treated by them). I would put this maybe and irritated a bit.

What sort of options do you have for this? What can you do to help your situation?

What are the outcomes of the options found?

Which will you choose to carry out?

And finally, review over what you did, if it didn't work then try another.

(This is basically from a thing called Peer Supporting. Used to help sort out problems between peers which I had to sit through in school). You don't have to reply with all the things filled out but I just set up a little template to help you go through things.
I more did it as a coping thing. I do recommend however if you need someone to talk to, call the Kids Help Line(Australia, 1800 55 1800). Or a similar service where you are. They're trained and are available to talk 24/7. They do similar things to the template above and are great(I have called them once).

Yet again, I hope everything goes well :)

[RavleIncarnate]

Hakuna Matata means Don't Worry, and I do speak a little bit french but not much, and not arabic at all. Also I dumped my girlfriend cuz ahe slept with the whole rugby team. My eyes change color with emotion. Green I'd I'm happy; Blue when I'm sad; Icy blue when I'm depressed and White(I don't know why they turn white) when I get absolutely filled with rage.

Also I'm blonde too, and I am normally depressed or sad because of self-esteem and -confidence issues, and here in South Africa, a lot of girls find blonde and blue-eyed really attractive. So you would be lucky here.

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[outweighfeelings]

This is very touching and I wish her and you all the best.

(This is basically from a thing called Peer Supporting. Used to help sort out problems between peers which I had to sit through in school). You don't have to reply with all the things filled out but I just set up a little template to help you go through things.
I more did it as a coping thing. I do recommend however if you need someone to talk to, call the Kids Help Line(Australia, 1800 55 1800). Or a similar service where you are. They're trained and are available to talk 24/7. They do similar things to the template above and are great(I have called them once).

Yet again, I hope everything goes well :)

Hey, i want to thank you. Your questions are the questions that's been bothering me too. It's all hard for me because no one but just me will take care of this alone. I live in UK, i think they have what they call Childline. But haven't called them yet. Thanks. I hope everything will goes well too :/

Hakuna Matata means Don't Worry, and I do speak a little bit french but not much, and not arabic at all. Also I dumped my girlfriend cuz ahe slept with the whole rugby team. My eyes change color with emotion. Green I'd I'm happy; Blue when I'm sad; Icy blue when I'm depressed and White(I don't know why they turn white) when I get absolutely filled with rage.

Oh i see. My eyes just change over the weather, that sucks that your gf slept with a whole team. and why do you have problems with self-esteem? you're blonde and prolly the girls like you there. maybe i could help since you helped me too by your advices. besides, my gf has simliar issues too.

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[RavleIncarnate]

Yeah, I got over her. She was a dirty (I cut of here out of respect for others) anyway. I don't know, I think it was cuz people always make fun of me cuz I'm smart and they wish they could be, even though I am an attractive guy, self-esteem is a key component for a girlfriend, and that's why I find them so hard. Anyway, you could always start helping me and others with low self-confidence by posting tips on my thread.

Stay Strong,
The Dragonrider.

[newkler]

This story is amazing and touching :3 Very lucky girlfriend! Call Childline! x

[chieko]

DUDEEEEE! I'm sorry :( I didn't know about your situation. You're one of the rare guys in the world. I hope everything will be ok. Sorry I cannot help to address the situation, but my dad had been in a coma too. I sang him song, play guitar and play our favorite music. My dad woke up after 3 months, he told me he heard me. So it will be good if you'll talk to your girlfriend. I'm sure she can hear it. This is so heartbreaking story, I know how it feels like because i've been there. What makes matter worse is how will you cope up after what happens after waiting? Right now I know you're also facing a big problem, because you're all alone. I'm so sorry.. I hope everything will be okay. Just believe and tell her.

[josh900]

the only thing you can do is wait until she wakes up. never listen to what your parents tell you about her because your parents cannot control who you love. she will be happy to see you when she wakes up

[nino51300]

Dude I'm so sorry :( All you need to do is just keep on doing what you are doing right now. I am sure she will come to it sooner or later. Honestly if worst comes to worst she at least beside the person that loves her the most. All you can do is wait at this point. If you ever need to someone to talk to I'm more then willing to help. Best of luck man :)

[outweighfeelings]

Yeah, I got over her. She was a dirty (I cut of here out of respect for others) anyway. I don't know, I think it was cuz people always make fun of me cuz I'm smart and they wish they could be, even though I am an attractive guy, self-esteem is a key component for a girlfriend, and that's why I find them so hard. Anyway, you could always start helping me and others with low self-confidence by posting tips on my thread.

Stay Strong,
The Dragonrider.

Where's your thread bro?

This story is amazing and touching :3 Very lucky girlfriend! Call Childline! x

I am luckier. Thanks

the only thing you can do is wait until she wakes up. never listen to what your parents tell you about her because your parents cannot control who you love. she will be happy to see you when she wakes up

Parent's can't control me, yes. I don't care if even they despise me because of taking care of her.

DUDEEEEE! I'm sorry :( I didn't know about your situation. You're one of the rare guys in the world. I hope everything will be ok. Sorry I cannot help to address the situation, but my dad had been in a coma too. I sang him song, play guitar and play our favorite music. My dad woke up after 3 months, he told me he heard me. So it will be good if you'll talk to your girlfriend. I'm sure she can hear it. This is so heartbreaking story, I know how it feels like because i've been there. What makes matter worse is how will you cope up after what happens after waiting? Right now I know you're also facing a big problem, because you're all alone. I'm so sorry.. I hope everything will be okay. Just believe and tell her.

It's okay. I was just trying to make you feel better with your problem, especially because as you see.. My girlfriend has also a LOW self-esteem. I think you're worse though because you call yourself you're ugly a lot even though it's not true. Thanks so much! When i read this i've started to bring my guitar in the hospital and sing her song i used to sing to her. I also started to talking to her all the time. At the first days i was just standing and so bothered. It's good to know someone who has been through this.

Dude I'm so sorry :( All you need to do is just keep on doing what you are doing right now. I am sure she will come to it sooner or later. Honestly if worst comes to worst she at least beside the person that loves her the most. All you can do is wait at this point. If you ever need to someone to talk to I'm more then willing to help. Best of luck man :)

I cannot bear it if things come to worst. I can only wait, yes. Thanks for your willingness to help, man

[RavleIncarnate]

My thread is called Confidence? Its for everyone who doesn't have it. You can go and view all of a member's threads and post by going to their page, clicking on statistics, and clicking on view all ...

Stay Strong,
The Dragonrider

[Thephantomllama]

I can't believe how strong you're being about this. Whether it's what you think it is or not it will always be so hard to get through this. I honestly don't know what to do if she's got an abusive family (I don't want to be useless but It would be worse give out some bad advice surely), whether you're at school or work or somewhere between the two there'll be people near you who you can their opinion from. Try contacting a long-term friend of this girl and see what they think about the family, because I'm sure the authorities would get involved if the family put her in a coma. Keep in mind however, there could be the parents' side to the story.
Stay strong.

[chieko]

It's okay. I was just trying to make you feel better with your problem, especially because as you see.. My girlfriend has also a LOW self-esteem. I think you're worse though because you call yourself you're ugly a lot even though it's not true. Thanks so much! When i read this i've started to bring my guitar in the hospital and sing her song i used to sing to her. I also started to talking to her all the time. At the first days i was just standing and so bothered. It's good to know someone who has been through this.



Thank you too as well. Everything will be alright, don't worry!

[sqishy]

:'( sorry, I wish I could help but I can't.

We are here to listen at the very least

[newkler]

I actually wonder how is it goin' right now?

[nino51300]

Yeah ^^ any updates man?

[RavleIncarnate]

Hi, how has it been going with your girlfriend? Is she alright so far? If you need a friend to support you, an ear to listen to you, or a shoulder for you to cry on, I am always there for someone as loyal as you. Or anyone, for that matter.

[chieko]

Guys I saw him yesterday in the chatroom and he said her girlfriend is still in a coma and he's also said he's afraid to call the police. That's all, he went offline after that.

[Sanctum]

Calling thepolice already? He should wait until she gets out of there.

[WeAreOneRepublic]

The police really can't do anything while she is in a coma, and he should talk it out with her first. He has his heart in the right place and that is great, but I know he won't jump to things irrationally.

[RavleIncarnate]

Yeah, maybe he shouldn't jump to conclusions so easily, but if she is as cool as he says she is, and her parents treat her and him like PTEROSAUR SHIT, then he should call ChildLine the moment she wakes up. Have you told us what happened that put her in that dreaded/hated state of comatose? Or did I miss it?

Oh yeah, before I forget, you can always give me some of the burden, I'll be a friend when I'm needed to be one, I will lend an ear or give a shoulder if they are needed, so please, never hesitate to PM me, okay?

Stay Strong,
The DragonRider

[nino51300]

Anything new man?

[Cjk_20]

There's really not much you can do. Just be with her every step of the way.

[everlong]

You sound like an awesome boyfriend, you're worried about your girlfriend and try to feel protective. I guess the best thing you could do is be for her mentally. Give her moral support and just hope for the best. Let her know you'll always be there for her, and she will be happier.