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AvatarPotterHead
December 26th, 2013, 02:49 AM
Hello! My name is Luis, i'm new to VT and like others, I too have a problem-ish/thing and its been bothering me for a whole semester(My first semester in high school just ended! :D). Also the title is a rhetorical question....

Friendships.

Yeah i have friends. Good ones too. It's just that, i had friends in middle school and friends in elementary school that are going to my high school, then my friends in cross country....and i mostly hang out with xc friends since i spent more time with them during my first semester and we all have this special bond with each other since we're all in the same sport together. Cross Country. But aside from that, mostly all of them have a best-friend(xc and my 'outside' friends) and what i'm trying to say is that I don't have one. :( Is it okay to be best-friend-less in high school? I used to have one in middle school but he went to a different high school. I think i know i don't have one because none of my friends really messages me or reply's back when i try to talk to them. Yeah its winter break but like still... it's just that i'm so complex and i over think simple things way too much. I'm just really confused about how friendships work and I feel lost. Also, when im hanging out with my xc friends i feel like im pushing away my other friends who arent on my team :confused: :( and i feel like they're thinking "wow i thought he was my friend, all he does is hang out with them.'' Again, i just really don't know anymore and i'm just really confused.

MechaSniper
December 26th, 2013, 03:02 AM
so your wondering what's a best friend?, what happened to my friends or how do you get one?

Living For Love
December 26th, 2013, 05:38 AM
Maybe you just need to manage your free time so that you can hang out with both groups of friends, or at least with the ones you think most deserve your friendship. It's ok if you don't have a best friend in highschool. A best friend is basically someone you trust completely, and trusts you equally, someone you know will be always by your side whenever you need. You just need to cope with living without one, and stick close to people that like you, whether they're your best friends or not.

Were
December 26th, 2013, 09:01 AM
I really understand you man,i am in the same situation of having many friends and hanging out more with some than others and having those feelings of them thinking otherwise but i try to say hi atleast to each of them everyday and don't worry of having a best friend,the right best friend will come at the right time,just don't care and you will find yourself having one.



Am Alvin 17,straight.Feel free to pm,i'll answer anything