This is by far the worst end to a year I've ever had

[dreamofdante]

Multiple people threatening to kill themselves on me, spending Christmas as well as my birthday (New Years Eve) alone and depressed, my life having amounted to nothing for the past 18 years, knowing that I have no future, and then watching all the people kissing in Time Square knowing that I'll never kiss a loved one or have sex some day. Life is fucking great everyone. Have a Merry Fucking Christmas and a Happy Fucking God Awful New Year.

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Multiple people threatening to kill themselves on me, spending Christmas as well as my birthday (New Years Eve) alone and depressed, my life having amounted to nothing for the past 18 years, knowing that I have no future, and then watching all the people kissing in Time Square knowing that I'll never kiss a loved one or have sex some day. Life is fucking great everyone. Have a Merry Fucking Christmas and a Happy Fucking God Awful New Year.

I remember my dad saying 17 was the worst
year of his life - a really dark time.
But he got through it. His life has not been
perfect - has had a lot of difficult situations
like having a developmentally disabled kid as
one thing of many. But he has persevered - you will too.

[dreamofdante]

I remember my dad saying 17 was the worst
year of his life - a really dark time.
But he got through it. His life has not been
perfect - has had a lot of difficult situations
like having a developmentally disabled kid as
one thing of many. But he has persevered - you will too.

God man, I really don't know. Nothing is working out for me at all and I'm not really seeing a light at the end of the tunnel here...

[Katiya]

I know this probably doesn't help you but, I have never understood peoples fascination with sex or kissing and why they put so much weight on getting that in life. I would be very happy never having either experience, ever.
Having sex doesn't make you more or less of a person or better or worse, its just an act of breeding. What's the big deal? I wouldn't worry about it. I don't care what other people do or don't do in their private life. Sex isn't like some game or award for doing the most people. Its just an instinct.

Now of course I'm assuming you worry about this from a self esteem perspective and not a physical one. I'm asexual so I can't feel you on this one. But I can say girls don't think its macho or special for a guy to have sex or more sex than another. We couldn't care less, most of us anyway. Actually guys who obsess less over sex are generally who girls like. Really its just other guys that think its so 'awesome to do 20diferent girls' no one else really cares, in fact your likely to get a label as a player for it meaning good luck finding a real relationship if you so chose.

But I am very certain you will find someone special some day! And if you want making out and sex there are plenty of girls out there who would have the same interest. Ya just gota find your person ;) Hope I helped

[dreamofdante]

I know this probably doesn't help you but, I have never understood peoples fascination with sex or kissing and why they put so much weight on getting that in life. I would be very happy never having either experience, ever.
Having sex doesn't make you more or less of a person or better or worse, its just an act of breeding. What's the big deal? I wouldn't worry about it. I don't care what other people do or don't do in their private life. Sex isn't like some game or award for doing the most people. Its just an instinct.

Now of course I'm assuming you worry about this from a self esteem perspective and not a physical one. I'm asexual so I can't feel you on this one. But I can say girls don't think its macho or special for a guy to have sex or more sex than another. We couldn't care less, most of us anyway. Actually guys who obsess less over sex are generally who girls like. Really its just other guys that think its so 'awesome to do 20diferent girls' no one else really cares, in fact your likely to get a label as a player for it meaning good luck finding a real relationship if you so chose.

But I am very certain you will find someone special some day! And if you want making out and sex there are plenty of girls out there who would have the same interest. Ya just gota find your person ;) Hope I helped

Thanks. I guess it's going to be different for someone who is asexual to see it from my perspective but I'm definitely really worried it'll never happen. It's very important to me but thank you.

[Katiya]

Thanks. I guess it's going to be different for someone who is asexual to see it from my perspective but I'm definitely really worried it'll never happen. It's very important to me but thank you.

Haha yes it is! I'm sure its just as hard to see it the other way around lol.

I will say I haven't seen a nice guy yet who hasn't found someone ;) The single guys I know of are all man whores. Lol
You really are in a place of advantage as far as girls go. Pretty much all the girls I know have gone for guys who are just like you, virgin or inexperienced. And they are all normal sexual people. Aces like me are quite rare actually.
I'm positive if you keep trying you will find a girl who wants to have sex with you as much as you do her. Don't be afraid to wait! Chances are the older you both are the better match you will make sense your more mature and then sex will mean a lot more to both of you. ;)
No need to rush or feel pressure. It takes time, most people find more serious relationships in college particularly universities sense there's so many new people to fond a match from.

Best of luck!

[dreamofdante]

Haha yes it is! I'm sure its just as hard to see it the other way around lol.

I will say I haven't seen a nice guy yet who hasn't found someone ;) The single guys I know of are all man whores. Lol
You really are in a place of advantage as far as girls go. Pretty much all the girls I know have gone for guys who are just like you, virgin or inexperienced. And they are all normal sexual people. Aces like me are quite rare actually.
I'm positive if you keep trying you will find a girl who wants to have sex with you as much as you do her. Don't be afraid to wait! Chances are the older you both are the better match you will make sense your more mature and then sex will mean a lot more to both of you. ;)
No need to rush or feel pressure. It takes time, most people find more serious relationships in college particularly universities sense there's so many new people to fond a match from.

Best of luck!

Thank you very much. This at least gives me another perspective on how things could be.

[Katiya]

NP! :)

Also, sorry your having such a bad year end. But don't worry, nobody else amounts to anything this early in life either lol. All we can do is school school and more school so kinda hard to do anything else. Nobody expects you to have life all worked out at 18. Were all still figuring out what it is wed like to amount to in our future.
Its always stressful when people around you are depressed or angry. You could try telling them that it hurts you that they say that and you really hope they stay. Or if they are doing it to be nasty, well just say "I'msorry you feel like that, I hope it gets better for you" and leave it. That generally defuses the situation.

[dreamofdante]

NP! :)

Also, sorry your having such a bad year end. But don't worry, nobody else amounts to anything this early in life either lol. All we can do is school school and more school so kinda hard to do anything else. Nobody expects you to have life all worked out at 18. Were all still figuring out what it is wed like to amount to in our future.
Its always stressful when people around you are depressed or angry. You could try telling them that it hurts you that they say that and you really hope they stay. Or if they are doing it to be nasty, well just say "I'msorry you feel like that, I hope it gets better for you" and leave it. That generally defuses the situation.

A lot of people know I'm distressed but they still go behind my back only for me to find out about it later. Going behind my back depresses me even more. It's mainly people who never give me a chance and don't make the effort to get to know me so since I'm just a 'strange' guy, I'm never allowed a chance. Sooooooo many people are like this to me that I'm just sick of it. And definitely the loneliness is getting to me as well. I feel like there's no one out there for me and there's no one I can truly trust.

[Katiya]

A lot of people know I'm distressed but they still go behind my back only for me to find out about it later. Going behind my back depresses me even more. It's mainly people who never give me a chance and don't make the effort to get to know me so since I'm just a 'strange' guy, I'm never allowed a chance. Sooooooo many people are like this to me that I'm just sick of it. And definitely the loneliness is getting to me as well. I feel like there's no one out there for me and there's no one I can truly trust.

I think most of us on here feel that way or have felt that way before. I notice that about people in my area, they just don't try to get to know you. However when I visited a university people were much more outgoing as everyone's new sense all the circles of friends from hs have been broken up. So new ones form and everyone's looking for friends.

You think your not gonna find anyone? Try being less than 1% of the population to chose from as an ace! :P And many many of us still find partners sooner or later, tho some don't want any partner at all. (Aces have relationships like normal people just minus sexual stuff. So basicly you couldn't tell the dif by looking)
My point being if we can find someone ever so rare that's just like us, you can certainly find someone in the 99%. ;) Sometimes you have to move, if you don't find anyone in your home town, try college or a new town. Most peeps move around a lot and meet people on the way.

[dreamofdante]

I think most of us on here feel that way or have felt that way before. I notice that about people in my area, they just don't try to get to know you. However when I visited a university people were much more outgoing as everyone's new sense all the circles of friends from hs have been broken up. So new ones form and everyone's looking for friends.

You think your not gonna find anyone? Try being less than 1% of the population to chose from as an ace! :P And many many of us still find partners sooner or later, tho some don't want any partner at all. (Aces have relationships like normal people just minus sexual stuff. So basicly you couldn't tell the dif by looking)
My point being if we can find someone ever so rare that's just like us, you can certainly find someone in the 99%. ;) Sometimes you have to move, if you don't find anyone in your home town, try college or a new town. Most peeps move around a lot and meet people on the way.

The thing with me is that I don't know whether or no I'll be moving. My career future is probably based around this area since I know people.

[xXoblivionXx]

Multiple people threatening to kill themselves on me, spending Christmas as well as my birthday (New Years Eve) alone and depressed, my life having amounted to nothing for the past 18 years, knowing that I have no future, and then watching all the people kissing in Time Square knowing that I'll never kiss a loved one or have sex some day. Life is fucking great everyone. Have a Merry Fucking Christmas and a Happy Fucking God Awful New Year.

Hun, it's going to be okay, I just saw this post and I want you to know that it's going to be okay and you're not alone, I'm here. <3 PM me ;)

[NeuroTiger]

Certainly life has ups and downs.
I don't really think that your life has been 'a down' for 18 years...honestly.
Dude, be strong and focus on your dreams since "Believe is the key!"
Come on!! You'll do great! :)

[dreamofdante]

Certainly life has ups and downs.
I don't really think that your life has been 'a down' for 18 years...honestly.
Dude, be strong and focus on your dreams since "Believe is the key!"
Come on!! You'll do great! :)

Thank you :D

[Caver]

I certainly don't want you spending your birthday alone in fact, you won't!! We will skype when you wake up! :D Everyone has a future, including you! yes you! you're not ugly like you think you are. Can't wait for our skype moment :))

[Jrxy98]

I can't relate to all of that but I can relate to being depressed at the end of the year and the beginning My dad died 12/12/11 and his birthday is in January so I usually get really depressed and I usually don't see light in the world but I get through it so can you