Sexually Confused

[Marius44]

Hey guys,

I'm writing here because I don't know what sexuality I am and I thought this would be one of the best places to ask without getting embarrassed.

I'm 17 now and have tried to date a few girls over the years without much success. Almost every time I'm tempted to ask a girl out on a date, I back out at the last moment. I then lose interest in the girl and move on. This has happened a lot lately and I'm not sure why. These girls are not the most attractive but they are genuinely nice to talk to and most of the time I'm attracted to them, to varying degrees, both physically and emotionally.

For the past few months, I've also had a crush on a boy who I find is attractive. I've never wanted to ask him out but every time I see him, I get a warm fuzzy feeling. I'm not sure why this is. It has happened with several other boys at school who I find attractive, but it happens most with this one boy.

Ever since I've been attracted to him physically, I've started watching same-sex porn. However, I still watch an equal amount of straight porn. I get turned on by both kinds.

So, I'm stuck with a dilemma. I'm not sure what sexuality I am because of the above factors. Can anyone help me with this?

Marius

[Thanatos]

I've been in your situation before man. It's really hard to tell at times with the guys whether it's real attraction or just a "I like this dude, he's pretty cool" type thing. I've figured out that I'm bisexual and definitely have an equal attraction to both genders. For yourself, I can't really tell you. My advice would be to just not worry so much about labelling yourself so much. Go out, date girls, date guys, give whatever you want a try and when you find the right person, whichever gender that is, stick with them.

[TapDancer]

Remember that you are young, you don't need to be labelling yourself so quickly. Only you will know deep down what you feel, and whatever that may be, is okay. Just follow what you feel deep down, and all will be well for you.

[Living For Love]

Watching same sex porn definitely doesn't make you gay, and the crush you have on that boy may be just that: a crush that will eventually fade away. I understand the need you have to label yourself, but don't let that guide your emotions. It may not be right if you think you're straight and because of that you will only date girls. I've once read a quote somewhere that stated: "Don't fall in love with genders, fall in love with people." If being around a certain girl or boy makes you happy, don't let your sexuality forbidden you to do so. Just follow your feelings and you will be fine.

[ksdnfkfr]

Probably you are somewhere in the murky middle.
I bet most ppl are but pretend they are not.

[Forsakenbymyself]

Only time will tell. Remember that people's sexuality changes from time to time.