Need advice on how to handle this situation

[Inopotamo]

I made a thread a few months back about me liking this woman i work with. Well, i still like her, and i kinda need to know what to do about it.

Since i started working, we have become fairly close. We text each other a lot, and speak to each other more than we speak to anyone else at work. She tells me things she wouldn't tell anyone else there, and vice versa. I liked her pretty much when we first met, and i just decided to try and be friends and hope that this would go away, but it hasn't. I know i like her (and other people have made rumors about me liking her too, so i must be fairly obvious), but i am unsure whether she likes me back in that way. But i am looking out for signs to tell me where she stands, and i have noticed...

- She often times looks in my direction and when i look back she looks away (same with me)
- When i get to work her face and mood really lights up (same with me)
- She has looked out for me, and sticks up for me in every situation (i do the same)
- She uses her power has a supervisor to make it as easy for me as possible (like getting others to do jobs instead of me)
- Conversely, anytime she needs help she always comes to me despite the fact there are people who will be of more help around (I do the same)
- She will use any excuse to touch me (and i do the same)
- She will buy me stuff like food and drinks (i do the same)

Now there is one big issue. I am 17 and she is 32, which is a huge age gap. The age gap will almost certainly rule out any chance of a proper relationship between us, and i know and accept that. But recently i have contemplated telling her exactly how i feel, and where i stand because she deserves to know, and i deserve to know where she stands. But i am also worried that it could end our friendship.

So where do i go with this?

[Living For Love]

I don't think your friendship will end if you tell her how you feel, she might feel the same, it happens, and you're just telling her what you think about her, nothing more. And I agree with you: the age gap between you two is too huge so that you can have a proper relationhsip with her.

[Inopotamo]

It's a real shame about the age gap really because i think we would suit each other a lot

If only she was 5-10 years younger. I would have probs confessed to her by now if she was, because there would be a chance of a relationship working. But 15 years is way too much for a relationship, so i don't really want us to get together because of that.

I do however want us to get closer without having a relationship, and i am still torn on whether to tell her this or not.

It's a tricky situation for sure

I really need help with this though. I have nobody to go to for advice in person, because of how awkward the situation is.

I also work in the same place as my mum, which means my mum and this woman know each other

[Inopotamo]

I told her how i feel, and she thought it was kinda cute judging by her reaction. She feels that the age gap is a bit too much, and she wants to stay friends.

I am happy with that

[Living For Love]

I told her how i feel, and she thought it was kinda cute judging by her reaction. She feels that the age gap is a bit too much, and she wants to stay friends.

I am happy with that

Cool! Glad everything worked out for you. ;)

[Inopotamo]

Thanks

It was the most nerve wrecking thing i have ever done. I am a really laid back guy and hardly anything gets me nervous or worried, but that almost gave me a heart attack. I was stood staring at the contact on my phone for ages, wondering if i should, then i just thought, 'screw it, i'll ring' so i rang her and asked her to meet me so i could speak to her. I got her worried then cause she thought something was wrong, but when i told her she seemed relieved and took it the best i could ask for all things considered.

I am still going to try and see if i could take her out sometime though :p

[Berad]

Go for it. You'll never know until you try. As long as you come off sincere - and if she doesn't feel the same way, keep it professional and say you understand. Since you do work together and have to plan for the worst case scenario.

(edit) Oh, read the above comments. Turned out you already told her. Good job.

[Living For Love]

Thanks

It was the most nerve wrecking thing i have ever done. I am a really laid back guy and hardly anything gets me nervous or worried, but that almost gave me a heart attack. I was stood staring at the contact on my phone for ages, wondering if i should, then i just thought, 'screw it, i'll ring' so i rang her and asked her to meet me so i could speak to her. I got her worried then cause she thought something was wrong, but when i told her she seemed relieved and took it the best i could ask for all things considered.

I am still going to try and see if i could take her out sometime though :p

Well, you really hit it off with her, didn't you? You can keep hanging out with her, there's no problem with that. It's cool that you can actually be good friends with her, considering the age difference.