just your opion is it ok for others to ask questins

[thatgothgirluknow]

so this is just something i was wondering in your opion is it ok for others to ask about your cuts or scars if they see them,would you rather that than they asume things and would you be uncomfortble explaining why you do it or would you apreciate them asking

[Captain Canada]

It depends how close you are with the person. I personally feel scared to talk about it even to my friends who are open to me. I dont have visible scars on my arms so no one asks... But I would rather people ask me then assume things (Cough cough totally not gonna make up a lie... hehehe)

[MisterNobody]

I don't know, I feel like it's rude to pry into someone's private life and ask invasive questions like that. Obviously if you see cuts or burns on someone, there's a good chance they self-harm. And clearly there's a reason they don't talk about it. So in my opinion, unless they open up to you on their own, your only job is to respect their privacy and avoid making them feel more shitty about themselves. If someone started asking me questions (although they really wouldn't unless they somehow saw my upper arm), I'd honestly panic and just lie to their face. I wouldn't appreciate it at all; in fact, I go out of my way to make sure people aren't looking THAT closely at me on a daily basis. I don't feel comfortable opening up to anyone about things like that anyway. So no, it's not cool to ask questions. I mean, I get that people care and all, but most people aren't trustworthy, they're just curious. You can't rely on curious people. You're best bet is to keep it to yourself, and only tell people you can genuinely trust. Aside from that, let people assume what they want to. You can't escape being judged; judgment is in our nature, unfortunately.

[Harley Quinn]

I don't mind if people ask me questions, I rather that than just being stared at. I'm not uncomfortable with how my body looks any more. I have no issues explaining why I did do it or why I still do, especially now knowing why I did do it fully. It's different now that I'm not ashamed of it. A few years ago, I'd avoid all talk about it no matter what.

[Katiya]

I'd rather be asked less its a rude remark. Then keep it to your self

[Christine45]

Your idea is outstanding the issue is one thing that not enough persons are speaking intelligently about. I am very completely satisfied that.

[Joanna88]

I’ve been researching this topic for a few hours and found this post pretty helpful. Thanks for compiling the info in one spot.

[Josef_]

Probably not.

[thatgothgirluknow]

well since so many of you answered i guess i will to id rather they ask than assumed anything but i still think i wuold be uncomfortble explaning it to then and most likely would just make up a lie i think its rude to ask but id also be glad they would ask insted of assumeing things and spreading rummors

[Jalinta]

I don't think I'd mind people I'm close to asking me about it now, as long as they chose an appropriate place etc. One of my best friends did ask me once and it caught me pretty unawares because I thought I'd hidden it pretty well, so I kind of freaked out, denied it and told a it of a fib. But after that experience I thought things through, and I think I would rather have people ask me about it than make assumptions, even if I'm not entirely sure about my reasoning for it myself.

[Desuetude]

My close friends? Sure I've already told them so I would see no need to hide it or make it a taboo subject since one of my other friends also stuggles with self harm. I'd rather they ask me openly about it if they had a question rather than be uncomfortable about the topic.

Anyone else. Definitely fucking not. A couple people I've sat next to in class has seen my burn scar when my sleeve has come up a little as it's right there on the top and they've asked and I just roll my sleeve down and say nothing. I know it's a stupid reaction but when you're hearts in your throat wondering whether they're going to find out you don't really think logically. Yeah I just don't really talk about it to anyone I don't trust.

I already get boys in my year telling me I 'cut myself every night' shit like that and they don't even have a clue. I don't need them finding out it's actually true cause I can guarantee the bullying would get 10x worse.

[These.scars.are.me.]

I would much rather them ask than be insensitive and talk behind my back, but I am happy to discuss explain or chat about my scars, just not to my mum or dad

[DarknessUnicorn]

I kind of have mixed feelings, because when people (not close friends) do ask, I find it kind of rude but usually I have a pretty good excuse, but also, I hate the thought of people just assuming things. I don't know >.<