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[Loca]

I dont know my biological father. I have a step father but it doesnt feel the same. I want to contact my dad. Apparently he is african. I want to ask him a million questions. Jpw do i ask my mom to tell me. Im scared tht he raped her. Is anyone else in the same boat as me?

[Harley Quinn]

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[taeyo]

I'd just go ahead and ask. No, don't just ask if he raped her, but ask about him. Tell her how you're feeling. This should only be a conversation between the two of you, and if she's uncomfortable talking about it, then I wouldn't push it.

[Living For Love]

You should ask your mother just to tell you some things about your father first (name, age, photos of him, that kind of sutff). Don't be afraid because you have the right to know your biological father, every child has the right to know who their true parents are. Tell her that you would like to meet him somehow, but if that's not entirely possible, ask her what happened when you were born or something. Just don't ask everything at once, your mum knows that sooner or later you would start to ask this questions, so even though she might be prepared for them, try not to seem too desperate or intrusive so that you won't worry her too much.

[Were]

i guess your dad didn't rape your mom,some men just leave their families;i don't know why but my dad too has not been contacting us for four years but i know him and i think you don't need to ask your mom,i guess she knows the right time to tell you about your dad

[Carson99]

Meeting a bio is not always a good idea, and insisting on it before you are 18 may be a mistake, hurtful for everyone. Your mother should have planned on how to deal with questions. But she also invariably carries the ultimate shame for choosing the wrong man, so consider her feelings. In my opinion, little can be gained from insisting on exact details while you are still young. Don't hurt her thinking it will solve your problems. She will tell you when she wants to. Let her know you want to know when she is ready.

[SheriK]

Hi,

I can totally relate to how you're feeling. I've never met my bio dad either. I get that it's really hard not knowing. When I started to ask my mom questions, I started really small and really slow. Over the years I've learned a lot of about him, and I feel a lot better about not knowing him. It's a process, for both you and your mom. Chances are if she hasn't explained things to you yet there's a chance there are things she isn't comfortable telling you. Still the best thing to do is to just put it out there that you want to know more. You won't learn anything by staying silent. Just remember to respect your mom's privacy, you have to accept that there may be some parts of the story you just might never know.
Hope that helps.

[NeuroTiger]

You have the right to know the truth.
Calmly ask your mum those details.

[EmmaJane]

You have the right to know the truth.
Calmly ask your mum those details.
Yeah that's right if I was in that position I'd be curious and ask to know the truth. They should calmly ask their mum about it but only if they are comfortable doing so.