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Layla7
December 22nd, 2013, 04:34 AM
Now, this sounds like a typical younger sister thing to say, I know, but I swear it's true. (Note, this is kind of a long story, but it's all necessary, also I'm 17 and my sister is almost 19) Today (and this is but one of many examples of when she's been more than I can handle), we're sitting at the dinner table after dinner. I've just sat down with my cup of tea, and we're looking at ideas for Christmas baking we can do, everything's fine. I make this popping noise with my mouth, just a couple of times. I don't really have a good reason for it, I just do. I'm bored, I guess.
To anybody else, it wouldn't be a big deal, but my sister all but tells me to shut up, as she often does if I'm doing anything to annoy her (singing, making noise, etc.). If she'd asked me nicely, I would have stopped but since she's so rude, I keep doing it. This is where she usually punches me, and this time was no exception. She hits me in the shoulder. Hard. I tell her not to hit me, it's not ok, etc.
Normally, this is when she usually stops, usually because my parents are there and they make her stop, but this time she keeps hitting me. I hit her back, lightly, across the chest. I must have clipped her chin as I did, because all of a sudden she's going off about how I hit her in the face and b*tching about what a terrible person I am, all the while still hitting me.
I get up. I don't want to stay there, so I start to walk away. She follows me, bumping and spilling my tea as she does. I'm in the living room now and she's coming after me, grabbing at me and hitting me. I'm telling her to stop, and she won't. I hit her again., this time in the stomach, which she's left exposed. I hit a little harder this time, though still not that hard.
She's flipping out now. My mom's coming in and she's going to my her about how I hit her in the face and in the stomach and how terrible I am, etc. Meanwhile I go back to the dining table and sit down to drink what's left of my tea. Once my sister has realised that my mom is not listening to her story, my sister shifts her attention back to me.
Now, this is where it starts to get weird, not that it wasn't strange before. I sit and start drinking my tea, and my sister comes and just stands next to my chair. Staring at me. Every once in a while she pulls out her phone, but mostly she's just looking at me. I don't look at her. I only know she's there because I can see her out of the corner of my eye and in the reflection in the window.
After a while, I get up and go into the kitchen. She follows me. Still watching me. I'm feeling pretty uncomfortable now so I go and sit down with my dog, my back to my sister. She's still in the kitchen and I can see her reflection in my phone. She's still watching me from where she's standing.
Eventually I get up and go into the living room where my mom is sitting and about to watch some TV. My sister follows me, still staring at me. I ask her to stop staring at me. She doesn't answer. My mom asks her why she's staring at me. She answers saying that I hit her and she won't stop until I apologise to her (I mean really, does she not realise what a hypocrite she is???)
Now, maybe this is the time when I should apologise, but I don't. I tell her that I'm not sorry, that she was hitting me and I only hit her to get her to stop. I won't apologise because I don't feel sorry at all. She says "Fine, this is more fun for me anyways." I really don't see how staring at me creepily is more fun, but ok. I turn and start talking to my mother, who is annoyed with us because of our 'stupid argument'.
Eventually my sister apologises. After a minute I also apologise. She asks why I'm sorry. I ask why she's sorry, since she never said either. She - very snottily - says she's sorry for making me upset. I'm really not that upset, but ok. I say that I'm sorry for hitting her. Oddly enough she doesn't seem to believe that I mean it. I wonder why.
She leaves, still glaring at me, but not following me anymore thankfully. I tell my mom I'm going to walk the dog but I have to go to the bathroom first. On my way to the bathroom I go to walk past my sister who's now just standing in the hall. As soon as she sees me coming she turns and locks herself in the bathroom, glaring at me the entire time.

So, yeah, that's what happened tonight, although that's only tonight. I have way more stories about my sister, but based on that example alone, would you say there's something wrong with her? She's really made me feel unsafe in my own home. I really want to leave because of her, but I don't know how, especially not without hurting my parents' feelings and I'm leaving in the summer anyways to go on an exchange for a year in Croatia. I'd really like to know what other people think because I seriously think there's something wrong with my sister and I don't want to be around her if she's going to treat me like this.

Alexwellace
December 22nd, 2013, 07:28 PM
Violent, yes. Vindictive, yes. Spiteful, Yes. Crazy, No. I'm guessing from your reaction to her behavior, you have never *truly* been on the wrong side of any women apart from you sister, which is a good thing. But women can be extraordinarily cold-hearted and can hold grudges for a famously long time, usually getting revenge long after you believe the problem had blown over. Men like to simply punch problems up, but women, oh women can be much, much worse.

You shouldn't of hit her, full stop. She shouldn't of hit you, but you shouldn't of hit her to. I know it's a sexist notion but i was brought up with men are never allowed to hit women, no matter the circumstance. Not because women are weaker or they can't take it, but because it will ALWAYS look bad on the male even if the women was deserving. On a solution, well it's obviously a long running thing or it wouldn't of got to that, well although it was small and she over reacted, you did provoke her. Best way is that if she asks you to stop 'clicking' you stop clicking. Since you can't hit her, it's easier to simply bend over and take it gently (:D) and let her walk all over you. Chances are since she is 19 you won't spend to much more time with her. Also leaving because of her would be selfish in my opinion, because you would be leaving your parents who played no part in it.

It's true what they say, ''Hell hath no fury like a women scorned''

RavleIncarnate
December 22nd, 2013, 07:56 PM
I have a sister too. We may have 5 years between us, and although we have the same sibling rivalry all siblings have, we are normally on the same wavelength, and as an added bonus we were born two days apart , me on 8 june and her on 1O, which makes us both the star sign twins! Is that a coincidence? Anyway, I'm with alexwellace on his last sentence. My sister can go berserk if she is in her cycle, but she's never been this freaky. It's almost like she's possessed!?! This is creepy.

Layla7
December 23rd, 2013, 01:29 AM
I know this is creepy. Also, good advice and I probably shouldn't have hit her, no matter what my gender, but I'm a girl. Fair enough that you thought I was a dude, reading back on it, I understand, and I act a lot more like a guy than a girl a lot of the time.
Also, I just talked to my parents, and they said they would try to fix the problem. This would be reassuring if they weren't notoriously bad at fixing any problem our family has. My older brother, who's 22, has been walking all over them since he was my sister's age simply because they tried to fix it and it did absolutely nothing.
Thanks for the advice guys. My only consolation now seems to be the fact that I'm leaving in a few months to live in Croatia for a year. Trust me, I'm counting down the days.

chieko
December 28th, 2013, 09:16 PM
I totally can relate to you. I'm 17 and my sister is 19. I even got worst experiences with my sister. Message me

ArtemisLianCrock
December 30th, 2013, 11:19 AM
I know what you're going through. I have an older brother who used to beat me up all the time. Don't become spiteful or take it out on others like I did. I now get paid to fight boys older than myself, and it's no joke. Don't let someone hateful ruin the beautiful person you can be.