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ATOMICskittles
December 22nd, 2013, 02:32 AM
Okay guys, first off I do not self harm. Just to make that clear. :)
The real serious issue here is my friend, she is 13 and has a self-harming issue or even addiction you can say. My friend has some issues with like social anxiety and stuff. A year ago, she told me that she self-harms and it was for reasons, I immediately told her that I was there for her and she should always strive to never cut. However, over the past year, it has gotten much worse in my opinion. She does it more frequent and she has been telling me, finally four months ago I told her that she shouldn't, that there was no benefit from it, and it makes no sense to me. She said she would try not to, but now it has truly become an addiction and she is the addict. It gets really bad and I tell her to get professional help and she says no, I'll pull it together. She does for a couple weeks and then she starts again, it's like a cycle almost. I always tell her to get help because when I tell her how much she matters to me it doesn't work. She doesn't want to get help at all, she doesn't want her dad to know. Right know, I have no idea how to help her, so does anybody out there know any advice. Thank you so much to anybody that replies.

Captain Canada
December 22nd, 2013, 10:15 AM
You did a good thing telling her that your there for her. However if she cant control herself, you should really try to get professional help, it doesnt matter if her dad knows because she needs to stop. Its extremely hard to stop self harming especially at a young age when it seems like nothing gets better.

ATOMICskittles
December 22nd, 2013, 10:02 PM
You did a good thing telling her that your there for her. However if she cant control herself, you should really try to get professional help, it doesnt matter if her dad knows because she needs to stop. Its extremely hard to stop self harming especially at a young age when it seems like nothing gets better.
I know that's what I said to her, but she won't.
Idk what to do

Etcetera
December 22nd, 2013, 10:04 PM
You need to tell someone. I've been cutting for 5 years and hid it from my parents, but last week I finally told and now, I've been 10 days clean (counting today.) I didn't want my parents to know, but they've been supportive of me. You need to tell someone.

Katiya
December 22nd, 2013, 11:23 PM
I wouldn't tell anyone for her. That could make things much worse. Especially if someone decides to hospitalize her. Mental units are extremely traumatizing. They will forcibly search her and do a full search meaning they search your private areas and this can jepordize virginity. She could also be drugged and mistreated there. Many units are far from the good they claim.

Let alone she may hate you for life.

Its best to keep being there for her. But DO NOT force help on her! It has to be her choice! You can not help a person who doesn't want it. When she decides to tell she is ready for help. She will decide to sooner or later. This situation needs to run its course. Its the best thing as most all cutters eventually come out and change their own lives when they are ready. Just keep asking her to get help but never ever do it for her!