Sigh.

[Quick_Sylver]

Long and the short, my LDR boyfriend and I have an open relationship. This isn't a problem for me.

However, the guy I was recently sorta kinda in a relationship is a less than decent person on further investigation.

My ex, we'll call him J, was dating a girl named D. D turned out to be a cheating piece of shit. She was seeing at least 4 guys while she was dating J. She also had the insecurity to tell me to stay away from J repeatedly because "He's mine now, you can't have him." to which I kinda just go "...Duh? I dumped him..." but anyway, back to the story.

One of the extra guys D was dating has turned out to be the guy I was into. D shows a lot of... less than consensual appreciation for people. Planting kisses on people's cheeks, hugging too long when they're not hugging back, grabbing their hands, etc. So the few times D has hung out with BT(The guy I was into) that I noticed I wasn't surprised. However, BT and I had a sexual relationship, so I asked him point blank if he'd done anything with her. He'd said no, lalala wouldnt happen, blah blah fuckity blah.

Yesterday I found out from three separate people that he wanted to end things with me, because he'd been fucking around with D. If I'd heard this from him, I wouldn't have even really reacted, just kinda been like "Okies." But the fact of the matter is - he's been messing around with her, while messing with me. I don't know if she's clean, if she has any STDs, who knows what. So now my body is at risk, in part because he's an idiot who doesn't seem to understand that sexual actions with one person can transfer to another person. In part because I was an idiot and trusted him.

I've yet to confront him about this, as he was walking onto his bus at the end of the day. And right now, I don't even know if I want to. Frankly? I'm upset he didn't have the guts to tell me, and that he was a really big coward by not telling me. So I'm tempted to put a canvas I poured my aggression into when I found out on his locker. Quite a few people who know the situation locally think it's a good idea. Dunno though. Any of you guys have any ideas/advice? He and I weren't exclusive, but if you've got a friends with benefits thing - be open about sexual history.

[Blood]

BT lied to you and basically used you. No matter which way you look at it that's fucking wrong.

If I were you in this situation I would either A. confront BT personally (and probably I'm private) and tell him what a complete fucking loser he is and that you've completely lost any respect you had for him. And that if you turn up with any STDs you'll know you got them from him, or B. try to forget the whole situation and move on.

I definitely wouldn't put the canvas on his locker, though. It'll cause a scene and let him know how mad at him you are. I don't like drama, but that's just me. And definitely try to stay away from that whore D.

Either way, I hope everything works out for you. Don't blame yourself for getting in a relationship with him. We all make mistakes, the only thing you can do is learn your lesson and move on.

[Quick_Sylver]

BT lied to you and basically used you. No matter which way you look at it that's fucking wrong.

If I were you in this situation I would either A. confront BT personally (and probably I'm private) and tell him what a complete fucking loser he is and that you've completely lost any respect you had for him. And that if you turn up with any STDs you'll know you got them from him, or B. try to forget the whole situation and move on.

I definitely wouldn't put the canvas on his locker, though. It'll cause a scene and let him know how mad at him you are. I don't like drama, but that's just me. And definitely try to stay away from that whore D.

Either way, I hope everything works out for you. Don't blame yourself for getting in a relationship with him. We all make mistakes, the only thing you can do is learn your lesson and move on.

It's more likely I'll do B)

Yeah.... I probably wont put the canvas on his locker, I'll stick it on my wall for a reminder. If he tries to get in contact with me now, it'll be interesting to see what he says, because I found out on the 24th, that he now has a girlfriend who isn't D. So now I'm worried this girl in grade 10(she'll be B in this drama filled bullshit) is going to get screwed over by him.

It's... annoying and stupid, and for the most part I've let it go. At the same time, I can never trust him, and he'll never be my friend again, which WILL make things terrible between me and my best friend, as he's her best friend too.

Yay small towns! v.v