Attraction growing...

[Aidoon123]

Hey guys. So, anyway over the last few months there has been so much going through my head about the usual deal that people in this section of the forums usually talk about, sexuality. So, in the last few months I have noticed that my attraction towards girls has steadily weakened whereas my attraction to guys have steadily grown stronger, and this incident is what made me kind of...snap I guess. I was in school, same old same old, when I went up to my friend who was studying and poked him on the shoulder (just as a little joke or whatever) and he said 'Touch me again and I'll hit you' and usual me couldn't resist it and poked him again and he said 'Seriously, F off or I will kill you' and I replied with 'someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning' and he replied with 'Yeah, you're boyfriend'. Those words hit my like a tonne of bricks, literally, I felt my heart sink into my body. So, I ran away, went into a classroom and kind of just had a semi-nervous breakdown. I had always gotten gay jokes, but that one hurt the most, and those words got me thinking, If all my 'friends' go around calling me gay saying 'It's obvious you like guys' and stuff, and I am already on the bi-curious borderline, what if I am gay. Like, I feel myself losing interest in women.... I don't know, but I feel like I am going insane in my head trying to understand it... Could someone just tell me what to do, please. I feel so helpless and alone!

[NikosamA98]

Well, first of all you need to organize your problems. I can see two: a) You're sexually confused (just like millions of teenagers in the world, like me) b) You're afraid of people noticing you're confused

We can't solve the first problem because that's up to you, that's something your head has to solve by itself. I can't tell if you're gay or not unless you tell me.

In the other hand, we can solve the second problem. There are many ways to deal with the fear of people judging and noticing. I was afraid until this year when I semi-got out of the closet. I say semi because I don't label myself since I'm still confused, I just say I like boys. But this is about you, so I (we) need more details about your social environment. How are your friends? Have you talked about this with anyone? How is it that everybody says you're gay? So go ahead!

[Living For Love]

Why did he thought you were gay? You must have done something recently to him that made him said that, although nothing justifies treating you that way. You're sexually confused, that's for sure, but that's also something you need to solve by yourself. I guess you should try to ignore that "friend" of yours, at least for some time, and try to forget a bit what happened. On the other hand, you can also be afraid of being gay, because of all the "disadvantages" it brings (social exclusion, discrimination, etc...), but you need to remember that people should like you the way you are; if they do, fine, if they don't, get other friends, because they clearly don't deserve your friendship.

[Lil.k8]

theres no such thing as gay or straight they are just the ends of the spectrum. everyone lands somewhere in the middle. nothing is wrong with you your just growing and learning who you are be comfortable being neither gay or straight or rather both doesn't matter if they believe that your either as long as they know that calling you gay isn't an insult and doesn't hurt your feelings. and they will slowly get bored of it. they only like harrasing you because they see you react just shrug and be like "eh maby who knows lol"