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TCHX
December 19th, 2013, 06:03 PM
I'm the oldest of 3 siblings. Then comes my sister and finally, my brother. We used to hate each other, but lately we've been in a pretty good relationship.

But a few months ago, I found out something that really ticked me off. I went upstairs to print something for school, and he'd left the computer on and his LoL chats open, and facebook on the background. I'm not the kind of person who likes to read other people's chats and shit, but a sentence in one of his LoL chats caught my eye...

"Hi cutie ^^". At first I was like, heh, whatever, and then I saw the name of the Facebook user on the background... "Daniela _____ (a random last name here)".

My brother was pretending to be a girl online, and he'd made up a really depressing story about being raped, abortion, constant memory loss and... well, you get the idea.

I went downstairs and asked him what the hell was that, and he just brushed it off as a joke his friends and him were pulling to someone. I said alright and left him alone. Whatever. I thought he would stop.

Fast forward a couple of weeks, I went upstairs to print an essay, and once again, he left all of his stuff open, and I saw Daniela on Facebook again... he'd changed the profile picture to one of my sister's pics, and had upgraded his relationship with one of the guys he'd lied to, to "boyfriend and girlfriend". This, I found reaaaaally weird, so I asked him again, and he said "it's nothing".

If I was any other person, I would've told him to stop in that moment and told my parents or something... but I was scared of ruining the relationship that we'd just started having, so I kept it to myself and hoped he would realize what he was doing was wrong.

Around 3 months passed and I didn't check anything related to his fake persona, although I was really worried the whole time... mostly because of his "boyfriend". Like, what would that guy think if his "girlfriend" just vanished because I told my brother to delete the profile? What would he say if he found out he'd been "dating" a guy the whole time?

On the other hand, I was (and still am) wondering what the fuck is wrong with my brother? Why did he make up such a tragic story? Is he really that desperate for attention? Is it MY fault that he's that way? :(

Finally I decided to check if the profile still existed on Facebook... and it did. Not only that, but he'd taken more of my sister's pics and posted them as profile and banner pics.

At this point I just couldn't take the pressure of holding something like that back, and I told my sister he'd be using her pics. She got mad and ran up the stairs, told him to delete the fake profile and that she would tell our parents. He did, but he seemed really calm... then my mom got home, we told her what was going on and she asked my brother to delete his own facebook, and then banned the site from the desktop.

I told my mother the backstory he'd made up for his "character" (because I don't know how my sister would've reacted if she knew all that) and she said my dad and her would talk to my brother once my dad gets home.

The thing is, my brother hasn't stopped... he still talks to his "boyfriend" in LoL (and the guy still talks to him as if he was "Daniela"), and my brother doesn't really seem to care...

Since he doesn't care, should I consider the whole thing as a very bad joke? Or should I be worried and tell my brother to visit a psychologist or something like that?

I'm asking you guys because I think I might be overreacting, so I thought an outsider's look could help.

Blood
December 19th, 2013, 11:04 PM
Your brother stole your sisters identity and used it to pretend to be someone he's not. Is this wrong? Yes. Is it the end of the world? Not at all. Is there anything else you should do about this? I don't think so. You told your parents. Let them handle it. It's really up to them now. What happened is NOT your fault.

Look, I know how hard it can be being the oldest. I'm the oldest of 5 children. You feel responsible for what they do because you're the leader and you're expected to be the example. But you're also just a teenager trying to figure out stuff in life. Try not to blame yourself for their mistakes.

If you want to talk to your brother about what he's doing and why he's doing it, I think you should. But don't go into the conversation ready to blame him and tear him down. Let him know you don't approve of what he's done, and tell him why. Appropriate punishment is up to your parents and how they handle the situation.

Quarter_Master
December 20th, 2013, 03:12 AM
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ksdnfkfr
December 20th, 2013, 06:22 AM
You told your folks - it is in their hands now.
It looks like it did not ruin the relationship you
built up - so maybe you can use it to build it up
even more. Help him out with whatever by being
his bud and try guiding him. Some ppl are just into
elaborate hoaxes. I am like you - I don't get it either.
If I found out my friend or cousin was doing something
like that it would really bother me and I would be concerned.
But like Jess said - it is not the end of the world.

Pulp501
December 26th, 2013, 03:27 PM
I pretended to be a girl On the internet... ANd I have a lot if issues now so....teah

chieko
December 28th, 2013, 11:03 PM
your brother is gay?

AlexOnToast
December 28th, 2013, 11:11 PM
I dont know how to answer this...im gonna leave it to someone else....but I will say that you probably dont need to get involved