Lonley

[Star_boi]

I went to a counsellor 2 gt help but i find it hard talking 2 ppl as im so used 2 being quiet due 2 8 yrs of skool bulys and college trouble aniway i started cuting after bout a month and now im depresed and i feel shit and my friend found out and keeps trying 2 c my arms which makes me worse and i feel as though when im stood wiv my mates i dont fit in and i feel so alone plz post thanx

[thesphinx]

The only way a counselor can help is if you open up to him/her I highly encourage you to do that because it can help a lot.

[JustJuss]

I know from experience that talking to somone can be the hardest thing in the world. But i also know that having someone else know how ur feeling can help u feel not as lonely. If ur like me, u might have to grow to like this counsellor and learn to trust them, so it might take a little while.

Just chip away at it.... u dont have to dive into ur most horrible and dark feelings straight away.... try starting off with something on a smaller scale, like how u felt when u woke up that morning, if ur stressed out tell them about that, tell them u feel shit.

The worst thing u could do though is tell them ur ok.... cos that wont get any of the pain off ur chest and ul probably feel even lonlier.

Its good that ur friend is concerned about u, maybe u could tell them that 'it makes u feel worse when people try to see ur arms'... that way ur not directly attacking them but it still gets the point across that u dont like it.

Fitting in can become VERY hard when u feel so crappy... maybe this friend who has shown they are concerned about u could become someone u can confide in?... only if u trust them and u feel up to it.... but i often find if one person knows how u REALLY feel, u dont feel uve got to pretend to be ok around them... and u then feel more comfortable around them and u fit in with someone, just the way u are.

let us know how ur going
best wishes