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Bananas Are Amazing
December 18th, 2013, 12:04 PM
So.. Little background for you guys. I'm into computer stuff and pretty advanced in it, so usually I'm asked for help in computer, phone etc. problems.
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Today my little brother (12) asked me to look at his laptop and maybe fix one problem. Normal stuff.. He got Skype open and when I adjusted settings of his computer someone sent him a message. I know pretty much all of his friends, but this guy was new to me. I asked him who this guy was, he didn't say anything for a while, and then he said it was someone who he met at aapeli.fi (Finnish gaming site, like miniclip) and he said that they could use Skype to talk while gaming. Well, pretty normal stuff in 2013. Everything was ok. When I checked their conversations, I was pretty shocked. There was very, very sexual centered stuff. Not like "normal" pre-teen stuff;lol penis lol, but very sexual things. I read it more, and this guy wanted my brothers picture. He had sent him a facebook-profilepicture like picture. When I read more, there was messages like, "You look handsome", "Do you have webcam?" and "Can you show me a picture of your abs?". That's when I freaked out. I almost yelled at him and asked who the h*** this guy is. He started crying and told that it's some guy he met online and he was really nice but then started talking like this. I told my brother he did nothing wrong, and nobody is mad at him. Our parents christmas vacation just started and they went to see our relatives and are pretty far away. I called my dad and told him what happened, but he said that they can't really get here right now because of the weather conditions. It might take more than couple of days. Of course they left enough food and money for us so thats not a problem, but I just don't know what to do with my brother. I mean he's the most important person to me, we can talk about everything, and we almost never argue. I'm so glad that this came out now, and not later 'cause things might be very fckd. Just some advice what I could talk about with my brother and what to do.. :cry:
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Inb4 grammar, I'm from Finland. Deal with it.

drmindfreak
December 18th, 2013, 01:32 PM
There isnt much you can do... Block him from skype?

SammieRose
December 18th, 2013, 01:35 PM
Good thing you caught it in time, but also teach your brother to block those ppl once they become obsessed or too sexual towards him. It is not his fault until he starts giving into their requests, which online is easier to say no to than in RL where you are "trapped" in a room or space with the molester. Online you cannot be forced to do something you do not want to. All you have to do is close the freaking application.

Are you the oldest in the house right now? i mean, you two are unsupervised for a couple of days? Here in the US social services will take you away, as the age for unsupervised overnight stay of a kid alone in a house without an adult is 16yrs old and that is only for 1 to 2 nights.

Bananas Are Amazing
December 18th, 2013, 02:07 PM
I forgot to mention that I blocked that guy in my brothers Skype. I'll talk with him about those things and teach how to block and how to recognize people he doesn't want to be dealing with.

Yes, I'm the oldest in the house right now, gladly we don't have that kind of laws here. Dad called me and said they can get home tomorrow. He also said that we could take this up to police, but due our laws police probably can't do anything. I know. The laws suck. Man who raped 14-yo girl got only 2 years inprisonment. 2 years. Srsly wtf.

But yeah.. Hate to say but this isn't the worst thing happened to us, so we'll get through it. I just hope I'll never find out who that quy was, 'cause I can't promise he will get through that day whenever I see him.

Thanks.