View Full Version : My friend looks too innocent
LolWall
December 17th, 2013, 01:17 PM
One of my friends is labelled as cute by many of my classmates (all of which are male, including me and him.) The problem is, he told me that he feels like nobody is really taking him seriously.
I mean, he's actually pretty tall, he's got man shoulders, long legs and some muscle, though he's slender, yet his face is so child-like that you would even not be able to resist pinching his cheeks. And one more thing, he's pretty thin and not chubby at all. He looks way too puppy-cute; even my LITTLE SISTER, who's half his height and half his age, chased him around trying to get a pinch of his cheeks.
Is there one thing I can suggest to him that he can do? He tries to act manly and all, but people still think of him as a cute little innocent kid whom you would treat in a babyish way?
(P.S. Even I think he's childishly cute, but I also wanna help him out)
Living For Love
December 17th, 2013, 01:30 PM
When I was in middle school, some girls would also call me "cute" because I was quite short, thin, had a child-like face as well and had dimples when I smilled. It didn't really bother me, because it wasn't my intention to impress. I think he just needs to cope with it, and I don't think it's a good idea to actually start to act differently only to make people stop calling him cute, it generally won't solve the problem. I don't know his age, but I'm sure his facial features will change during his teenage years. He could say to those people it bothers him a bit when people treat him like a child, perhaps that way they will stop.
WrthPanda
December 17th, 2013, 01:40 PM
To me it sound that he is a really good friend of yours, since his struggles seems to matter for your own well being, which I think describes a very good friend. So I am pretty sure that he would respect and cherish your opinions.
There isn't anything one can do with his genes, maybe he will grow more "manly" after time, or maybe he wouldn't. No one knows, but I do not think that the looks determine and define who you are. There is only one thing that's matter, and that is who you want to be, how you act, behave and treat whom you care for.
I think you should tell him that, tell him that it isn't the looks that matter. If people treat him differently because he looks small, they are just insecure themself; and therefore act that kind of way.
And since he is a so good friend I think you should tell him that you do not mind his childish look, but that you rather think it makes him cute (but for God sakes say it in an couraging way, make it a positive thing, so he feels great about himself). And who knows, maybe later on in his life he would be glad to still have that youthful look.
So be there for him, and help him see the good things about his looks, not the bad.
I am 20 myself, even thought I could easily pass as a 15 or 16 year old, but it never stopped me, because I realize that it isn't the looks which decide my age, but my actions. So good luck with your friend :)
Were
December 19th, 2013, 02:21 AM
i guess their is nothing he can do,he should just bear and with time he will change but if he is so bothered,he will get hurt just like my friend was.
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