I've never had a girlfriend. Why ?

[Sammy07]

Hi,

I'm bored of my life. My friends are uninteresting, I talk to girls but i'm always in the friendzone, I'm not invited at parties. Most of time, people talk to me because they want something. I assure the happiness of others before mine. Nobody is grateful to me, nobody loves me. I don't do anything of my life. And I've never had a girlfriend. Why ????? Am I bad-looking ? Why everybody is in a relationship but not me ? What should I do ?

If I'm saying this there it's because I have nobody to talk to.

Thanks to those who read this...

[Hollywood]

Because you're young, and despite what people may say, not every teenager is in a relationship. I'm in the same boat as you, except I'm two years older. It used to bother me, but then I realized that it's just not worth getting worked up over. It's not like you're getting married tomorrow or anything, just be patient.

The right time will come for you, for both of us. If you're a good person, and it sounds like you are, girls will become more interested in you as they mature. That's typically the way it works. Like I said, the time will come my friend.

[Sammy07]

Thanks for your answer. You're right. It seems like girls, at my age, like bad guys... :(

[Synyster Shadows]

Thanks for your answer. You're right. It seems like girls, at my age, like bad guys... :(

Not all girls like bad guys. I'm a pretty nice guy, if you don't piss me off, and I got a girlfriend. Your time will come, my friend. And as it's been said, you aren't getting married tomorrow. Be patient. You seem decent enough so just be yourself and you'll have a girlfriend eventually.

[Melodic]

Thanks for your answer. You're right. It seems like girls, at my age, like bad guys... :(

Uhhhhh no! I'm a girl and I would never go for a bad guy.. Yes we still exist thank you very much.

Anyways, relationships can't be forced, they come naturally. So honestly, I'd just go on with life and one day that one special person will come along. And this is all from personal experience.

[Sammy07]

Yeah, I know, but I hate the fact that a lot of people around me are in a relationship... It's hard to accept to be alone at 16 ... :/

[ChildishOch]

Hi,

I'm bored of my life. My friends are uninteresting, I talk to girls but i'm always in the friendzone, I'm not invited at parties. Most of time, people talk to me because they want something. I assure the happiness of others before mine. Nobody is grateful to me, nobody loves me. I don't do anything of my life. And I've never had a girlfriend. Why ????? Am I bad-looking ? Why everybody is in a relationship but not me ? What should I do ?

If I'm saying this there it's because I have nobody to talk to.

Thanks to those who read this...

We pretty much share the same story!! I 100% agree with you and feel what you're feeling. It says like girls my age (I'm 17) want the bad guys instead of the nice guys, and it sucks! I respect women and always lend a listening ear, but I continue to get friend zoned, and they don't show any interest in me. I want to win a girl over with me just being me, but it seems like you have to act like a player to get a response. It's so annoying, and I'm still questioning why I don't have a girlfriend. But dude, don't blame yourself! You'll find someone soon. Don't spend so much time tripping on it like I have because it will consume and make you more self-conscious and defeated. We should talk!

[MortimerB]

I've been where you're at, mate - though me outlook on life was perhaps even darker :D I've pretty much been every girl's gay friend at some point. But! I have a lovely girlfriend now, and what worked for me was opening up. I showed everyone who I truly am, and it did wonders. It might very hard if you're stuck in an ugly spot in the social hierarchy but just put your best into it. Also, do go look for new relationsships besides the ones you've already established - might bring new opportunites for both friends and potential lovers. Best of luck, mate!

[Meganium]

Yeah, I know, but I hate the fact that a lot of people around me are in a relationship... It's hard to accept to be alone at 16 ... :/

The hell it is.

Keep in mind that a lot of people around you who are our ages and in relationships are unhappy. They feel rushed and the relationship results in only more discontent. Some are forced, some are just plain bad, and some are abusive to either party.

Relationships at our age are difficult to maintain. Mainly because of school, not enough freedoms or time, and inability to drive. :/

It's not going to be pure bliss to constantly wish for a relationship now and get it. It will only being more stress and depression the more you think about it. Just let time pass, move on and progress through your teenage years as best as you can, and let things come naturally. Which they will. I imagine soon too, as you seem pretty legit.

[Brown13]

Many people are in a relationship, but many of those that are, are also dealing with stress and depression and whatnot. I wouldn't rush a relationship because then you might deal with that too

[ImagineRepublicCity]

It might be a bit annoying for you because I'm slightly in the same boat as you (I always make sure others are happy).
Two things.
1. You can try meeting new people out of school and in clubs, work places, volunteer work.
2. You can wait it out because Karma and good things come to those who wait.
I hope it goes well for you. All the best~

[Mroranh]

This is something I've learnt to do that works really well for making friends, being more popular, and I suppose, getting a girl sooner or later:
Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. I'm not sure what it's like for you, but the funniest, most charming, popular and loveable (platonically) people are the ones who can take a risk and be a bit of a dill. I don't know if they're happy though...

Anyway, it might take a couple of years before you start to see any effects, like new friends and a change in the way people see you.

[inamorata]

not having a girlfriend doesn't make you a lesser person. there are people who loves you, just appreciate what you've got and be half of a full person

[Curious24]

Hi,

I'm bored of my life. My friends are uninteresting, I talk to girls but i'm always in the friendzone, I'm not invited at parties. Most of time, people talk to me because they want something. I assure the happiness of others before mine. Nobody is grateful to me, nobody loves me. I don't do anything of my life. And I've never had a girlfriend. Why ????? Am I bad-looking ? Why everybody is in a relationship but not me ? What should I do ?

If I'm saying this there it's because I have nobody to talk to.

Thanks to those who read this...

This is my life. I tried girls and Guys an nothing. I think one day we will find someone.