What should I do about him?

[austeen2]

Hey guys, Im 15 Gay and have known that I was for a while now.

Well first of all is that although my family are not devoted christians they don't seem to accept the fact of homosexuality and all which is even why I wouldnt dare come out to family let alone any one else.
Although I would have to do it oneday that is not at the top of my priorities.
So I've become really close friends with this guy in my class in the past year. I'm not sure whether hes straight gay or bi (He probably thinks Im straight cos I try to shield that im gay) but I feel that we have seemed to develop a bond that normally wouldnt occur with other straight friends. I always catch him looking at me and we have this rather mezmorizing moment when we look at eachother. He also seems to do things that other straight guys dont seem to do such as bend over on the table and almost rest his head on my hands to see whats on my laptop. He's also tickled me once rather sexually and I'm not sure if he saw my boner. I have no idea how I should approach him. and even if he's straight I would love to have some form of experimentating with him.. thoughs??

[sqishy]

Give subtle hints that you are up to going further with him. If he does not like this, he'll put the subtle hints down to him over-imagining the situation. So it goes wrong in a mild way, or it starts from there.

[austeen2]

Oh, Also forgot to add that in the changing rooms he always seems to get shirtless and in the corner of my eye i seem him looking at mee

[lukene]

Hahaha I'm in the exact, like almost identical, position. In fact when I read this I almost thought you were the guy I like haha

[Gifford]

Wow, dude, it seems clear as a bell to me that he likes you/wants to be physically close with you. Could you have him over for a sleepover? Or at his house? Or make plans to go on a hike together, take a pee and show him your dick. See what he does. Or lie down on a blanket to rest, get next to him, maybe he'll put his head on your hands and your can take a hand and stroke his hair. Or if you're lying next to each other, put one of your legs over his leg. Or give him a massage. When you flip him over and he's hard, put your hand on it.

Or give him a massage with you kneeling at his head, your crotch near his face while you rub his back. Let him see your boner, or make a point to adjust your equipment so he sees it. See what he does. Talk about how horny you are and you wish you had someone here right now to hold you and play with your cock. Get him all worked up. Get him so hard his dick oozes pre all in his underwear. When you're both hard you could suggest you compare.

I think he has romantic feelings for you, and get him alone and I think you'll find someone in him you never knew before.

[austeen2]

Hahaha I'm in the exact, like almost identical, position. In fact when I read this I almost thought you were the guy I like haha

who knows lol

[Body odah Man]

Go slowly. Gl with ur parents-hope they end up supporting ur sexuality if you ever come out to them.

[austeen2]

Wow, dude, it seems clear as a bell to me that he likes you/wants to be physically close with you. Could you have him over for a sleepover? Or at his house? Or make plans to go on a hike together, take a pee and show him your dick. See what he does. Or lie down on a blanket to rest, get next to him, maybe he'll put his head on your hands and your can take a hand and stroke his hair. Or if you're lying next to each other, put one of your legs over his leg. Or give him a massage. When you flip him over and he's hard, put your hand on it.

Or give him a massage with you kneeling at his head, your crotch near his face while you rub his back. Let him see your boner, or make a point to adjust your equipment so he sees it. See what he does. Talk about how horny you are and you with you had someone here right now to hold you and play with your cock. Get him all worked up. Get him so hard his dick oozes pre all in his underwear. When you're both hard you could suggest you compare.

I think he has romantic feelings for you, and get him alone and I think you'll find someone in him you never knew before.


That is true, but the thing is some have told me its just friendship bonding and maybe hes straight... (that would suck) NEither of us have been to eachothers houses and probably wont cos we barely ever talk outside of school (but we talk all the time at school) and its also the holidays. My parents arent a believer in sleepovers and even if that happens there are people at my house all the time.. i'd love to go to his house but its kinda weird inviting yourself to ones house dont you think?

[Gifford]

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Originally Posted by Gifford:
Wow, dude, it seems clear as a bell to me that he likes you/wants to be physically close with you. Could you have him over for a sleepover? Or at his house? Or make plans to go on a hike together, take a pee and show him your dick. See what he does. Or lie down on a blanket to rest, get next to him, maybe he'll put his head on your hands and your can take a hand and stroke his hair. Or if you're lying next to each other, put one of your legs over his leg. Or give him a massage. When you flip him over and he's hard, put your hand on it.

Or give him a massage with you kneeling at his head, your crotch near his face while you rub his back. Let him see your boner, or make a point to adjust your equipment so he sees it. See what he does. Talk about how horny you are and you with you had someone here right now to hold you and play with your cock. Get him all worked up. Get him so hard his dick oozes pre all in his underwear. When you're both hard you could suggest you compare.

I think he has romantic feelings for you, and get him alone and I think you'll find someone in him you never knew before.

That is true, but the thing is some have told me its just friendship bonding and maybe hes straight... (that would suck) NEither of us have been to eachothers houses and probably wont cos we barely ever talk outside of school (but we talk all the time at school) and its also the holidays. My parents arent a believer in sleepovers and even if that happens there are people at my house all the time.. i'd love to go to his house but its kinda weird inviting yourself to ones house dont you think? END QUOTE


Jimmy: Him putting his head on your hands like you described is definitely NOT just bonding, it's way more than that. He has emotional feelings for you. A str8 guy would NEVER do that. The fact that you two talk all the time @ school means you both like each other, and neither of you has attempted to take your friendship outside of school. He's shy and doesn't want to make the first move, and perhaps you're the same way. Suggest you two see a movie together, that's a great ice-breaker. A concert or sports event are others. But as I said before, if a sleep-over isn't possible (why are your parents resistant to that? It's totally normal for teens to do that, unless they have some other reason to suspect something). You could pitch a tent in your back yard, with sleeping bags, have sodas and snacks, iPods, etc. Like camping.

You should definitely make a move. The hiking idea is a great one, take a blanket to lay down on. Bring the conversation around to sex and try to get him horny. I do that with some guys here @ school and it works every time. What do you have to lose? Or, while on the blanket lying on your backs looking up at the sky, or at each other, tell him you feel so lonely sometimes, and besides being horny a lot, you just wish you had someone to just hold you, be your friend, make you feel safe. Ask him if he ever feels that way. He'll probably say he does. Tell him you're glad you two have decided to hang together outside of school and you really like him as a friend. Maybe more. Then ask him if that would bother him. (optional,but a good idea). Watch his body language, listen to his voice to see if his voice trembles. Tell him you really enjoy being this close to him right now, and ask him if he feels like that. I think he'll say he does too. Move your hand close to him and touch his arm or hand and stay still. See what he does. Ask him if it's ok if you hold him, you want to feel the warmth of his body next to yours.

Trust me, this stuff will work, and you're being totally honest in everything you say. I've done stuff like this and it works. You just have to push yourself out of your usual comfort zone to do this. He wants you to do this, I know it!

Don't over-think it, just do it. Very simple. Worst case is if he's not receptive, he's NOT going to tell anyone about it. He wants to be physically close to you or he wouldn't put his head on your hands, that's physical touching in a gay way, no way str8.

[Lil.k8]

You need to get him to a party. all of the girls I've gotten to play with play with me Ive just got drunk with them, and as the night went on I just flirt with them by small touches and giggles. After a bit move away from the crowd a bit, give them a drink, go for a bit of a walk with them, and when ur somewhere isolated sit down and keep scootching towards them. lay on them a little, touch their hands/fingers, rest ur head on there neck and start with little nibbles and kisses

[austeen2]

You need to get him to a party. all of the girls I've gotten to play with play with me Ive just got drunk with them, and as the night went on I just flirt with them by small touches and giggles. After a bit move away from the crowd a bit, give them a drink, go for a bit of a walk with them, and when ur somewhere isolated sit down and keep scootching towards them. lay on them a little, touch their hands/fingers, rest ur head on there neck and start with little nibbles and kisses

Neither of us would go/have a party with alcohol tbh.

[austeen2]

what do you guys think?

[austeen2]

:( What should i do? Its the holidays now and I never talk to him outside of school and I he never starts facebook chats cos he never uses it

[austeen2]

bump

[DepartInSecret]

I am going to be honest and speak from experience. Teens in general will often assume that there is something there when sadly there more than likely is not. I had a crush on a guy who was great to me, he often made physical advances to me like hugging me or snuggling to me or touching me ;). What I did to check if there was anything was come out to the person... Sadly for me he was not into me.
I have read the suggestions on you post and to be honest they look a little to daring. My method if you trust the guy is safe and sure. If he is into you you have given him a huge opportunity to say so. If not, congratulations anyway you have come out to someone.
I hope this helped. :)

[mww113]

:( What should i do? Its the holidays now and I never talk to him outside of school and I he never starts facebook chats cos he never uses it

Take the risk. Start a chat. Opportunity doesn't always come and kick down your door. You have to be active and go and get the things you want in life sometimes!

And as far as if he likes you or not, why not ask? I truly believe that openness and honesty in all things is the way to go. You're not going to get burned by being honest with him.

[austeen2]

Take the risk. Start a chat. Opportunity doesn't always come and kick down your door. You have to be active and go and get the things you want in life sometimes!

And as far as if he likes you or not, why not ask? I truly believe that openness and honesty in all things is the way to go. You're not going to get burned by being honest with him.
Thanks for the advice. The only thing that I am worried about is that we may loose our friendship cos he may be a homophobe or something and since im still in the closet he may go telling everyone which would be somewhat disastrous.

[Forsakenbymyself]

Tell him about it and see what happens. You might lose a friend, but if you received clear hints you can step forward.

[mww113]

Thanks for the advice. The only thing that I am worried about is that we may loose our friendship cos he may be a homophobe or something and since im still in the closet he may go telling everyone which would be somewhat disastrous.

If he's any sort of friend at all, I don't think he would have that reaction. I would maybe just drop some subtle hints and see if he picks up on them. Maybe ask him if he would ever consider doing something with another boy? There's no need to be super direct right away.

[austeen2]

If he's any sort of friend at all, I don't think he would have that reaction. I would maybe just drop some subtle hints and see if he picks up on them. Maybe ask him if he would ever consider doing something with another boy? There's no need to be super direct right away.

What kind of hints like touching/massaging him or saying some kind of "gay stuff"?

Any suggestions. Thanks for ur advice so far man. appreciate it.

[mww113]

Those are good ideas. I don't know your specific relationship, so it would be hard for me to suggest very specific things. But if I were you you could try making a lot of physical contact or massaging him. Whatever you think you need to do to drive home the message. You could try asking him what he thinks about guys, if he finds them attractive, etc. and just sort of ease into it.

[austeen2]

Those are good ideas. I don't know your specific relationship, so it would be hard for me to suggest very specific things. But if I were you you could try making a lot of physical contact or massaging him. Whatever you think you need to do to drive home the message. You could try asking him what he thinks about guys, if he finds them attractive, etc. and just sort of ease into it.

I dunno but im just so scared that he'll tell everyone/call me a faggot if i hug him (in a joking way) or hint stuff to him

[mww113]

Has he been a good friend to you thus far? If so, why would he alienate you and make fun of you for giving him a hug? I think you might be overthinking this :P. If you want to hug him, do it! No true friend should object to a hug :).

[austeen2]

Has he been a good friend to you thus far? If so, why would he alienate you and make fun of you for giving him a hug? I think you might be overthinking this :P. If you want to hug him, do it! No true friend should object to a hug :).
That is so true. - We're pretty good mates at school and used to chat on facebook when school was on but now its the holidays and i have no idea why we dont chat and I dont want to be the one starting the conovs all the time :(.

Suprisingly neither of us has been to eachothers house - It doesnt seem like a norm over here.

[TapDancer]

That is so true. - We're pretty good mates at school and used to chat on facebook when school was on but now its the holidays and i have no idea why we dont chat and I dont want to be the one starting the conovs all the time :(.

Suprisingly neither of us has been to eachothers house - It doesnt seem like a norm over here.

Dude, just ask him if he wants to hang sometime? Do you have him on Facebook maybe? Ask him there. When you're hanging, bring up girls or something and be like "So, who do you reckon is hot?" That will give you a clear indication of his sexuality. On another point, IF he does like you, its likely hes too nervous to msg you or keep a conversation on fb. Ask him if he wants to hang at the shops tomorrow night or something?

[Santiago1618]

I think your should take the risk and tell him how are you feeling about him, and see what happens. :)

[Green Arrow]

I suggest like you said yourself to maybe take it to the next level maybe if you're watching something on your laptop or a film or something just put your hand on his neck and massage it if he likes it he'll respond to it. If he doesn't just play it off as a joke. Also just do a bit of subtle touching.

Good luck! :)

I think your should take the risk and tell him how are you feeling about him, and see what happens. :)

NO do not do what this guys is saying ^ this can ruin a really good friendship, beleive me I know from experience!