Nonochocobo
December 14th, 2013, 08:18 PM
So yeah, it says in the title.
I basically broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months a few days ago - the reasons behind that are complicated and are to do with the way he was acting towards me. He was treating me like the crap underneath his shoe and taking me for granted, bad mouthed me to all of his friends, cheated on me twice - and even told me at one point that he had no feelings for me before the next day taking it all back. I loved him, but had had enough of the stress.
So I broke up with him.
But, I was talking to his best friend about it the next day while walking with him down my school road - I have been friends with this dude for as long as I had been going out with this boy - and I actually fancied him for a period of a month before the other boy asked me out. I only went out with the boy to get over my feelings for his friend, due to him having a girlfriend at the time. But, now he's a single pringle, just like I am. And as I was talking to him about it, we started to mess around with each other, like tickling, hugging and pushing each other playfully. You could say we were being very playful.
But then, he decides to untie my school tie from my neck, and use it to blindfold me. He was being playful again, so I played up to it and was laughing about it, stumbling about, trying to find him amidst the darkness, due to him walking away from me and asking me to find him without taking the blindfold off. As I was trying to find him however, he walked up to me, and kissed me. This turned into a makeout session.
After this, I feel like my feelings towards this boy are coming back - even after I was with somebody for 10 months. I talked to him about it afterwards, and he told me that he did have "a soft spot" for me - and when I asked if that meant a small crush, he said it did. But then he said that it would be hard for me and him to go into a relationship - due to him being friends with my Ex-boyfriend and everything. I suggested that we do it in secret, and he didn't mind the idea but said it would suck due to having to come up with excuses for everything all the time. So he suggested that we become friends with benefits - except without the sex, and we just meet to act like a boyfriend and a girlfriend do - but still remain as good friends.
I said that we should talk about it in real life and not online - to give me more time to think about it. But, to be honest - I'm not sure if I can just be satisfied with just having a "friends with benefits" relationship with him. I would much rather us have a secret relationship - even though I wish it could be an official one, but I just don't think it will pan out that way due to my Ex still being around. My feelings for him are growing quite strong, and I feel like these strong feelings are one sided compared to his "softspot" feelings he has towards me.
I just, have no idea what to do, and would really appreciate some advice from some nice people?
Pls. <3
I basically broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months a few days ago - the reasons behind that are complicated and are to do with the way he was acting towards me. He was treating me like the crap underneath his shoe and taking me for granted, bad mouthed me to all of his friends, cheated on me twice - and even told me at one point that he had no feelings for me before the next day taking it all back. I loved him, but had had enough of the stress.
So I broke up with him.
But, I was talking to his best friend about it the next day while walking with him down my school road - I have been friends with this dude for as long as I had been going out with this boy - and I actually fancied him for a period of a month before the other boy asked me out. I only went out with the boy to get over my feelings for his friend, due to him having a girlfriend at the time. But, now he's a single pringle, just like I am. And as I was talking to him about it, we started to mess around with each other, like tickling, hugging and pushing each other playfully. You could say we were being very playful.
But then, he decides to untie my school tie from my neck, and use it to blindfold me. He was being playful again, so I played up to it and was laughing about it, stumbling about, trying to find him amidst the darkness, due to him walking away from me and asking me to find him without taking the blindfold off. As I was trying to find him however, he walked up to me, and kissed me. This turned into a makeout session.
After this, I feel like my feelings towards this boy are coming back - even after I was with somebody for 10 months. I talked to him about it afterwards, and he told me that he did have "a soft spot" for me - and when I asked if that meant a small crush, he said it did. But then he said that it would be hard for me and him to go into a relationship - due to him being friends with my Ex-boyfriend and everything. I suggested that we do it in secret, and he didn't mind the idea but said it would suck due to having to come up with excuses for everything all the time. So he suggested that we become friends with benefits - except without the sex, and we just meet to act like a boyfriend and a girlfriend do - but still remain as good friends.
I said that we should talk about it in real life and not online - to give me more time to think about it. But, to be honest - I'm not sure if I can just be satisfied with just having a "friends with benefits" relationship with him. I would much rather us have a secret relationship - even though I wish it could be an official one, but I just don't think it will pan out that way due to my Ex still being around. My feelings for him are growing quite strong, and I feel like these strong feelings are one sided compared to his "softspot" feelings he has towards me.
I just, have no idea what to do, and would really appreciate some advice from some nice people?
Pls. <3