Kind of unique situation/need advice from guys

[Agirl]

I'm new to the forums & appreciate any help and advice I can receive!
I'm very confused about my guy best friend. I didn't know him very well last school year. He started texting me during the summer (he is friends with one of my close female friends and had gotten my number from her). We started texting in a casual way. For me, I never even considered him in a romantic/boyfriend way.
We have a class together this year and began talking in class and texting everyday. He asked me to homecoming as friends. For the past few months we text everyday. We are really close and I consider him my best friend. There have been some signs he has feelings for me beyond friendship (he has complimented me, asked to hang out, said we should go to the same college after high school, seemed slightly jealous when I went to the movies with another guy this year, has said I'm beautiful inside and out). Recently, I've felt like maybe I am developing slight feelings for him (this is surprising to me and I'm not sure if I would ever date him).
Last night, while texting, I came out and asked him if he has or has ever had feelings for me. He replied no & said it would be awkward if we dated. This is just shocking to me. Even though I am not sure how I feel my feelings are hurt. So? Opinions? Is he just saying he doesn't like me or is it true? He spends hours texting me everyday. My dad jokes that no guy would put in that much time without liking a girl. So what do you guys think?

[Cassius]

Well he could be embarrassed, he might like you (even though he says he doesn't)

[Agirl]

Thanks for the reply Cassius. I mean do guys generally spend this much time and energy talking to girls they are only friends with? He has never mentioned other girls to me. But, if he had feelings for me, even if he was embarrassed, wouldn't he just say he did at one point or something? He just said no.
For the record, we spend hours a day texting

[Cassius]

Hmmm, well I know before I was dating Sam, I would never really talk about girls to well... anyone! Even to my friends that I am very close with, I wouldn'tt bring it up.
And just cause a guy has feelings for someone doesn't mean that they'll the person. Trust me, we (guys) want to tell them but get nervous and more often than not, don't.

[Cassius]

Thanks for the reply Cassius. I mean do guys generally spend this much time and energy talking to girls they are only friends with? He has never mentioned other girls to me. But, if he had feelings for me, even if he was embarrassed, wouldn't he just say he did at one point or something? He just said no.
For the record, we spend hours a day texting

I would say its very normal for guys to use that much energy talking to a "just friend". When I actually did text anyone, I would talk for hours with "just friends"

[Hollywood]

Thanks for the reply Cassius. I mean do guys generally spend this much time and energy talking to girls they are only friends with? He has never mentioned other girls to me. But, if he had feelings for me, even if he was embarrassed, wouldn't he just say he did at one point or something? He just said no.
For the record, we spend hours a day texting

I'd say it's normal, sure. I've had plenty of female friends that I've been like that with. That said, I would usually get feelings for them, but I would ignore the feelings and/or deny them so that I wouldn't run the risk of ruining our friendship. That may be what's happening here.

[Agirl]

Thanks guys! I guess I will just not bring it up to him and continue as friends. Like I said before, I'm not sure if I would date him anyway and our friendship is definitely very important to me & I wouldn't want to jeopardize that.

I appreciate the input!

[Synyster Shadows]

Not all guys will come out and tell you that they like you in that way. We get nervous too. We're just as nervous as anybody could be. That being said, there is a chance that he likes you and is denying it. Not really sure what to do about it, though. Sorry.

[ashdyn]

Maybe he's just a nice guy or naturally flirty. Kinda like me. I didn't even know that I had like a naturally flirty personality until my girlfriend pointed it out (she wasn't too happy lol). After she told me I did notice that some of the things I say/do could be taken as flirting but really I'm just being genuinely nice. If he said he doesn't like you like that then I don't see why you're feeling hurt, it's not like he said he doesn't like you as a friend lol plus you said you'd never date him sooooo win win.

This is usually where I'd go on about how girls are evil because they all think every guy that talks to them has to have feelings for them then go on to try to complicate things....butttttt I won't do it this time lol :D

[Agirl]

Haha I see what you're saying Ashdyn. However, I would definitely NOT say he has a flirty personality. I'm not devastated or anything, and I certainly don't think every guy I'm friends with has to have feelings for me. The thing is we are super close friends and I definitely feel like there is some attraction there. It's just confusing. His best friend told me he likes me but he denies he ever said that to him. I guess it just bothers me if he doesn't think he can open up to me.

[jackthorpe]

he might just be very shy

[Agirl]

@jackthorpe-thanks, could be. He doesn't act shy but he has told me he was really shy when he was younger so idk. I do know every time he has complimented me he has seemed uncomfortable/apologetic, saying he doesn't want to come off creepy.

[Miri]

Maybe he's worried about ruining your friendship, or maybe he's just shy. Or he may just want to continue as friends. He could just be naturally flirty as well.

What I was thinking is that he may be worried that you're accusing him of something that he doesn't feel comfortable being accused of by asking him if he has feelings for you. Also, through text it can be hard to tell what the other person is thinking or feeling, because it's super easy to hide emotions through text. I can understand that your feelings were hurt, even though you may not know why or not understand it yourself.

Anyways, if the feelings are mutual, something may or may not come out of it. That's the best I have to offer, but you could always be honest and just tell him that you're interested. There's no harm in trying, but think about how it could affect your friendship as well.

[chezhans]

I argue that he likes you HEAPS (actually, that's reminiscent of my own relationship which unfortunately recently died on itself)…but yeah I wouldn't bank on him saying "no". See, this is strange because if you ask me, I'll always give the honest answer first time every time but we may not know what your friend has in mind. All I can say is~continue to hang out with him, and if he acts more and more jealous instead of friendly- you can definitely take this situation is one great big LIE.

Have fun! ~Chez