Everyone says not to tell the girl you like that you like her over Facebook. Why?

[clueless_one]

There is this girl I like and I won't see her face-to-face anymore but have her on Facebook. I'm to shy and scared to ask for her number, be that anyones number, they should give it themselves. I can't tell to meet up because again, I'm shy. Why can't I tell her I like her over Facebook? Its almost like texting.

[Melodic]

Uhh who says you can't? That's how my boyfriend asked me out.. If you can't see her much and have no other way to contact, then I'd say go for it.

[Cygnus]

You CAN do it, but its usually seen as 1. An unconfident action or 2. Something not personal enough for something that big, and I would agree, your best bet is to overcome your shyness or to succumb to it and not even try, hopefully you can find a solution for that, but again, if you can't actually see her personally for legitimate reasons (like distance) then it could be acceptable (then again, why would you do long distance?).

[Elysium]

I'd say it depends on the relationship and/or the person. Someone recently confessed having a crush on me over Facebook that they knew I wouldn't return, but they also knew me very well and we're very close, and in the end, we were both glad they decided to do it over Facebook instead of in person. It's probably a better bet to go with the most personal method, asking her face to face, but it's whatever you think is appropriate for the situation. You know her better than any of us do.

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Its not exactly romantic... more of a last resort option. Just ask for her number.

[Plasma]

I think the only people who think that are guys. If she's a nice girl, I doubt she would even think twice about it

[Cassius]

Well, it's kind of impersonal. I mean if you never see her that might work but try it in person (it's hard but worth it)

[Mikedamaniak]

Nobody says you can't, but it's an amazing moment that only happens once in every relationship, that is dampened a lot by facebook.

[CharlieHorse]

some people see facebook as not very real or genuine. It really depends on the situation, but asking in person is most likely going to have better results.
Some people don't really care.

[clueless_one]

Uhh who says you can't? That's how my boyfriend asked me out.. If you can't see her much and have no other way to contact, then I'd say go for it.

You CAN do it, but its usually seen as 1. An unconfident action or 2. Something not personal enough for something that big, and I would agree, your best bet is to overcome your shyness or to succumb to it and not even try, hopefully you can find a solution for that, but again, if you can't actually see her personally for legitimate reasons (like distance) then it could be acceptable (then again, why would you do long distance?).

I'd say it depends on the relationship and/or the person. Someone recently confessed having a crush on me over Facebook that they knew I wouldn't return, but they also knew me very well and we're very close, and in the end, we were both glad they decided to do it over Facebook instead of in person. It's probably a better bet to go with the most personal method, asking her face to face, but it's whatever you think is appropriate for the situation. You know her better than any of us do.

Its not exactly romantic... more of a last resort option. Just ask for her number.

I think the only people who think that are guys. If she's a nice girl, I doubt she would even think twice about it

Well, it's kind of impersonal. I mean if you never see her that might work but try it in person (it's hard but worth it)

Nobody says you can't, but it's an amazing moment that only happens once in every relationship, that is dampened a lot by facebook.

some people see facebook as not very real or genuine. It really depends on the situation, but asking in person is most likely going to have better results.
Some people don't really care.

She seems to be a shy girl, to me especially. She seems to be fine when talking to other guys but becomes shy when around/talking to me. I'm shy too. One time when I was with her and her friends at a school excursion, she seemed more open and seemed to express herself freely otherwise she just stares at me. Could this be in my favour if I do it on Facebook?

[NeuroTiger]

Give it a try...:)

[gliderman]

Rather phone her if you can :D

[clueless_one]

Rather phone her if you can :D

I DON'T Have her NUMBER and I CAN'T GET IT because i'm SHY.

This must be the 3rd time i've said it.

[Blood]

Instead of telling her you like her over Facebook, why not ask her to hang out and see where it goes from there? No need to jump to doing something you're not comfortable with.

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I DON'T Have her NUMBER and I CAN'T GET IT because i'm SHY.

This must be the 3rd time i've said it.

You can't use that excuse for everything ... and how do you expect not to be shy if you say things like that.

[Cassius]

But if youre confident enough to ask her out, you're confident enough to ask for her numerals

[clueless_one]

But if youre confident enough to ask her out, you're confident enough to ask for her numerals

You can't use that excuse for everything ... and how do you expect not to be shy if you say things like that.

Instead of telling her you like her over Facebook, why not ask her to hang out and see where it goes from there? No need to jump to doing something you're not comfortable with.

I'm shy at asking her out and even telling her I like her.

I fricking give up with all your help. I've asked for advice in if I should tell her I like her over Facebook given I can't ask a fricking girl out.

I can't even ask guy friends to hang out, asking people to meet up is fricking difficult.

I see none of you are willing to help me. I fricking give up.

I find it difficult to talk to people all together. I'm a shy and too myself person when with friends, I just can't talk. If all your are fricking saying that I'm saying this all online and that I can do it. Something is fricking wrong with you.... THIS IS OVER THE INTERNET, I CANT ASK ANYONE FOR ANY HELP FACE TO FACE CAUSE EVERYONE JUST MAKES FUN OF ME.

IT LOOKS LIKE YOUR WANTING TO MAKE MY LIFE DIFFICULT. F THIS SHIT. I GIVE UP ALL TOGETHER.

IM GOING TO LIVE MY FRICKING LIFE ALONE. I HATE ALL OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!

Instead of telling her you like her over Facebook, why not ask her to hang out and see where it goes from there? No need to jump to doing something you're not comfortable with.

By the way, I'm comfortable at tell her how I feel over Facebook.

BUT EVERYONE SAYS tell her face to face, ask for her number.

NO ONE KNOWS HOW FRICKING DIFICULT THAT IS FOR ME.

THUS, IM GIVING UP.

THANKS FOR NO HELP

[Blood]

By the way, I'm comfortable at tell her how I feel over Facebook.

BUT EVERYONE SAYS tell her face to face, ask for her number.

NO ONE KNOWS HOW FRICKING DIFICULT THAT IS FOR ME.

THUS, IM GIVING UP.

THANKS FOR NO HELP

Ok then. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

[chezhans]

Woah, woah, woah, woah….everybody calm down!!!!!! If one does not want to "man up" to his fear, then he should get rid of his signature of "thinking big, living big and playing big" (if everyone understands where I'm coming from)….

Tell her over FB if you want to but in my own opinion, I would rather invite her out then tell her. It worked for me, so why can't it work for you?

[teen.jpg]

Is it that time of the week again? Ugh ...

Dude, you realize EVERY one of your threads turn out this way? Would you like to know why? Because you ignore whatever advice you get and shut it down because it requires even the smallest bit of effort on your part.

And news flash, we're on a HELP forum. Raging in all caps that we're not helping is kind of like a middle finger to all of us. No one needs you to write in all caps how you "hate all of us".

[clueless_one]

Woah, woah, woah, woah….everybody calm down!!!!!! If one does not want to "man up" to his fear, then he should get rid of his signature of "thinking big, living big and playing big" (if everyone understands where I'm coming from)….

Tell her over FB if you want to but in my own opinion, I would rather invite her out then tell her. It worked for me, so why can't it work for you?

I can't...

I give up.

I have said I can't just meet up with her then tell her I like her. That's even more difficult for me. Given she hasn't spoken to me burr just stares, how can I talk to her if she is not talking to me at the beginning. I need that push that gets me talking to her. Last year I spoke to her a bit, but then this year after I stretched my feet towards her and found out she was stretching out her legs and didn't move it even when I rubber y feet on hers she moved. Hardly spoke to her from then.

If she was still speaking to me, by now I would have told her how I felt given if I've been speaking to her for 3-4 months.

So there, I'm shy can't talk to her, be that any girls and even guys.

Let me describe everything...

I can't talk about something I like (the sport I like) and being myself because everyone makes fun of me due to liking the sport. Thus, not talking to anyone, meaning becoming more isolated and leading to me becoming shy to talk to ANYONE.

And the "think big, live big, play big" is the motto of my favourite sports team who plays in the sport everyone makes fun of and the sport I love.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greater_Western_Sydney_Giants#Club_symbols

Is it that time of the week again? Ugh ...

Dude, you realize EVERY one of your threads turn out this way? Would you like to know why? Because you ignore whatever advice you get and shut it down because it requires even the smallest bit of effort on your part.

And news flash, we're on a HELP forum. Raging in all caps that we're not helping is kind of like a middle finger to all of us. No one needs you to write in all caps how you "hate all of us".

Advice... When clearly I state the advice your giving me is the advice that I can't do cause I'm shy... You think I'm not fricking shy.

IM FRICKING SHY, I CANT EVEN TAK TO ANY ONE OF MY FRIENDS WHEN I SEE THEM ALMOST ANYWHERE.

I GIVE UP ON THESE FORUMS!

[Harley Quinn]

You know what, no matter how much advice you get or you ask for, it's never good enough for you. Stop treating people like shit when all they're trying to do is help. If you don't know how to take something, or don't want to take the advice there's no need to be a jerk about it. Every single thread you make turns out like this. I'm locking this, if you want to discuss this, PM me. :locked: