Drifting Apart

[kklondike]

I found that I've been drifting apart from my 2 best friends. It's frustrating, and even more so that the fault is all of ours.

One of them is super bubbly. Happy. Sometimes, over-happy and can be a tad annoying but it's not like it bugs me since the world could use a little over-happy.

The other is self conscious, "punk" stereotyped. She likes the "dark side," putting it comically. I think she's the main person annoying me, personally. She also plays those computer games like World of Warcraft and League of Legends. Now, I don't have anything against those, but I'm worried. She's spending too much time on those. She found this group of gamer boys who play League with each other all night long or all weekend long or whatever.

Anyway, to sum it all up, I feel like she's choosing gaming over me. And the first girl. She found a new boyfriend, and although our other friends disapprove of him, I'm just grateful he's more normal than her other choices. (She really doesn't make the best choices. And I'm not even being mean. The just...weren't.)

The first girl (bubbly) also found a new group of friends. The "Otakus." I'm a big anime fan, I love asian pop culture. I just don't fit in with the group she's with. I'm just drifting around while us three drift farther and farther away. It could just be an effect of high school but yeah.

Okay, I guess I didn't really sum it all up. On my part, I have this ugly personality, I suppose you could say. When I think about this, I'm like a hissy teen. "Oh, who cares? Let her make out with her boyfriend. Let her waste her time playing games. I don't need to hand out with them. Etc," these thoughts go through my head. It pisses me off that I think that, but those are my thoughts. We kind of used to be super close. Helped each other during times of need, would listen to each other without saying anything, etc. Yeah. Advice?

[LouBerry]

First off, this isn't your fault. I promise. Growing apart is just something that happens as you grow up. I'm not friends with a single one of my best friends from a few years ago. As you get older, your interests change and your true colours start shining, and sometime, you just aren't compatible with the people you hung out with when you were younger. Try to makes some new friends, it might surprise you have much easier it is to be around people more like you.

[WrthPanda]

I do not know if this would help you at all, but here goes.
I often hear people telling me about drifting apart, like how peoples personaly change when they got older. And of course that happens, sometimes, but not always. I've got many friends around me that I know will always be there, or at least I like to think so. On the other side I can count numerbous of friends from the childhood which I lost contact with through the years, so that happens too. But I always think that you would have this feeling, or inner mind telling you if a friend are meant to last. Like a very good friend of me, actually my best friend, and I had a major fight two years ago, and we completely ignored each other for over a year. I think I felt someting of the things you are going through right know. But all that time, something told me that he missed me, that I needed him. And I think it was christmas, I've got a present from him, even thought we hadn't spoke in a year, and that made me break, for the fact that he all this time hadn't forgotten me. Soon after we begun talking again, and after a few weeks the whole year of missery were forgotten. So I do not know how to say this, but stay positive, and look for any signs of interactions with your old friends. I know that we all go through periods in our life, but real friends will always eventually get back to each other. So my advice would be to stay in there, try to make some small talk with them, and it might work if given the right amount of time. I do not know if it helps, but I hope you can feel a little better :)