he's avoiding

[Seemyheart]

This passed summer was really hard for me, and he helped me get through it. he's an amazing friend, and he's made it known that he's in love with me... I love him, but like a brother. Lately he's excluding himself from everything. in the mornings, my group of friends stands and talks, and I always joke around with my best friends, he sent me a text tonight saying he doesn't hang with us anymore because he was sick and tired of seeing me talk and hug everyone else (I hug 2 of my best girl friends) and he says he's tired of being ignored. I don't understand, he was never like this before, now it's like he's trying to force me to just focus on him. I'm very independent, and this is just a big turn off for me.
I'm not sure what to do

[Living For Love]

Maybe he thinks he's not getting enough atention from you as a friend, and he feels a bit jealous. Talk to him about it, make him know you still like him quite a lot, and hang out both whenever you have the possibility, so that he won't feel abandoned or ignored. He's probably just going through some problems in his life, and he needs more atention from you.

[Seemyheart]

Well we're going to Homecoming together this weekend.. as friends.
He gave me an ultimatum last night though, he said either we try and date or I can consider him outta my life.

[Living For Love]

He can't force you being friends with him. I don't think he's respecting you with that "ultimatum". You go out with him if you want, you text him if you want, you can be his friend if you want. Go to the Homecoming with him, ask him why he's reacting that way, and if you start to notice he's getting way too rude and disrespectful towards you, then you might want to revaluate that friendship.

[rogoshtalmour]

speaking as a guy and having in the past acted like this guy friend of yours is acting right now, I say do NOT date him. He is not ready for a real relationship no matter how badly he wants one. He needs to learn that a relationship is about being a PART of someones life not BEING someones life. Right now he seems to want to be the focus of your life and that is not feasible now or ever. Even married couples share their lives together they don't make the other person their entire life. If you have no life of your own then you have nothing to share anyway. I hope this is making sense to you.

[WrthPanda]

I have literally lived through what your friend, and you of course are going through right now, and trust me on this one, don't give him up, even though I agree that the ultimatum weren't pretty fair. There were a time when me, and one of my closest friends drew apart, mostly because I started to shut him out, because he hurt me (much the same way with your friend). So I kept myself away, so I wouldn't get burned.
The only problem were that I hurt myself AND my friend even more by acting that way. I do not say that your friend might realize that pretty soon, or not, but at least there's always the chance.
Not to bash anyone, but the previous answers make me mad, no hiding. Try to see things with your friends eyes, and maybe it won't look as bad as it is. My point is, I think your friend made that ultimatum because he can sense that you are denial with your feeling, and since he is tired of waiting for you, he uses this ultimatum as an excuse to test your feelings towards him.
So not to push you or anything, but if you have any feeling towards him that are more than platonic, this is your one chance. But what ever you decide to do, I would advice you to not ending the friendship with him. Because after all, I think he is deeply into you, or at least it seems that way, which I think are something to think about. How would you act if you got a crush on one of your closest friend, but aware of the fact that you might not have a chance?
And one last thing, with the ultimatum, when he told you to rather "consider him outta you life" if you don't date him, are more his ways of saying that he won't live without you. Or maybe he can't go on as friends if you never gave him a chance, who knows. So I think it is better to sort thing out with him, maybe give it a try, so you guys can move on with your friendship. At least I think that's better than being a coward and taking the easiest way out, which are to end the friendship. Just my opinion, hope things work out for you :)