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Koffing
December 9th, 2013, 01:43 PM
Didn't really know where to post this so decided this was probably the best place

For the past half year I go to highschool. Someone from my old school does the same course and we actually are in the same class now. Before highschool we didn't really hang out together or were friends, only the usualy ''hi''. But now we travel together to school and back home and started to talk a lot during those trips. I always had some suspicion about him being gay. It just was the way he talked and looked at things. Well, at me... At first I thought he had a crush on me, but I just decided to wait and see what would come next. During the next few weeks I noticed that he also looks the way he looks at me to others, so I though "no big deal".

But today when we were in the train on our way home, out of the blue, he said he is gay. I told him it is ok to be gay, but then he said he likes me. I didn't know how to react (btw I don't have a crush or so mething for him). It happend so out of the blue and I didn't expect him to really like me, although I had thought about it. I didn't know what to say but after a few seconds or so I told him something like ''well that's ok'' or something... (don't know exactly, it all went to fast). Then he laughed a bit and said he was only joking, but I didn't believe him.

He also asked if I fell for girls as well, and I said yes. Well, I am bi, so I like girls as well... I was in a bit of panic because he said it in such a public place (train during rush hour) and I still feel a bit embarresed when i tell people I am bi (I have no problem with being it, it just isn't easy for me to talk about it. No idea why...)

The remainder of the journey was quite ackward at first, but after a while we started talking like we normaly would.

But my thing is, I know for 99% sure he wasn't joking and meant it. But what should I do now. I didn't want to talk about it because I don't think it is something you should tell in public with other people hearing it. Should I talk to him about it, or just wait and see if he does... I won't see him for the remainder of the week as we have no lessons anymore. I was thinking about What's App him or something, but I really don't know if I should talk to him or just wait or let it behind me. I have no idea what to do...

Sorry for the long story, and I would appreciate it if you can try and help me out. I have no clue what to do...

Living For Love
December 9th, 2013, 02:56 PM
The question is: do you have feelings for him or not? Because if you do, you can simply tell him that. If not, well, try to text him some of these days and just be honest about it, that you fully respect him and his decision and, although you like him too, you just want him to be your friend, nothing more. I'm sure he will understand.

Koffing
December 9th, 2013, 03:30 PM
I don't have feeling for him.

I am more scared as well that maybe he was joking (99% sure he wasn't) and I out myself to him. I don't feel ready to tell al lot of people that I'm bi...

MechaSniper
December 9th, 2013, 03:44 PM
Well try to talk to him in an area where there is no people

Living For Love
December 9th, 2013, 04:00 PM
I don't have feeling for him.

I am more scared as well that maybe he was joking (99% sure he wasn't) and I out myself to him. I don't feel ready to tell al lot of people that I'm bi...

It also seems to me he wasn't joking at all, I mean, why would he just suddenly told you he was gay and he was in love with you in the middle of a train journey? He's your friend, he won't simply start to tell everyone you're bi. If he wasn't joking, he will respect you, just like you respect the fact he's gay, so there's nothing to worry about. If you're still not sure whether he was joking about it or not, maybe just talk to him about it again, he will understand.

Koffing
December 9th, 2013, 06:47 PM
I just don't know what to do, but I feel like waiting will make things worse, but at the same time I feel like I should wait for him to do something...

Also, if i should start to talk about it to him, should I meet up with him or can I like tekst/message him about it?

Living For Love
December 9th, 2013, 06:57 PM
I just don't know what to do, but I feel like waiting will make things worse, but at the same time I feel like I should wait for him to do something...

Also, if i should start to talk about it to him, should I meet up with him or can I like tekst/message him about it?

If you feel like you should wait for him to do something first, then give him a certain amount of time, two weeks, maybe, and if he doesn't say anything about the topic in that period of time, so you do it yourself. Perhaps the best would be if you meet up with him so you could like see his facial expressions, and you could analyse better his reaction.

Datguy1
December 9th, 2013, 07:06 PM
try and talk to him in a more quiet place and just see where things lead you

Berad
December 9th, 2013, 07:11 PM
Either way, you should tell him how you're feeling. If you have feelings for him, then tell him so and go from there. If you don't have feelings and would like to stay friends, simply explain to him that you'd like to remain friends to protect your friendship. I got rejected after telling a girl I liked her (in like 8th grade or something), she didn't share the same feelings but she ended up being one of my best friends (we ended up dating later on as well), so things work out :)

Were
December 18th, 2013, 02:36 PM
i guess the next move he will make will tell the truth