Orgasm - only me?

[CheekyBird]

No matter what I do or how long I cannot reach an orgasm.
I feel pleasure and then it stops. Do I have a mental/physical block? Could it possibly be that I need someone else's touch! I mean I have tried multiple things and just can't reach one... ( sorry I kind of want to have one...)

[Luminous]

I have the exact same thing! I do think that I just can't pleasure myself so much, like maybe I can't really get into the moment or whatever, and I need a partner.

[jenna123]

at first it happened to me too, but then one day i reached it. I guess it depends on many things so keep trying with other things or maybe you will get one with a guy.

[HotGurlMixy]

I Couldn't Reach An Orgasm For A While, When I Started Masturbating...
You'll Reach It One Day.

[anyone50]

Maybe your head isn't in the right place. I can rub myself all day long and not have an orgasm if my mind isn't into it. I firmly believe the orgasm starts in the mind not in the crotch

[emily-candace]

Have you ever had an orgasm and like someone else said, if your mind insn't in it, you won't have one. I get at least one a day, either in the morning before I get out of bed or at night to help me fall asleep. Good luck.

[TinyDancer]

Yeah it took me awhile to get completely into it. It seemed that every time I got close I'd get this worry that someone was going to catch me or something. I finally relaxed and just pushed myself until it happened. It took quite a while the first few times.

[CheekyLinda]

Yeap, like everyone said; 80% of an orgasm depends on the mind; concentrate on the feelings in your vagina, and on discovering what makes you aroused the most, and eventually you will reach it :)

[KellyNC]

I've never had any personal problems, but I've talked to other's who've basically told me that it was a mental blockage. It's not that they couldn't get into it or generate thoughts, but that they couldn't help focusing on getting to it and in turn began to tighten up too much, or had to find a safer, more 'free' spot where they could get a better release.

[Taryn98]

A lot of it is mental so you need to relax. Most girls can't orgasm right away. It takes time to learn what your body likes and dislikes. Many girls can only orgasm from oral sex, some only through intercourse, and some only by masturbating, some need toys. Everyone is different, so do some experimenting and see what works for you.

[Pensive]

Lol this is all a load of nonsense... Physical stimulation will always make you orgasm, no matter where your mind is.

Infuriatingly I could tell you how to get over this problem, but the mods don`t allow technique swapping...

Go and try this ASAP.

Baby Oil, Clit and BE GENTLE.

Lol this brings me to the whole myth of `girls know what other girls want`. Never believe that, it`s simply untrue.

[SweetFab]

Just keep practicing, you will eventually reach it.

[Sandra Main]

Practising and different techniques is what helped me

[cherylcherylX2]

It took me awhile before I actually experienced a proper orgasm, I even had sex before I had my first orgasm. I don't really know why, I guess it just takes time?

[CheekyBird]

The thing is I make sure I am completely relaxed, with no distractions and nothing to worry about. I have tried everything I can and I start to feel it then it just stops.... Its frustrating as I am the only person from my friendship group that hasn't and I have been trying for quite a while....

[hoboliz]

The sprcifics are different for everyone, but the general points are the same. Research and practice.

[mai-rin]

I have the same issue.I have reached an orgasm one or twice although I find it extremely hard and it takes forever... and I mean forever.I get rather frustrated about it and more often than less just get bored and give up.I guess it may get easier with age (or so I've heard) Unfortunately I don't have any girlfriends to discuss stuff with because I'm home schooled.

[San1998]

Maybe your head isn't in the right place. I can rub myself all day long and not have an orgasm if my mind isn't into it. I firmly believe the orgasm starts in the mind not in the crotch

At one point she is right, but some girls need someone else a guy or a girl. A friend of mine had the same problem. She reached her first on as we had fun together after she stayed over night in my place.

[tigress90]

Maybe your head isn't in the right place. I can rub myself all day long and not have an orgasm if my mind isn't into it. I firmly believe the orgasm starts in the mind not in the crotch

That is a great point. I think that the atmosphere has to be relaxed so it is easier to concentrate. Everyone is different, but paying attention to rubbing your clit. Some people prefer insertion though.

[Sky501]

I first started exploring masturbation at the age of 11, but I didn't have my first orgasm until I was 13. It takes time when you first start to figure out how to get yourself off. Like the others have said, a lot of it is in your mind. My advice is to fantasize while you do it. You have to focus on the feelings, and what turns you on. Maybe watch some porn or something similar. Definitely find your clit, as that's the place that usually gives girls the most pleasure; I always rub my clit with one hand and use some sort of object with the other hand. Doing two different things at once will usually increase the amount of pleasure you get from it. Basically, it takes time and experimentation so just keep trying. It's worth it, trust me.

[Lil.k8]

Like everyone says it's hard to get to a real orgasm but remember to rub in waves slowly faster faster and as u reach the top slow down wet urself and go again keep repeating