Social Skills

[Hazard7707]

I'm a bit of a loner so can anyone give me some tips to improve my social skills.

[ksdnfkfr]

I'm a bit of a loner so can anyone give me some tips to improve my social skills.

Hopefully you will get some advice form someone
who was and found a way around it. Usually there
are either ppl in the same boat like me. Or ppl who
have natural social skills that you may not be able
to use. I have found that just looking ppl in the eye
smiling and saying "hi" as been a good first step for me.
But I have autism. I don't know how withdrawn you are.

[Hazard7707]

I'm actually not too scared of talking to people. It's just that I don't really know what to say a lot of the time.

[BookSmart]

I used to be really shy, but after having to move several times I've gotten a bit better at making friends. To be honest, I'm not really sure what I do. Usually I just go up to a person, smile, and say "hi, My name's Anna!" if I'm in somewhere new (like a new school) I might say "I'm new here, could I hang with you today?" If I'm at a club or something I'd start talking about a subject related to that. Sometimes people won't want to talk or will ignore me, but most of the I end up with a new friend. I think the challenge is building and keeping that friendship. Just try to be nice, and don't act like someone your not just because you want to please a person. You seem like a nice guy, I'm sure you'll do fine :)

[fordgtguy]

Ive always been easy going and happy so i have never had a problem making friends and make them within days and all you have to do is be open and happy then people will like you. I remember moving schools in grade 7 now im done high school but i went to school all nervous because i never knew anything and within a week i was hanging out with the popular people but just be open and understanding and people wil like you.

[kklondike]

mm for some reason, it really depends on who I'm with. A lot of times, I feel inferior to the person(s) I'm with, thus having me talk less and just nod and smile. however, when i feel level with the person(s), I tend to chat naturally. there tends to always be people in the same boat as you, so go and find them.

Just stay open, listen to them, and smile! Try not acting awkward, or if you do, try to turn it into a positive result (ex: making a joke about it). Then, like the above people, develop the relationship.

[LouBerry]

I'm a bit of a loner so can anyone give me some tips to improve my social skills.

I wish I could, but I don't have any either. Hell, even my online conversations are crap.

Just make your social handicap work for you though. Like, everyone I know thinks I'm on acid, but they all think I'm kind of neat.

[Questionsanswered]

Socialism can be a real pain. I lost someone very important to someone who was more social than me. Remember your advantage. I am the intelligent guy in my friends. Although i might not make smart social choices, I know what is going on in their heads... and that can get you a great advantage.
What is the popular thing where you are? Being funny? Social Network systems? Who's strong and who's their friends? Exploit that. My school is a place of where you need to know people to be anyone. So what do i do? I go on people one-on-one, then meet their friends. Throw in a couple jokes here and there, and you're set.
Since I understand people's thoughts, i know what is on everyone's mind. My reaction to her leaving me. So i get cold thoughts and occasionally lash out and guilt-trip her (yet make it seem like im sad) then just stop. People get interested in my reaction and when it starts to get fun, i stop. They still have a sense of potential gossip, so what do i do? I make things.... interesting. Heh heh. I start overreacting about how she is falling for one of the friends who I helped learn common sense. and overload him with feelings of peer pressure. Eventually, everyone cracks from the pressure. She's rejected, he's broken, and im the one who understands E V E R Y T H I N G. She knows that i can outwit anyone who takes me on. and she was the most recent.

[Katiya]

Socialism can be a real pain. I lost someone very important to someone who was more social than me. Remember your advantage. I am the intelligent guy in my friends. i might not make smart social choices, I know what is going on in their heads... and that can get you a great advantage.
What is the popular thing where you are? Being funny? Social Network systems? Who's strong and who's their friends? Exploit that. My school is a place of where you need to know people to be anyone. So what do i do? I go on people one-on-one, then meet their friends. Throw in a couple jokes here and there, and you're set.
Since I understand people's thoughts, i know what is on everyone's mind. My reaction to her leaving me. So i get cold thoughts and occasionally lash out and guilt-trip her (yet make it seem like im sad) then just stop. People get interested in my reaction and when it starts to get fun, i stop. They still have a sense of potential gossip, so what do i do? I make things.... interesting. Heh heh. I start overreacting about how she is falling for one of the friends who I helped learn common sense. and overload him with feelings of peer pressure. Eventually, everyone cracks from the pressure. She's rejected, he's broken, and im the one who understands E V E R Y T H I N G. She knows that i can outwit anyone who takes me on. and she was the most recent.

Hahaha! See smarts always win in the end! If you have some intelligence you can swing it anyway I've found. I've used this same tactic to get back at others. However I will caution you eventually if you do it too much some one will wise up and expose you and ppl start hating you like this guy in my town.
So I only use it when its absolutely necessary. Like when a certain few decided to try and play me, so i played them off eachother and left them to fight with themselves. Other ways I'm not super social. I like to be left alone for the most part. Its nice.

[ausley]

Im usually good with people, honestly a lot of people may say this but its kind of true, just act yourself. People like genuine and original people. Don't try to follow stereotypes and be nice to people. If you have trouule not knowing to say ask them about their day or say something interesting you've done try to connect with the person

[Body odah Man]

I'm a bit of a loner so can anyone give me some tips to improve my social skills.

I have the same problem sadly. I wish I could help ya but I can't. My only advice is join a club maybe so you'll have some shared interests with others which u can chat about?