I'm Too Nice

[PinkFloyd]

The title says it all. I'm too fricken nice and passive ]. I remember this time at a pizza place that had the worst pizza ever and the waitress walked up and asked how my food was. I said it was great. I'm not a quiet person at all either. I don't have social anxiety. I'm just a horrible critique.

I also tend to get crushed by people easily. I hate it when people don't like me, so I do my best to have them agree with me. Like over Youtube comments, someone was bashing me on my nationality. They called me fat and ignorant. What did I do? I said I AGREED with him that most of us are fat and ignorant. So yeah, I'll say things I really totally don't believe in just to please people I really shouldn't pay attention to.

I really don't know what the point of that was. I just had to get it out...

[Synyster Shadows]

Unfortunately, you'll have to figure out what to do yourself, man. We all think differently so what works for me probably won't work for you. Sorry Rob. I really wish I could help. Good luck, man.

[Berad]

Just work on slowly voicing your opinion, even if it's for something small. You don't have to bash something, but just say it's not the best or what you disliked about it, etc. :)
And don't let people get to you, especially if it's just some random stranger on the Internet. There are mean people everywhere, the key is to find the good one and befriend them!

[ksdnfkfr]

Well pizza and YouTube comments are small things.
I am sure you have your limits.

[MechaSniper]

Oh my god-lith. you perfecly described wat happens each day. (not kidding)

[Katiya]

Yeah I have this problem at times surprisingly. I wouldn't consider my self that nice of a person lol. But I've learnt its best to say what I mean, politely of course. And also to not totally explode on people either. Least I try not to. Sometimes you can only be nice for so long untill you just throw your can of soda at them with out realizing it lol.

Im a lot nicer than I think. I try to avoid conflict as much as humanly possible.

[Blood]

Well the first thing you're going to have to do is stop giving one precious fuck what other people think. You also need to realize that no matter how hard you try, you will NEVER be able to please everyone. People are always going to disagree with. And the only thing you can do about that is turn your cheek and move on.

Also: if anyone, online or off, ever hates you for your nationality and weight, they can kindly go fuck themselves. Those have to be two of the stupidest reasons to hate someone. Don't take shit from people for being who you are.

[NeuroTiger]

VT certainly gives you a chance to express yourself which certainly helps in our daily life.
Work it out...you can make it.

But I guess it's just that you don't want to start a fight.
(I used to be like you until I revamped my attitude slightly)

[xandyx]

I'm the same way. I'm not super outgoing or a loud speaker so I feel like sometimes the more outgoing people talk over me and stuff. I hate it but I just have to speak up I guess, but its not really natural for me to do.

[ViolinPro]

What I'd suggest is to do some meditation.
Really, everyday 10, 15 minutes imagine you are this badass, what you'd like to be, maybe some character you like or maybe something you already have in mind. Get in that mental state. But don't become a bully xD Lmao.
I used to be way too nice when I was younger. I found out it was mostly, if not wholly because of the fear that people would think I'm weird, crazy or some other bulls**t and I was not to be liked and avoided by any costs.
Learned not to give a f*** as said by Blood^.
I did some interesting things such as telling my university classmates I'm a satanist and that I'm a fan of some weird fetishes. I wondered what would happen and what would their reaction be like ahahaha. Didn't lose a single friend, people thought I was more interesting, people actually wanted to talk to me more and concluded that I simply became a more self confident being (wtf, maybe it's a university full of crazy people and I never realized it?).
Destroy your fears, your boundaires. Next time, go to a pizzeria, stand up and say, that pizza tastes like f***ing sh**. Trust me, you'll be happier with yourself that you finally stepped over your niceness.

[Agnieszka]

I have the some proroblem. It is very hard. You must look for real friend who will understand you:***

[AlexOnToast]

I also tend to get crushed by people easily. I hate it when people don't like me, so I do my best to have them agree with me.

You have NO idea how much that applies to me, Rob.
I know exactly what you mean, and trust me, it just goes to show that you are a good person. You actually CARE about how you effect other people.

[raempu]

I think I can relate to you. I always put other people first, and myself at the bottom.
I want people to like me, and I am always nice to people even if they're like really mean or bitchy or something to me.
I don't know why..
I think it maybe has to do something with selfconfidence.. I don't have any at all, do you?
Maybe it's that..

If you want to talk about it you can always send me a message

[PinkFloyd]

You have NO idea how much that applies to me, Rob.
I know exactly what you mean, and trust me, it just goes to show that you are a good person. You actually CARE about how you effect other people.

Wow, never thought of it like that... Thanks. :)

[everlong]

I tend to feel the same way. It's no mystery to find out who's the nicer one of my friendship group, which is me. My friends like to take advantage of my kindness often, and I can't see myself doing something about it.