Am I annoying?! [friendship problem]

[[[chickaroo92]]]

What in the world is going on with him...??

Okay, so I have a friend who's like one of my best friends ever. Usually we joke around with each other...and so when he acts all like crazy, and cute, I'm like "Awh... I love you so and so". He hasn't gotten annoyed at me about saying that, until like recently.

Is there like a time when guys go through mood swings or something? Or am I ruining our friendship by saying that to him? Like... I don't want to be the bad guy in this case, but I told him I'm kidding around, and he thinks I'm being serious.

[Gumleaf]

i love all my friends heaps and i love my vt friends heaps too. but that doesn't mean i want to have a romantic relationship with them. obviously your friend can't see the difference. maybe just clarify to him that you love him as a friend. maybe he thinks you have a thing for him and its freaking him out? just talk to him and see how it goes.

[Maverick]

Some guys just don't respond to that well. Everybody has different comfort levels of what they find acceptable for friends and what crosses the line. Some guys think its too gay to hug their guy friends while some see it as the norm and insulting if you didn't want to hug him.

Its probably best to just not say it. He may be able to understand the difference in his own time but it can hurt the friendship if you keep pressing about it.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

Thanks for the advice.

[byee]

I don't think his reaction is caused by 'mood swings'. Rather, I suspect your use of the term 'I Love You' in the absence of a real romantic relationship might come across as a bit disingenuous and *gasp* precious. Most guys really hate 'precious'.

It's assumed in most friendships that people like eachother, that's why they're friends, afterall. So, there's no need to keep mentioning it, it becomes redundant and annoying. You risk looking both insecure and patronizing. Which could account for your friend reacting negatively. He's telling you he does not appreciate this, and would like you to stop.