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Jiston
December 8th, 2013, 02:39 AM
Ok, this entire situation is going to take a long time to explain, so go grab a box of popcorn, a bar of chocolate, or whatever it is you people like to eat :)

This all started about 4 (when I was in Grade 4) years ago, when I first moved into a new school. As with all schools, on the first day, everyone was asked to talk about themselves. We were all a bunch of 4th graders back then, so you can make quite a valid guess about the types of things that came up. After that, the teacher started assigning "buddies" to the "newbies" (new students). I was assigned with (a person who's name I will not use, but let's just call him C, which is the first letter of his name) C.
It was the typical "walk around the school and try to avoid an awkward conversation" sort of thing, only in 4th grader style.
By the time we were 5th graders, we were pretty darn good friends. I was going through puberty (early bloomer, yes) back then, and I had a lot of conflicted emotions, but nothing that serious yet.

Now, in Grades 6-7 was when I really started to notice somethings. In Grade 6, every time I talked with C, he would always be messing around with my collar and/or the sleeves of my shirt. I was as innocent as a... (attempts to think of a simile and fails) back then, so this didn't ring too many bells.

At the start of Grade 7, I started to develop a huge crush on a guy who we will just call S. I guess I probably jumped too far ahead of myself, and told him about the fact that I liked him (and if you've not figured out by now, I am gay ). He wouldn't talk to me for the next week or two, until I managed to calm him down (and realise that he was homophobic).

Ever since then, I had closed myself off from a lot of people. I mean, I still tried to act happy around everyone, and the teachers would always describe me as happy and lively. But everyday, I had this ache in my heart. I started cutting down of my sleep, and I grew more short-tempered as the days past.

After a month of holidays, during a Languages lesson, I saw C again, and all I can say is that my heart literally stopped for 10 seconds. God, I wanted to sit next to him so badly in class, but the teacher had a different seating plan.

As the year progressed, I found myself staring at him a lot, and god forgive me, I would always have...thoughts...about him. And then the day came when he told everyone that he would be leaving at the end of the year. In other words, someone should've just punched me in the face.

During Christmas, he invited a bunch of his friends (including me) to a Christmas party at his house. When everyone left, we spent about an entire hour playing on the piano, I found myself shifting closer and closer to him, to the point where my head was literally rested up against his shoulder. He asked me if I was tired, ashamed, I left quickly after saying goodbye.

On another occasion, he invited me to a sleepover with 2 other people. We were sleeping in a sort of half storage half playroom-room. His parents had linked 3 sofa's together (vertically) for us to sleep on, and I ended up sleeping right next to C. It took my entire self-control to not touch him that entire night. In the morning, I had to wait for everyone to leave the room first before I could change, as I had an (forgive me again) erection.

Finally, and thank you for reading so far,
On the last day of school, before everyone left their separate ways (with the exception of the people taking the school bus), I literally had a mental breakdown in front of C. He ended up hugging me, telling that he would constantly come back to visit me, and that was when I just ran out of the classroom, idiotic me.

Now to get to the main point: C is coming back in about 5 days time (just for a visit) and he's invited me over to his house for another Christmas party.

Should I tell him that I like him? Even though 2 days after that, he would end up all the way on the other side of the world? I mean, I've liked other boys, but not to the point where my heart would ache after not seeing them for more than 2 weeks... I'm scared that he will stop talking to me like S did, but I've been trying to build up the courage to tell him for almost a a year now.

ksdnfkfr
December 8th, 2013, 03:35 AM
Most of that was way too complected tbh, but I guess
you needed to get it off your chest.
Really the whole thing is summed up in the last paragraph.
You have known him a long time and nothing developed.
Now he lives on the other side of the world.
I would say it is not worth pursuing as it will likely
only cause heartache in the long run.

Jiston
December 8th, 2013, 03:48 AM
Most of that was way too complected tbh, but I guess
you needed to get it off your chest.
Really the whole thing is summed up in the last paragraph.
You have known him a long time and nothing developed.
Now he lives on the other side of the world.
I would say it is not worth pursuing as it will likely
only cause heartache in the long run.

Sorry about the wall of text :whoops: Truth be told, when he was around, I had something to look forward to everyday. Now, there just doesn't seem to be anything interesting going on in my life. There's literally nothing to look forward to anymore... I'm not interested in computer games, I can go outside and observe nature, yes, but it usually ends up with me thinking about him again.

There's something seriously wrong with me, as I'm only 14 right now :/ If I tell him, I can at least get it off my mind (temporary at least). The question now is if I can tell him without end up going away with an even worse heartache...

Best-case-but-rather-impossible-outcome: It turns out he likes me as well but he's just never dared to tell me for the same reason I have.

ksdnfkfr
December 8th, 2013, 03:58 AM
The fact that you do not even know how he feels about you
makes me think this is purely a matter of you being infatuated.
And I do not mean that in any kind of judgmental way.

Jiston
December 8th, 2013, 04:27 AM
The fact that you do not even know how he feels about you
makes me think this is purely a matter of you being infatuated.
And I do not mean that in any kind of judgmental way.

Point made :/ In terms of how he feels about me, the most I know is that he really does care a lot about me. I'm not talking about the kind of "care", in which he is stupidly nice to me. More of the "look out for, but still likes to mess with with me by either 1) tickling me, 2) hiding my school bag (after I've hid his), or 3) calling me silly names in front of teachers" sort of care :P

I still think I should ask him though, then at least I would be able to get an answer to the question that's been killing me for the past few months. Or maybe it's better that I shouldn't know at all? I'm open to all suggestions...

ksdnfkfr
December 8th, 2013, 04:31 AM
Point made :/ In terms of how he feels about me, the most I know is that he really does care a lot about me. I'm not talking about the kind of "care", in which he is stupidly nice to me. More of the "look out for, but still likes to mess with with me by either 1) tickling me, 2) hiding my school bag (after I've hid his), or 3) calling me silly names in front of teachers" sort of care :P

I still think I should ask him thought, then at least I would be able to get an answer to the question that's been killing me for the past few months. Or maybe it's better that I shouldn't know at all? I'm open to all suggestions...

Okay I am understanding this a little better.
Basically you are looking to resolve this for yourself.
So what is the worst thing that could happen if you go forward as you see it?

Jiston
December 8th, 2013, 04:43 AM
Okay I am understanding this a little better.
Basically you are looking to resolve this for yourself.
So what is the worst thing that could happen if you go forward as you see it?

Well that really all depends on how I go forward. He isn't the type of person who judges someone by their sexuality, gender, looks, etc (although he does have a slight aversion to people who dislike classical music XD). I don't think that he'll freak out if I tell him I'm homosexual. Telling him that I like him is an entirely different matter all together.

Worst case scenario: He has an emotional breakdown himself (which would hurt for me as well) and tells me that he's fine with who I am, but he can't like me back.

Truth be told, I am horrible at picturing things like these in my head, so my projection is probably 5 miles away from reality :/

ksdnfkfr
December 8th, 2013, 04:55 AM
Well that really all depends on how I go forward. He isn't the type of person who judges someone by their sexuality, gender, looks, etc (although he does have a slight aversion to people who dislike classical music XD). I don't think that he'll freak out if I tell him I'm homosexual. Telling him that I like him is an entirely different matter all together.

Worst case scenario: He has an emotional breakdown himself (which would hurt for me as well) and tells me that he's fine with who I am, but he can't like me back.

Truth be told, I am horrible at picturing things like these in my head, so my projection is probably 5 miles away from reality :/

So you think there is a chance this will mess him up psychologically/emotionally?

Jiston
December 8th, 2013, 04:58 AM
So you think there is a chance this will mess him up psychologically/emotionally?

In terms of how he sees me as a person, maybe. He's good at moving on from things though, something which I am not...
Truth be told, I've never thought about how my confession would affect him, going to think about that a bit more, thanks for opening up my mind.

Living For Love
December 8th, 2013, 08:21 AM
I think you should tell him because you have nothing to lose. The worst scenario would be if he just started to ignore you as S did (which is unlikely to me), so just tell him you really like him and ask if he feels the same way. If he answers no, at least you've already lift that weight off your shoulders, and he will realise you trust him a lot, because you've told him something so important to you, and it can even strengthen your friendship.

ksdnfkfr
December 8th, 2013, 08:28 AM
I am in agreement with Ryanair.

Datguy1
December 8th, 2013, 09:08 AM
you should tell him you got something to ask him and dont get mad at u and the answer will \ either be yes or no