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charliebaltimore
December 7th, 2013, 03:00 PM
Only a handful of my really good friends know that I'm bi, and they're cool with it.

I'm part of several different social groups -is the easiest place to word it- and there is one that comprises -mainly- of over eighteen year olds, and most of them are alot older than that. None of them know about me for reasons that'll become clear soon. Two of the eighteen year olds and four folk (including me) my age all meet up nearly every Sunday. There's a regular steam of homophobic jokes and slaggings that pop up and, to be honesty, that doesn't bother me, because in my mind of the most funny jokes have a victim - do it isn't only directed at me. Also the social definition of the word "gay" has changed, as we can all probably agree. Whereas it used to mean "homosexual" , it now means anything that's bad or unfair.

I don't think they'd mind me being bi, but i don't want them to have to filter what they say. I don't want them to feel awkward talking to me or feel like they have to watch what they're saying, cus I have a sense of humour just like they do.

As a result, I've got literally no idea how to tell them. But the worst is yet to come: i used to have the hots for one of the guys there -and to a certain extent, i still do- and i don't want him to think that every single compliment i give him is an attempt to come onto him, yeno? I know he's straight and I'm pretty sure he's going out with someone anyway, so I wouldn't go near him simply for moral reasons.

Sorry for the insane length of this post, but if anyone has any suggestions about how to go about telling them (because i really do want them to know) then i'd love to hear them. I was thinking about approaching the only female to tell her, and ask her to spread the word. But i don't want the others to think they aren't trusted, because i'll trust them all till the end of the universe (which by the way, is a rare thing for me).

Thank you :) xxx

Tarannosaurus
December 7th, 2013, 08:35 PM
You could bring up a conversation about sexuality/sex or a celebrity that is gay or has recently come out (e.g. Tom Daley), and then casually tell them that you're bi. It's up to you whether you tell that guy that you liked him, but if you trust him it might not matter.

Tdogzz96
December 8th, 2013, 04:40 AM
I came out to my group of friends when one of them made a comment about all gay people being hot and I simply thanked her for calling me hot. After a few minutes the penny dropped that I told her I was gay. It was a totally spontaneous moment that was fun and light. It wasn't dramatic or over done it was simple and straight to the point. Your fiends sound like fun so try coming out in the moment of a joke if that makes any sense. Good luck!!

charliebaltimore
December 8th, 2013, 03:04 PM
thanks folks :) xxx

charliebaltimore
December 8th, 2013, 03:14 PM
You could bring up a conversation about sexuality/sex or a celebrity that is gay or has recently come out (e.g. Tom Daley), and then casually tell them that you're bi. It's up to you whether you tell that guy that you liked him, but if you trust him it might not matter.

I trust him more than most -and for the record, i have a hard time trusting people- but I'm always paranoid about whether he trusts me the same. I think of him like a younger brother i never had - im always worried about him, wanna protect him etc, cus he's been in with the wrong crowd on more than one occasion; he's been jumped a couple of times (one of which he came to us for help through a facebook group chat we have), he smokes cigarettes and weed etc, and i can't stand the idea of him voluntarily killing himself. He has no idea how often i think about him and, if he did, he'd probably think i'm a creep. I honestly dunno how I'd live if he OD'd himself to death, or got jumped again. :'( :'(