help me

[derekrocks]

:confused:my gf and i have ben going out for 3 years and she wants to have sex but im 13,but my frends have already had sex. what should i do? i need HELP:confused:one of my frends girlfrends are preg.

[Bobby]

Firstoff, if your friends are 13, they are probably lying.

You're to young to have sex. Tell her no - if she doesn't want to wait then she's obviously not the one.

[BornActor]

judging by your comment, you seem like you don't want to have sex yet. If you are not comfortable having sex then tell her. If she still tries to make you then you must make a tough decision on whether to dump her or not.

[robert15]

well actually, you really need to wait until you are married to have sex. im not saying just run off and get married at 13, you just probably need to wait; and judging by what you said you probably want to wait.

[BtotheD]

ermm age of consent is usually like 15-17 in usa deppending on ur state so yea im 13 to i WANT to have sex i know i probably could with in like ohh 3 moths but yea im nervouse of what may happen, if her parents find out she may say it was rape and u could get into some SERIOUS troube :P

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

13 seems very young to be having sex. Sure, you are physically ready, but emotionally maybe not. If you two have sex, and then you break up later on down the road, are you going to regret it? Is she? If you're not ready for the consequences, don't do it. Do you have a plan, should she end up pregnant? Even using condoms, there is still a risk that the condom will break. Is there someone you trust who can drive you to Planned Parenthood for the morning-after pill, should something like that occur? Talk with her beforehand. Neither of you have ever done this before, so communication is key to find out what concerns either of you may have. Being your first time, you want this experience to be as pleasant as possible for both of you. You don't need to plan every detail, but you should both know the other's thoughts before doing something like this.

In my opinion, prepared or not, 13 is too young. Whatever you may want to believe, I doubt you will end up being with this girl for the rest of your lives. Some day you may get married to a wonderful woman and think to yourself, "Wow, this girl is so special to me, why didn't I wait so I could share my first time with her?" It's not just about the physical aspect, and your teenage horniness, sex is a huge emotional commitment. Do you really want that, at 13? Not to mention it could get you a reputation that could prevent you from getting a girlfriend in the future. A lot of girls don't want to go out with a guy who they know has had sex at such an early age.

[noturgurl21]

i was 14 when i first had sex and it was awesome but its really up 2 u noone can decide 4 u on this kind of desicion!!!! but if u do use protection!!! u know maybe u should start off w/ sumthin not so dramatic like oral sex i meen take it kinda slow and if u decide then u want 2 do it!!!lol :P:yeah:

[longrooster]

I think personaly that 13 is a bit young, and if your ready and willing, and so is she then why not... but before you jump into anything take some time to think (do i REALLY want to do this??) and also think about the for better and for worst of things. Its entirely up to you, if you are not ready, just tell her and if she respects you she will be ready to wait and she will respect your decision, if not then hey! she wasnt the right one for you! and like above said, start of slow, dont jump right to the sex, but if you do, wear a condom!

[Sugaree]

13 is a bit too young to have sex. I don't think you need that. Just tell her that you aren't ready nad you guys have to wait until you are

[The Batman]

Don't do anything drastic ask her if she is sure she's ready and then make sure your ready but at 13 I doubt that any of you are the best thing to do is to wait till your both older give it a couple years so your bodies can develop and also to see if your love develops more to but if you do anything just please use protection we don't need any little dereks running around

[Patchy]

If you feel ready then do it,

but your only 13 and you dont want to waste your virginity so early...just tell her your not ready for that sorta commitment yet.

[The Entertainer]

There are a few things to really consider before having sex at 13:
Whilst it may, at the time, seem a great idea, afterwards you may feel completely wretched. Imagine having that feeling over you for years and years. Not only that, but you could conceivably make her pregnant (if you are the unlucky 2% where the condom splits) and then you will have to answer to a whole host of questions then.
Im presuming you are unlucky, and you get her pregnant, so here are some of the options available to you:
A: your girlfriend has an abortion. Im not sure wherever you live, you can have secret abortions or not. If you cant, then your girlfriend's parents are going to have to be informed, and they could press an all manner of charges against you, which wouldnt be good. If your girlfriend has an abortion, then its your child your'e losing. Again, at thirteen, that is an incredibly emotional thing to take on board. Your girlfriend will also have to live with that fact as well.
B: You have the child. Your school-life is pretty well ended by the (perhaps not so joyous) news that you are now a father at 13. Your parents know, your girlfriend's parents know, its quite embarrassing, but, more importantly, a MASSIVE emotional burden on you. The child might be taken into care, who knows? What is certain is that if the condom splits, you could easily be in big trouble.

Ok, so thats worst case scenario. There are still some smaller factors to take into account. What if, after having sex, your girlfriend dumps you some weeks later? The whole experience has finished for you, and is meaningless.
What if, for example, your girlfriend tells people at her school, or she tells your mates? No doubt, as is often the case, they might not be best pleased. The worst thing that can happen though, is if your girlfriend presses rape charges, which, at 13, will be taken seriously. Im not saying that this will happen, and Im sure that it wont, but there is that tiny 0.00001% chance that it will.

As you can see, Im not too keen on the idea of losing one's virginity at 13 (anything over 16/17, however, is fine). I think your'e a little too young to be going into something that is arguably more emotional than physical. Im trying not being patronising!
Sex is a good thing, and no doubt you will enjoy the experience of vaginal sex if you do lose your virginity at 13.
If I were you, Id wait a couple of years, then, if you are still together, start to experiment with each other slowly, over a period of time. That way, you can get to know each other, and start a physical relationship at base camp without going straight to the summit.

If you are against the idea of having sex at 13, Id simply tell your girlfriend that you arent ready for something like this. Even at my age, I still dont feel ready for it, and Im a good few years older than you! Dont talk to your mates, not unless you know they are going to give a mature answer, as it will simply be peer pressure if they tell you to go on with it. If she keeps on going on and on, dont give in, but simply end the relationship. Its her loss, not yours.