How could you tell which one felt right??

[Amsey]

Hi guys, So a little about me, im 15 and i believe I'm bi-sexual but I've never been with anyone sexually (had anything more than a kiss), I've kissed both boys and girls passionately but don't know which gender I prefer for my first time having sex, I don't wanna be in the middle and wanna know if I'm straight or lesbian, could you maybe help?? I find myself more sexualy attracted to girls (I.e got turned on by them alot more) but I wanna like boys too as i really like some of my friends and just incase I get judged/bullied etc. so if you can could you please tell me if I should as they say "pick a side" or stay in the middle, thanks :)

[Cowboycalfroper70]

I would stay in the middle and experiment to find out what u like

[ryanpeterson832]

experiment

[airjordan97]

Personally if I were in your shoes I'd go with whoever makes you the happiest.

[JayDilla]

experiment can be the key to your decision..but its basically up to you
what your comfortable with..if you choose girls over us guys..hey its all good.
we can all still be your friends :)

[Amsey]

(To everyone so far):

Ok I'll take your advice guys thanks :), i think I'll start with girls, I find the idea of doing sexual things with girls more erotic than boys but you guys are still my buddy's :) (my boy friends are all really great to me :) )

[joshmz]

I feel like you should experiment a little more but it sounds like you like girls just a tiny bit more.

[gliderman]

Experiment :D. Do whatever you enjoy the most! Your sexual orientation doesn't matter to most people anyway, in terms of friendship. :P

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[ksdnfkfr]

Hi guys, So a little about me, im 15 and i believe I'm bi-sexual but I've never been with anyone sexually (had anything more than a kiss), I've kissed both boys and girls passionately but don't know which gender I prefer for my first time having sex, I don't wanna be in the middle and wanna know if I'm straight or lesbian, could you maybe help?? I find myself more sexualy attracted to girls (I.e got turned on by them alot more) but I wanna like boys too as i really like some of my friends and just incase I get judged/bullied etc. so if you can could you please tell me if I should as they say "pick a side" or stay in the middle, thanks :)

I have read oodles of stories just like yours.
15 give or take seems to be a time of uncertainty
for a lot of ppl. I think maybe by the time you are
18 you will have it figured out better.

[Luminous]

You shouldn't like guys just to fit in, or because your friends do, or because you don't want to get bullied. Ask yourself this: Do you really find yourself attracted to and turned on by guys? Can you imagine yourself spending the rest of your life with a man? Do you have any real desire for a man to be the other parent of your children?

[anyone50]

Not sure where you got the idea you have to be 100% straight or gay and at your age you should just go with what feels right. I was 15 before I had my first experience with a girl and while I do enjoy it I would miss not having sex with guys if I went totally lesbo. You don't have to make a life long decision at 15 just be open to the opportunities that come along and you'll figure out where you belong

[Datguy1]

experiment just to see what u are more attracted to

[NeuroTiger]

I have read oodles of stories just like yours.
15 give or take seems to be a time of uncertainty
for a lot of ppl. I think maybe by the time you are
18 you will have it figured out better.

Yeah you are right. At the age of 18, you'll have much more confidence in what you want to be (though there might be some slips)

[Pensive]

This is why I don't subscribe to labelling, unless it's relevant to you. The only reason someone would want to know your sexuality - Is if they want to date you.

Everyone is talking about sex, your decision shouldn't be based on that. Wait until you develop a crush on a girl/guy, not for their body, but for WHO they are. That advice applies no matter what you deem yourself to be.

And, a gay guy with a close female friend, can end up dating her. The only restrictions you impose on your sexuality, are your own.

Once you have found someone you have fallen for, and care for, then your sexuality doesn't matter. Say that person is Chloe; You'd be Chloe-sexual. She would be the only one you'd want sex with, or more importantly, to be in a relationship with.

Too early in the morning lol... Hope that made sense

[Lil.k8]

gay and straight are just the extremes of the scale im bi but consider myself straight because i like being in relationships with boys but i often play with my girl friends. sex with boys and sex with girls is very different so who you want to have sex with will change with your mood. when im crazy horny and i just want to get fucked i go to my boyfriend, but if im just horny and wanting to play i go to my girlfriends.girls are much softer and funner boys just want to fuck :D

[emily-candace]

Ive kissed both, girls are lots softer and just know how to kiss.

[Amsey]

Thank you you guys :,) this helped so much, I'll stop calling myself bi, I will take your advice and chose what feels right, I think I'm more attracted to girls body's more than anything, I believe I may like girls more as they understand me so much more :) but ill go with the flow as they say lol thank you guys, anyone else got advice?

[hoboliz]

Personally if I were in your shoes I'd go with whoever makes you the happiest.

This. Do what makes you happiest. And that doesn't necessarily involve either/or.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Really, that's it. Don't try to be straight for society, be WHATEVER floats your boat. Of course, figure it out with experimentation.

[sqishy]

You don't have to pick a side, but if you want to,
experiment and see.

[kylem]

you seriously shouldn't worry about bullying or what people say because of who you want to be with. that decision should be totally made by you, if you like girls, then you like girls. if you like boys, then you like boys. if you want to try both to see who you like best, then that's what you do. It's your decision and yeah some of your friends and people may say things to you that will be hurtful or whatever, but its still your decision and who cares if people judge you. choosing who you like and with all the bullying and stuff that might happen, will make it even more confusing for you, but just ignore it and you be with who you want to be with and what feels right for you. I have friends that have been through tons of bullshit because they are gay or les, but their real friends, will still like them for who they are and will totally support and help them, so if you have friends like that, that will help you lots to.

[Amsey]

You guys were all so helpful :D I think I've made a little progress as started talking to my best friend more about me likening girls and she told me she does too :p but I think I like the idea of being bi-sexual as you know what screw bullies least I'll be happy :) thank you guys

[casey_2014]

don't try to be something your not! I learned that the hard way if you don't like guys don't try to force yourself to. You'll just end up unhappy

[Amsey]

don't try to be something your not! I learned that the hard way if you don't like guys don't try to force yourself to. You'll just end up unhappy

Reason I'd try be "normal" is incase of bullying as I said as I get that enough already but I'm gonna be brave and try find a girlfriend and see if its what I really want or if its just a sexual thing :) you guys are all awesome :')