don't understand why

[johndoe1112]

i hear people on this forum talking about self harm and i don't really get it. why would you cut yourself. im not trying to be rude or to offend people but i just don't get it can someone explain it to me

[HotGurlMixy]

I Don't Get That Eaither D:

[steellord321]

i managed to mostly stop but it's a release. Think of it as a drug. Some have posted it's the only time they really feel anything.

If you take low self esteem and no real outlet, maybe bipolar too or you feel "out of control" at times, its actually easy to fall into.

[Tarannosaurus]

It's hard to understand if you haven't experienced it. Self harm is basically the desire to harm yourself. People feel that they deserve to be punished. It can be a result of stress, low self esteem, guilt, anxiety, depression, etc. It can be a way of releasing pent up emotions. It can be a way of feeling something if you feel numb (for example as a result of depression). There are so many different reasons for starting to self harm. Once you start self harming regularly it is extremely hard to stop. That might help you understand why people continue to do it, even if it doesn't help them in any way or have any effect, it becomes a routine. Or you start associating pain with cutting, so whenever you feel sad you atomatically feel the need to cut.

[ksdnfkfr]

Yeah it's one of those things that if you have
not experienced it you can't really understand it.
It is an outlet of depression, grief and anger.
It provides a sense of release.
It is a form of self punishment.
Mainly it gives a feeling of satisfaction.
Ever destroy something and feel better after?
Kinda like that.

[workingatperfect]

As they've said, it's very hard to understand if you've never done it.

Hell, I did it for years and I still don't know quite how to explain it. I don't really feel like release or self-punishment explain what it was for me. It varies from person to person as well. For me, it was.... I guess a catalyst of sorts, for the emotions I couldn't seem to force out. Everything I was keeping down needed a kick start or I would bottle it up and it would drive me insane. Cutting would hep bring those emotions to the surface for whatever reason. But it also just felt.... good, in a weird way. At times, it was the one exciting thing that gave me a rush when nothing else could. Other times, it was more of a calming method, it was soothing.

[Dannibabi]

Like the others said, it's not really something you can understand if you never did it. It's different for everyone. For me, it was strange, it calmed me, I would feel a sort of complete numbness...I could escape... it doesn't make sense, I don't think it can really.

[BADdies]

I think Bryan has sang it correctly:
"Cuts like a knife but I feel so right"

[DarkHorse4eva]

it's very hard to understand, but i do it because it removes my pain and makes me happy, it might sound weird, but its a big help to me

[Harley Quinn]

Personally, I self harm/used to self harm/kind of self harm because it was a way of dealing with all the negative emotions I was feeling. It may have been about myself, or because I just couldn't deal with emotions at all. I hate emotions, I don't know how to feel them and for me, cutting allowed me to express the pain and anger I was feeling. While cutting wasn't the only self harm I took part in, it was the main form I did use. It helped me a lot and while I think of it, yes it's fucking ridiculous that it got to that point but I didn't know how to control it. It's saved me from killing myself, I didn't self harm because I was suicidal, I did it because I didn't want to die and it helped release the emotions I was feeling. Self harm is a very personal thing, I felt ridiculously weak doing so, I did. But, it was a coping mechanism all the same.

[jesusogpaign]

I don't know who said it, but I heard it once described as like a hot shower. The burning water hurts at first, but you get accustomed to it. You know it's hurting you, but in the moment it feels fine. And you step out and see your skin is red, and only then do you realize how bad it is.