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Candle Guide
December 4th, 2013, 09:59 PM
So hey. I have a problem involving the relationship I’m currently in, and it’s gotten so bad that I joined this forum. Well, I also joined because I was fricking sick of the mods on the forum I used to frequent, but that’s off-topic.

Anyways, I’m a 16 year old girl. I normally prefer to date girls, but I identify as bisexual, so really I’ll date anyone who I like. I’m currently dating a 17 year old girl, and if it wasn’t for one other person, I believe I would be perfectly happy in the relationship. It’s this guy… Now, I’ve met guys who I’ve felt strongly towards, but never a guy who affected me as much as this one does. I just feel so happy when I’m around him. I thought I was happy with my girlfriend till I met him and discovered that he just makes me so much happier.
Kind of embarrassing, but I figure I might as well tell: I actually have dreams about him XD

Now let me just set the scene a bit. I go to a boarding school for kids with emotional/mental issues, or drug/alcohol issues. I’m the first one, for the most part. I’m there for refusing school, depression, anxiety; that stuff.
The girl that I’m dating is a day student, and that guy and I are residents. So when we see each other after school we’re always flirting—when my girlfriend isn’t there. It makes me feel really happy to flirt with him, though when I get back in my room at night I start to feel awful about it (like now).

I’m just not sure what to do. My friends don’t like my girlfriend, especially that guy because she’s kind of… trouble. She does some drugs, though she’s trying to stop—or at least that’s what she’s told me. She’s absolutely beautiful, though, and a fantastic kisser. Just... the excitement of dating her, the thrill, it makes me not want to break up with her unless I know for sure that that guy likes me and will ask me out. I’m awful, right?? That’s the part I really hate myself feeling, but I’m trying to be honest here. It’s really hard for me to be honest.

To make things even more complicated, I am pretty sure that that guy likes me as more than a friend, but considering he is 18 I’m not sure if he’d ever be in a relationship with a 16 year old just because of… morals/ethics/the law.

What I think I need to do is break up with my girlfriend because I’m really not being fair to her. There’s just something stopping me, and… idk, it’s all just really frustrating/confusing/annoying.

Any advice?? ^-^’ And sorry if I sound like a complete idiot for this… trust me, I wouldn’t like him if there wasn’t some unknown force making me like him and have freaking dreams about him. (Like seriously? Dreams?! Cheesy.)

Blood
December 6th, 2013, 06:54 PM
I tend to look at these types of situations like this...if you're really in love with person A, would person B be causing you to doubt your love for person A? The answer, in my head at least, is no. It really just comes down to who you're happy with in the long run, because that's what matters.

Regardless, flirting with this guy behind your girlfriend's back is wrong. You either need to stop it now, or break up with her. And from reading your post it seems like you've already decided you want to do the latter.

Derryck
December 6th, 2013, 06:56 PM
I would stay with your gf.

A.) You've known her longer.
B.) Something some of us guys do sometimes is act all nice and sweet to get your attention, only to show their true colors.

Does the idea of doing this little "exchange" give you excitement at all?

Pittsburgh
December 6th, 2013, 07:05 PM
Could it be that you are losing your attraction to the opposlte sex ?