Biscuithead13
December 4th, 2013, 09:13 PM
So I am interested in this guy I know from my LGBT small group. Hes drop dead gorgeous! I've had boyfriends in the past and they always proved high maintenance, but I've been single for 9 months and having fun once in a while just doesn't seem like it will cut it, because I always feel unfulfilled. Anyways the guy I like lives 45 min away, so its a bit far. I see him once a week at the LGBT program we both attend. He seems enthusiastic when talking to me, is very flirty, and when he is calm is very polite and personable. However he has talked about how he doesn't handle anger well, sometimes does self harm (and ive noticed evidence of what seems like he tried to cover it up), and drinks. He even mentioned going to alcoholics anonymous and the fact his phone has been taken by his mom until he gets a job. Sounds like theres more to the story to me. Anyways, he is very personable, and if he can control his anxiety is actually a good guy. He seems very intelligent, and is super super cute. I'm interested in him, but am very aware hes not the most stable person.
My thinking was I could start hanging out with him, and go from there. I don't want to jump into relationships like I always used to. We talked about doing something this Sunday, but he hasn't gotten back to me yet, and I told him I needed to think of what we could do. I have multiple things working against me for this weekend including the lack of a firm plan, him being uncooperative with his mom (making communication difficult right now), and even the winter weather. I've become to accept we probably wont hang out this weekend, and will perhaps the next.
Anyways I guess I'm wondering, is it worth getting to know him bit more and see where it goes? I understand going on a date doesn't mean you have to commit off the bat, so down the line I thought I can progress slowly if all goes well. Thoughts on my plan?
My thinking was I could start hanging out with him, and go from there. I don't want to jump into relationships like I always used to. We talked about doing something this Sunday, but he hasn't gotten back to me yet, and I told him I needed to think of what we could do. I have multiple things working against me for this weekend including the lack of a firm plan, him being uncooperative with his mom (making communication difficult right now), and even the winter weather. I've become to accept we probably wont hang out this weekend, and will perhaps the next.
Anyways I guess I'm wondering, is it worth getting to know him bit more and see where it goes? I understand going on a date doesn't mean you have to commit off the bat, so down the line I thought I can progress slowly if all goes well. Thoughts on my plan?