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Brice
December 3rd, 2013, 09:15 PM
Hey, everybody. So I'm a little confused. I'm about to give y'all a big background story. Haha!!! Anyway, in sixth grade, there was a new girl and she was pretty and like a female version of me. I immediately began to like her when I saw her. She's beautiful. By the time I got the courage to ask her out, I found out that she had a boyfriend. She stayed with him for a long time.
I found out I was moving in the middle of my seventh grade year and I finally told her that I loved her because I knew that's what my feelings were. I consider myself a mentally and emotionally mature person. So I told her and for a week, we had fun. We made plans. A list of baby names and colleges and we talked about marriage. But I told her I would wait for her. And that we couldn't keep our lives on hold for each other because I don't like long distance relationships.
At the same time in my life, I began liking boys. I already did, but I ignores and was in denial and didn't give it any thought. In fact, I didn't like gay people either. I was raised Christian and taught that it was wrong and that gay people were going to hell. I had never heard of bisexuality yet. I had no male friends except one and he was gorgeous. Nice personality too. I had a small crush on him. Then, I went to his birthday party and saw another guy and I was practically obsessed with him. I blushed when I heard his name. But, he blew me off and that's what ended that. And no, by blew, I didn't mean anything perverted, just to clarify.
Back to my move. I was in pain. It wasn't the first time we had moved but I felt like I was losing more this time. After a while I lost contact with most of my friends. I had friends here but I didn't consider any of them best friend material. I dated and stuff, but none of my emotions were ever strong. They were a small crush, and that's exaggerating. And then I met another guy. The most gorgeous thing I had ever seen. We became friends, but I switched schools a month after that so he never knew anything about me, but my friends who knew about me were convinced he like me too.
Since then, I've discovered something. I stopped feeling strong emotions for girls after that one girl. I still love her now, 3 years later. But nothing has stopped my feelings for guys, and at this moment I feel like I have 3 options for my future. End up with a guy and come out as whatever I am, end up with the girl because she's the only girl I've loved in a long time and for a long time, or end up alone. Now for the reason I put this in the teen sexuality thing: I want to know what I am. Is it normal? Am I just stupid or something? Please help. Thanks!!!

skiman
December 3rd, 2013, 09:20 PM
I dunno man. Are you still in touch with that girl? If so, ask your family if you can go on a vacation back to where you were before, just for fun. Tell her you'll be in town, try to do something. Wait for her, like you said. If it gets unbearable, just talk to her, skype her etc. I dont have much xp with a long distance relationship, but make sure she knows you love her. I really dont know what to do... Good luck man.

MechaSniper
December 3rd, 2013, 09:26 PM
Wow that is tough. What do you think you should do? Then do it.

Living For Love
December 4th, 2013, 03:49 PM
Long distance relationships are reall hard to manage, unless you try to meet her, you might eventually lose feelings for her. I don't know, if you think you can possibily still love her, then try to meet with her. If not, then I guess you might be bisexual, or maybe just gay, but don't try to label yourself anyway. You are what you are, and people need to like you that way.