Sexuality mess up

[tomuk]

Hi guys sorry this may get confusing.

Basically I'm 18 now and since I was 14 I thought I was gay and came out. Everyone now knows me as gay, including my parents, and it has become a part of me and my relationships with.

I've had sex with guys and been in relationships but I always seem to have issues with commitment to guys (like I did with girls before I came out). Also a lot of the time I don't end up enjoying sex with guys.

Recently I've been having some kind of weak feelings for girls, and I think have a small crush on a friend but I don't find them sexually attractive. I'm still attracted to guys and find them sexually attractive.

So here's my questions and queries

I don't believe in categorising yourself as a certain sexuality but for the purpose of this am I gay/straight/bi/pan/whatever?

Also how do I go about telling people this because it will be majorly embarrassing and I think will affect all of my relationships with friends and people.

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[MechaSniper]

You could be Gay-bi. There is always that.

[sqishy]

I don't believe in categorising yourself as a certain sexuality but for the purpose of this am I gay/straight/bi/pan/whatever?

Also how do I go about telling people this because it will be majorly embarrassing and I think will affect all of my relationships with friends and people.

I'd say you are gay and bicurious. Maybe your sexuality is not constant and changes with time, which is normal.

How to say it to others? Say you think you are curious that you might be bisexual, but that that is not for certain.

[tomuk]

The problem is I've always been confident and forward about it, its not something I can just change

[ksdnfkfr]

Since sexual orientation is not a choice, it is what it is.
You can worry yourself to death over "omg what will people think?!!"
Or you can just be yourself and go with what interests you.

[pjones]

do you really have to tell people immediately what you think your sexuality is? if you're not sure at the moment it's nobody's business but yours, even when you do decide you don't have to announce it to people.

[steellord321]

Could be like a kinsey 5...Maybe explain it like youre still gay but fancy the occasional girl. You didn't lie about being attracted to guys so it shouldn't be embarrassing. But really, unless you want to date a girl or need help i don't see the need to tell others.

[Lil.k8]

there is no such thing as gay or straight these are just the extremes of the scale people fall somewhere inbetween

[Mich015]

If your finding yourself sexually amd emotionally attracted to both sexes you would be Bi. But try not to rush yourself, take your time and explore your sexuality. You dont have to answer or explain to anyone.