Coming out as bi

[Harrybaby4]

Basically, I have been considering myself straight but curious for a while now but have recently have kind of realised that I may be in denial and I probably bisexual. Watching Tom Daley come out as bi publicly a couple of days reassured me that I might be able to do it, but although I'm pretty sure everyone i know will be supportive, I am worried people may treat me differently subconsciously :/
i also worry that girls will be put off by this. Ultimately I know I would like a wife and family, should I just keep quite and hide it? Im just so confused and scared by it all to be honest!
any advice or experiences would be really helpful thanks

[MechaSniper]

Well a possible advantage of being bi is that you can understand them better. Gradually show it through time and go bit by bit.

[sqishy]

Basically, I have been considering myself straight but curious for a while now but have recently have kind of realised that I may be in denial and I probably bisexual. Watching Tom Daley come out as bi publicly a couple of days reassured me that I might be able to do it, but although I'm pretty sure everyone i know will be supportive, I am worried people may treat me differently subconsciously :/
i also worry that girls will be put off by this. Ultimately I know I would like a wife and family, should I just keep quite and hide it? Im just so confused and scared by it all to be honest!
any advice or experiences would be really helpful thanks

If you don't want to come out really quickly, you could give subtle hints to your friends, like not saying you're straight and trying to lead them onto something.

[ksdnfkfr]

To tell the truth I do not understand why sexual orientation,
whatever it is, has to be an issue to anyone else. I keep
seeing mentions of Tom Daley coming out and I am thinking
why the hell should I care bout this guy's sexual orientation?
I just don't get it. It is almost 2014, not 1954. I do not plan
on ever "coming out". It is what it is and it is no one's business.
It seems like coming out just caters to busybodies.

[Brice]

Same situation as you. I've kept my mouth shut though. And if you go down my road, you'll feel a lot of pain if you fall for someone and can't tell them. So I think you should tell people and ask them if they can try to treat you the same. If they treat you different, point it out to them and remind them of their promise. On a completely random note, you joined VT on my birthday <3. Hahaha!!! Anyway, good luck!!!

[Matt_97]

I think i'm in a similar situation. A couple of weeks ago I started to develop a crush on this guy around my sixth from college and it made me question my own sexuality, i brushed it off and just thought it was one of those random man crushes. But i then watched the same video as you, and it then again made me question my sexuality. Its not easy and its not very straight forward. I then came to the conclusion that i'm bisexual.

In terms of telling other people I kinda gave a massive subtle hint to one of my friends on the bus home the other day, he said "life would be so much easier being gay" and i pretty much said "To be honest i considered the thought of being bi" he just looked at me as if nothing had changed and life was the same, i know it wasn't directly telling him that i was bisexual but there was a look in his eyes as if he knew. It felt kinda like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, but my heart was in my mouth, its a scary thing. But if your friends are your true friends then they will accept you for who you are. Even if you tell just one person you'll feel better for doing it. I hope this helped and good luck. Keep in touch mind, when i hit 100 posts you better PM me if you need like serious advice or even just someone to talk to :)

[teen.jpg]

To tell the truth I do not understand why sexual orientation,
whatever it is, has to be an issue to anyone else. I keep
seeing mentions of Tom Daley coming out and I am thinking
why the hell should I care bout this guy's sexual orientation?
I just don't get it. It is almost 2014, not 1954. I do not plan
on ever "coming out". It is what it is and it is no one's business.
It seems like coming out just caters to busybodies.

While I admire your opinion because its true, let's be honest with ourselves here. Not nearly enough people actually think like this. We all know too well why coming out is still a thing. Hell, gay marriage isn't even legal everywhere yet.

And its sick.