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[Pacific Air]

This really isn't about puberty but this is a teen forum. This post goes out to all those older guys out there.

I am really not that popular at my school. I am around average i guess you could say, but the thing is i have this friend named garrett and he is a really big player. All the girls think that they will be cool if they hang out with him. Just the other night he fingered a girl twice!!!! HE IS IN 7TH AND SHE IS IN 8TH. Its not the age difference its just that....lolzzz. But i asked him if he could turn this "good girl"(non slut) into a bad girl.. Who I also really really like. He asked if I wanted in her pants and i said yes. So he told me he would do it for me.

The Question I had is if you all have any good ways just to become "boyfriend and girlfriend". Like pick up lines ETC.

Thanks,
Pacific Air Guy

[Gumleaf]

puberty for boys - relationships and dating

[Serenity]

But i asked him if he could turn this "good girl"(non slut) into a bad girl.. Who I also really really like. He asked if I wanted in her pants and i said yes. So he told me he would do it for me

So explain to me your thinking behind this? You want a real, legitimate gf but you want some other guy to turn her into a slut so you'll be able to have more fun with her??

[byee]

Well, being one of the 'Older guys' here (and having been around the block a few times) let me say that you and your friends idea here is really dishonest and mean spirited. It's not OK to manipulate a girl in order to have some sexual experience with her, girls are more than sexual playthings, and their need to be treated with honesty and respect isn't any less important than you (or your friends) need to get laid or otherwise gratify your own sexual curiosity or boost your own egos.

I doubt your friend is really that admired by the girls, the good ones, anyway, and if he continues to view girls with the same lack of regard as he now does, he's in for a very rude awakening.

I'd suggest you treat girls as people first, maybe the way you'd like to be treated. I think you'll find them far more receptive to you, and when you're safely in a relationship based on mutual trust and respect, you might begin to explore connecting with eachother in a sexual way. Until then, maybe you should take care of your own sexual needs and find some new friends.