I can't say "I love you"

[Javier1994]

I always had this problem and i just can't find a solution for it,me and my girlfriend are together for like 3 years and we had a small arguement about this in the first months but then she got over with the fact that i'm incapable of saying "i love you",but recently we started arguing,screaming to each other again because of this and i just feel like everything is falling apart and right now we are like 2 steps away from braking,i realy dont want that and i know that i'm making her suffer because of this,i can't even say it to a wall.She probably thinks that i dont love her but I DO,i do but i just can't say it,i dont know why,someone please tell me if am i crazy or i dont know what love is if i can't say it?

[Seemyheart]

I always had this problem and i just can't find a solution for it,me and my girlfriend are together for like 3 years and we had a small arguement about this in the first months but then she got over with the fact that i'm incapable of saying "i love you",but recently we started arguing,screaming to each other again because of this and i just feel like everything is falling apart and right now we are like 2 steps away from braking,i realy dont want that and i know that i'm making her suffer because of this,i can't even say it to a wall.She probably thinks that i dont love her but I DO,i do but i just can't say it,i dont know why,someone please tell me if am i crazy or i dont know what love is if i can't say it?


You aren't crazy, I was like that too. and there is nothing wrong with not being able to say it. it could be your mind or hearts way of trying to protect itself, or you could be scared... there could be multiple reasons why you can't. I'm sure you know what love is, since you've been with her for 3 years.

[Caver]

Those 3 words are very strong words, maybe you don't actually feel love but your mind is telling you to feel it. It's something quite small to get in a big argument about, surely she'd understand. Tell her to try and be more understanding perhaps?

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Well do you love her?

[Javier1994]

Well,i can't say i dont,it's not like i was with her 3 years for any other reason,for her every small thing it's a big deal,anyway we had a fight on phone 30-1 hour becasue i want to continue my studies at the military academy and i realy feel like she doesn't appreciate me,even for things that happend a long time ago,it's like she kept everything inside of her for 3 years and now she exploded,she literaly start making a big deal of something that happend 1,2 and even 3 years ago.

[Living For Love]

You need to deal with in a calm and serene way. She might have reached her limit, and that's why she's now saying everything that was bottled up for all those years. You must try to talk to her and explain everything, particularly how important your studies are to you. If you think that there's no longer that connection that existed between you two before, and that now you spend more time arguing that being a good couple, then you should reconsider this relationship.

[GingerHannah]

If you truly do love her, but you can't say it to her, why not try writing it to her. You could even make it all cute if you so wish. Just a suggestion.

[skiman]

JUST SAY IT! Say it in a text, then hug her and whisper it in her ear... Man, you gotta get over yourself. JUST SAY IT. She will love you when you say it, and it'll get easier from there.