A majority of people said I'm too fat and out of style for a girlfriend

[dreamofdante]

I asked a bunch of people if I was too ugly for a girlfriend and the overwhelming majority said yes and that I'm too fat and out of style for a girl to like me. If anyone's wondering what made me insane last night, it's that. So what do you think? Am I too fat and out of style? That's all that matters anymore so what do you think?

[unknownuser]

What the heck, what shallow, rude, and ignorant people told you this?

[dreamofdante]

What the heck, what shallow, rude, and ignorant people told you this?

People on the amiugly part of reddit. Some of them were nice to me but basically the gist was that I'm too fat and out of style to have a girlfriend.

[Body odah Man]

I asked a bunch of people if I was too ugly for a girlfriend and the overwhelming majority said yes and that I'm too fat and out of style for a girl to like me. If anyone's wondering what made me insane last night, it's that. So what do you think? Am I too fat and out of style? That's all that matters anymore so what do you think?

WOW. That's just mean and cruel of those people. I feel sorry for you man and my advice is 'don't worry bout it.' Those people are bastards and shouldn't be taken seriously. You'll get a girl :)

[dreamofdante]

WOW. That's just mean and cruel of those people. I feel sorry for you man and my advice is 'don't worry bout it.' Those people are bastards and shouldn't be taken seriously. You'll get a girl :)

Thanks...They said if I lost weight I've be attractive. A lot of them said 20 pounds...

[Body odah Man]

I haven't seen a pic of you so can't judge but I think you're better off ignoring those bums.

[dreamofdante]

I haven't seen a pic of you so can't judge but I think you're better off ignoring those bums.

There's a picture on my profile. But yeah maybe...Even thought part of me says they're right.

[sqishy]

I haven't seen a pic of you so can't judge but I think you're better off ignoring those bums.

This ^, though I already saw your pic. Don't base yourself off other's views or expectations.

[dreamofdante]

This ^, though I already saw your pic. Don't base yourself off other's views or expectations.

Yeah I mean I wouldn't care so much if it weren't for the large amount of people who said the same thing. If It was one guy I wouldn't care but it was the majority of the people who replied so I'm left with thinking they're right.

[sqishy]

Yeah I mean I wouldn't care so much if it weren't for the large amount of people who said the same thing. If It was one guy I wouldn't care but it was the majority of the people who replied so I'm left with thinking they're right.

Quantity of opinion does not mean quality of opinion, you can't let it get to you. If you do, then it won't help.

[dreamofdante]

Quantity of opinion does not mean quality of opinion, you can't let it get to you. If you do, then it won't help.

They all said it was constructive criticism...

[fordgtguy]

You keep asking the same questions about girlfriends yeah I hear you want one or whatever but if you keep posting about it you are going to make yourself feel even worse. Your time will come don't worry.

[sqishy]

Agree with the person above this ^.

They all said it was constructive criticism...

If they say and mean it's constructive, and you take it as such, then try to work with the advice. But if it's not helping, then don't take it.

[dreamofdante]

You keep asking the same questions about girlfriends yeah I hear you want one or whatever but if you keep posting about it you are going to make yourself feel even worse. Your time will come don't worry.

I already feel like a piece of shit but I wanted to see what everyone else thought of this and if they agree that I do need to lose weight and change my style to find someone.

[Caver]

No one is "too fat or ugly" for a girlfriend/boyfriend. If a girl doesn't like you simply for your looks, she is not worth going for! Don't let anyone bring you down; no one is for you if they only look for looks.

[dreamofdante]

No one is "too fat or ugly" for a girlfriend/boyfriend. If a girl doesn't like you simply for your looks, she is not worth going for! Don't let anyone bring you down; no one is for you if they only look for looks.

Thank you. That's kind of you to say. :)

[Bilbo Baggins]

So this is the state of America. Anywho, anyone else thinking that the people on that site are worthless, idiots with no sense of kindness and what the actual world is, not some teen fantasy. Evidently, these people sound like "Trolls" the internet type. Not the other ones, like Bill and Tom. They tried to cook me for goodness sake!!! Anyway, the point is that those people, don't deserve the right to judge others. At all.

[SkootuGurl]

I just looked at your profile pic and you look fine. Yes you could probably do to lose a little bit of weight but I definitely wouldn't call you fat.

[Blood]

So I guess I'm going to have to be the bad guy here and say yes, you could benefit from weight loss if you want a larger percentage of girls to find you attractive. People can say a bunch of shit about looks don't matter but in all reality they do.

But the most important thing you need to do is learn to love yourself. You will not be able to properly love someone if you don't know how to love yourself.

We've spoken about this before. You're not ugly like you think. You just need confidence. Start eating healthy and working out regularly now and by this time next year you'll look great. Make changes now because nobody is going to make them for you.

[dreamofdante]

I just looked at your profile pic and you look fine. Yes you could probably do to lose a little bit of weight but I definitely wouldn't call you fat.

Thanks. If I lost some weight in my face, I'd feel more confident.

[dreamofdante]

So I guess I'm going to have to be the bad guy here and say yes, you could benefit from weight loss if you want a larger percentage of girls to find you attractive. People can say a bunch of shit about looks don't matter but in all reality they do.

But the most important thing you need to do if learn to love yourself. You will not be able to properly love someone if you don't know how to love yourself.

We've spoken about this before. You're not ugly like you think. You just need confidence. Start eating healthy and working out regularly now and by this time next year you'll look great. Make changes now because nobody is going to make them for you.

I don't get any exercise. That's my single handed biggest problem. I'm basically trapped in my room every day because there's no where to go. I wish I had my license. I'd go to a gym. I asked to get a treadmill but my family is hesitant.

[Body odah Man]

I wish you luck man. And as someone else somewhere on the thread has said-looks don't matter much. I've known a dude who had terrible hygiene and yet he got a girlfriend. Who you are inside is a lot more important than outside in the end :)

[dreamofdante]

I wish you luck man. And as someone else somewhere on the thread has said-looks don't matter much. I've known a dude who had terrible hygiene and yet he got a girlfriend. Who you are inside is a lot more important than outside in the end :)

Thanks :) I'm trying to be me more.

[Blood]

I don't get any exercise. That's my single handed biggest problem. I'm basically trapped in my room every day because there's no where to go. I wish I had my license. I'd go to a gym. I asked to get a treadmill but my family is hesitant.

Just start walking a mile everyday.

[teen.jpg]

Don't take offense to what people on the internet tell you, especially reddit. Its like their job to make fun of everyone for any reason they see fit. Its sick.

And no, youre not too fat or ugly for a girlfriend, and I can tell you that WITHOUT even seeing your face.

[dreamofdante]

Just start walking a mile everyday.

There's a state park I could maybe walk in.

[dreamofdante]

Don't take offense to what people on the internet tell you, especially reddit. Its like their job to make fun of everyone for any reason they see fit. Its sick.

And no, youre not too fat or ugly for a girlfriend, and I can tell you that WITHOUT even seeing your face.

Thank you, man. I appreciate it.

[Woryh]

Welcome to the club :(

[dreamofdante]

Welcome to the club :(

I'm sorry :(

[skittles_was_here]

So I guess I'm going to have to be the bad guy here and say yes, you could benefit from weight loss if you want a larger percentage of girls to find you attractive. People can say a bunch of shit about looks don't matter but in all reality they do.

But the most important thing you need to do if learn to love yourself. You will not be able to properly love someone if you don't know how to love yourself.

We've spoken about this before. You're not ugly like you think. You just need confidence. Start eating healthy and working out regularly now and by this time next year you'll look great. Make changes now because nobody is going to make them for you.

i hate to admit it but he's got a point. it's terrible that most people judge by looks now but it's true. just try to eat healthier and work out more often, like blood said. but other than that you're fine. i'm sorry, i hate sayig this kind of stuff.

[Woryh]

I wish people at my school would just leave the the f^ck alone so i can get done with that day of school and practice my rapier fighting or practicing my guitar, dont listen to any of them they are all going to fail at life you will be the one succeeding!

[dreamofdante]

i hate to admit it but he's got a point. it's terrible that most people judge by looks now but it's true. just try to eat healthier and work out more often, like blood said. but other than that you're fine. i'm sorry, i hate sayig this kind of stuff.

Do you think I'm shit out of luck until I start losing weight?

[ksdnfkfr]

Don't take offense to what people on the internet tell you, especially reddit. Its like their job to make fun of everyone for any reason they see fit. Its sick.

That is so very true.

And no, youre not too fat or ugly for a girlfriend, and I can tell you that WITHOUT even seeing your face.

And I will also say that, with having seen his face.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with your looks, Jack.
Zero, zip, zilch, nada.

There's a state park I could maybe walk in.

Go for it. If nothing else it is a great stress reliever.
Start out walking and progress to trotting.
Listen to music while doing it.
I know of one guy who really slimmed down by using a dance pad.
He said it was a lot of fun and an hour flew by quickly.

http://i.imgur.com/xuONbMd.png

[dreamofdante]

That is so very true.



And I will also say that, with having seen his face.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with your looks, Jack.
Zero, zip, zilch, nada.



Go for it. If nothing else it is a great stress reliever.
Start out walking and progress to trotting.
Listen to music while doing it.
I know of one guy who really slimmed down by using a dance pad.
He said it was a lot of fun and an hour flew by quickly.

image (http://i.imgur.com/xuONbMd.png)

Thank you, Ezra. If I get some new headphones and the weather is permitting I'll go up to the park and walk. But thank you for saying there's nothing wrong with my face. I appreciate :)

[skittles_was_here]

Do you think I'm shit out of luck until I start losing weight?

hell no! you are definately not out of luck until then. you seem like a very kind guy and like ezra said (ppl keepsaying what i was gonna say XD) there isn't anything wrong with your looks, i just think that more girls would be attracted to you if you lost some weight. but you definately aren't out of luck. i actually dated a guy that looked a lot like you last year and i didn't find him ugly in the least, because he wasn't. and you aren't either.

[jesusogpaign]

Don't take it as mean, take it as advice. I don't want to sound like an asshole, but when I see fat guys all the time, and it's the ones with good personalities and know how to look good that get the girls. So, start being more fashion conscious, stop wearing those fedoras and black t shirts and cargo shorts, OR lose weight. And even then, a skinny guy with a shitty haircut and no style won't get many girls either.

I'm speaking from experience. I'm not exactly skinny, but in the past few years I've upped my game in terms of style, actually paying attention to what looks good and stuff, and I've had some girlfriends. And actually, my current one approached ME. So. There you go. Take that as you will.

[jesusogpaign]

Also, yeah, for exercise, start of by just stepping out of your house, choosing a direction, and walking. Bring your iPod, listen to music or a podcast or a book. Walk like 3 miles. Do this every day, or every other day. You may lose some weight, you'll feel better, and maybe you could start jogging a mile or so instead of walking.

And also, I don't know you or know what you're like, but make sure you're hygienic. Shower every day, brush and floss everyday, do whatever you can not to have a bunch of gross acne. I see way too many fat guys that are not just fat, they are gross in most other aspects.

[dreamofdante]

hell no! you are definately not out of luck until then. you seem like a very kind guy and like ezra said (ppl keepsaying what i was gonna say XD) there isn't anything wrong with your looks, i just think that more girls would be attracted to you if you lost some weight. but you definately aren't out of luck. i actually dated a guy that looked a lot like you last year and i didn't find him ugly in the least, because he wasn't. and you aren't either.

Thank you :) I appreciate it. I'll take your advice. I do want to try and lose some weight when I can :)

[dreamofdante]

Don't take it as mean, take it as advice. I don't want to sound like an asshole, but when I see fat guys all the time, and it's the ones with good personalities and know how to look good that get the girls. So, start being more fashion conscious, stop wearing those fedoras and black t shirts and cargo shorts, OR lose weight. And even then, a skinny guy with a shitty haircut and no style won't get many girls either.

I'm speaking from experience. I'm not exactly skinny, but in the past few years I've upped my game in terms of style, actually paying attention to what looks good and stuff, and I've had some girlfriends. And actually, my current one approached ME. So. There you go. Take that as you will.

Also, yeah, for exercise, start of by just stepping out of your house, choosing a direction, and walking. Bring your iPod, listen to music or a podcast or a book. Walk like 3 miles. Do this every day, or every other day. You may lose some weight, you'll feel better, and maybe you could start jogging a mile or so instead of walking.

And also, I don't know you or know what you're like, but make sure you're hygienic. Shower every day, brush and floss everyday, do whatever you can not to have a bunch of gross acne. I see way too many fat guys that are not just fat, they are gross in most other aspects.

Alright. I'm not that out of the ordinary with fashion. I wear t-shirts and jeans and I wear a leather jacket. Girls often comment that they like the jacket so I don't think I'll change my fashion too much. I'm fine with it.

I'll try and work on the exercising in the near future if I keep pressing my family about it. And I'll keep hygienic.

[sztegosz]

I am kind of fat too, and having my gf for 1 year now :)

[dreamofdante]

I am kind of fat too, and having my gf for 1 year now :)

Aww that's good man :)

[sztegosz]

Aww that's good man :)

yeah, buddy, so don't be shy, you will find your girl soon or later!

[dreamofdante]

yeah, buddy, so don't be shy, you will find your girl soon or later!

Thank you. I hope so. It's not that I'm shy so much as I'm insecure.

[Austins]

Yup. Sounds like Reddit, mate you went to the wrong website, you can be perfect and a model and they still will tear you apart for the hell of it. Reddit is a mean place

[dreamofdante]

Yup. Sounds like Reddit, mate you went to the wrong website, you can be perfect and a model and they still will tear you apart for the hell of it. Reddit is a mean place

Thanks for letting me know. I thought in the amiugly section I would've gotten honest opinions but if reddit is just bad in general then I understand.

[Body odah Man]

Thanks :) I'm trying to be me more.

Same. We all try that man-just DAMN hard.

[dreamofdante]

Same. We all try that man-just DAMN hard.

What do you mean?

[Body odah Man]

What do you mean?

We all try to get to know who we ARE and be ok with ourselves. It's just damn hard.

[dreamofdante]

We all try to get to know who we ARE and be ok with ourselves. It's just damn hard.

Yeah it's way more than difficult for me.

[jesusogpaign]

Whoa whoa whoa. Overall, Reddit is a great community. I guess the r/amiugly community is kinda shitty, because it's all based around telling people they're ugly. Just be confident, girls love that, if people like the jacket, keep it. And also, just a small thing, try to wear less graphic tees and more plain t shirts. Maybe V-necks. It may seem really inconsequential, but they tend to look waaaaay better than a tshirt with your favorite band/tv show/whatever. Good luck!

[dreamofdante]

Whoa whoa whoa. Overall, Reddit is a great community. I guess the r/amiugly community is kinda shitty, because it's all based around telling people they're ugly. Just be confident, girls love that, if people like the jacket, keep it. And also, just a small thing, try to wear less graphic tees and more plain t shirts. Maybe V-necks. It may seem really inconsequential, but they tend to look waaaaay better than a tshirt with your favorite band/tv show/whatever. Good luck!

Yeah I typically wear plain t-shirts. Thanks for the advice!

[Synyster Shadows]

But the most important thing you need to do if learn to love yourself. You will not be able to properly love someone if you don't know how to love yourself.

This is right. Dude, while it would help, what matters is that you're a nice guy, which I think you are, from what I've seen. If you're a nice guy, you will find someone that likes you. But yeah, losing a little weight will help, and you'll feel better about yourself

[dreamofdante]

This is right. Dude, while it would help, what matters is that you're a nice guy, which I think you are, from what I've seen. If you're a nice guy, you will find someone that likes you. But yeah, losing a little weight will help, and you'll feel better about yourself

Thank you :) Tonight I'm starting on my diet. I want to make my life consist mostly of eating salads and only some meat for dinner to get a source of protein. I want to cut sugary drinks off almost completely and I want to take walks every day. :D