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Wolf822
November 30th, 2013, 12:09 AM
So up until this last week i had been seeing the same girl and only her for the last 2 years. I loved her, still do, and told her everything. We talked everyday and saw each other every day.
Well when we first started dating she went to a party and drank and slept with another guy. She apoligized and promised it would not happen again. Forward five months she goes to another party and gets smashed and lied to me about it. She may or may not have kissed slept or whatever with another guy. I still stay with her because i love her. 2 months later she was raped by an ex while she was at another party where she may or may not have been drinking and she said she didnt know what she was doing at the time. Fast forward to now where she asks if anything she had done had made me unhappy and i say yes and she asks what and I tell her the lies and stuff she has told me and did to me.
We broke up. sorry for the rant needed it out of my system. But my questions are was I right to break up. And why does it hurt so much that I did?

WeAreOneRepublic
November 30th, 2013, 05:01 AM
I believe you were very much in the right to break up with her, considering how you stated that what she did was wrong and upset you and she herself finds it as nothing wrong/lies. If you were with someone 'better' they wouldn't even let that happen in the first place nor lie. And it hurts because of human feelings as a whole. When we date someone we think of them as perfect or similar but when we lose them we think that we need them to survive and that we lost someone so perfect. Simply human nature.

Living For Love
November 30th, 2013, 09:02 AM
You definitely made the right decision, and although it may hurt in the beggining, you'll find someone better.

ksdnfkfr
November 30th, 2013, 09:17 AM
But my questions are was I right to break up. And why does it hurt so much that I did?

The breakup seemed unavoidable
and probably in your best interest.

It hurts because you were in love with her.
It will take time for you to get over it.

jesusogpaign
December 2nd, 2013, 02:37 AM
Yeah, you're right. She lied, she cheated, you have every right to break up with her.
Also, she was drunk and "didn't know what she was doing", that's not rape. It's being irresponsible. You are still responsible for your actions even when you're drunk.
"Sorry officer, I didn't mean to hit that person with my car, I was drunk and not in control of my actions".

Wolf822
December 2nd, 2013, 11:21 PM
Thanks everyone this really does help