Please help!!!!

[Miggy_C]

So me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years. I love and care for her so much but honestly I don't see myself having a future with her. The thing is she is so in love with me and so was I but i just don't feel that way anymore. I've had these feelings off and on for awhile now. We are both going to different colleges next year. I just need some advice on what I should do. She talks about marriage, our future, starting a family after college. If I break up with her it will destroy her and I don't think I can do that to her. I just don't know what to do. Any and all advice is appreciated. Thanks

[Shredu]

Break it up sooner than later, the more you wait the more she will be upset...... She'll get over it eventually.

[mermaidfairy]

It's not fair for you to be in a relationship with someone you don't feel like you have a future with, and it's not fair for her to be in a relationship with someone that there's no future with, either. Shredu is right that it's better to break it off sooner than later.

You're right that she'll be hurt for a while but it's better that she gets hurt and then moves on so she can find someone that DOES have a future with her, rather than being with someone where the feelings just aren't mutual. It will help you move on and find someone you feel like you can have a future with too. Moving on is hard but both of you can do it.

[skiman]

Once you go to college, give it some time and let the relationship loosen up. Take some time to find out if you can really break up with her, and if you decide you can, do it in a handwritten letter, and make sure you emphasize that it's not because you don't like her, but because you just can't see yourself with her in the future. Say it's best for her. Honestly man, thats the best i can do. No matter how you do it, she's gonna be crushed. If you decide you can't do it, give yourself some time, consider whether she's the kind of person that would be worth raising a family with. If she's a druggie, she's clearly not the kind of person you should be raising a family with. Think whether she would set good examples for your children. After considering all these things, make a choice one way or the other.

Good luck man!!!

[Saint of Sinners]

If you feel that this isn't working out, it's better to just break up sooner than drag it out. Either way she'll be crushed, but the sooner you do it the less it'll hurt.

[WeAreOneRepublic]

What I was going to say has been pretty well summed up here. Don't do more damage to yourself and her than need be.