Weird Question

[Ninjakilla579]

So on tuesday, my school had a basketball game that my gf and I were staying for. It started about an hour and a half after school ended. Me and my gf went to a secluded forested area near the school to pass the time before the game. We put our backpacks down and we layed down next to each other. She then sat on my lap and we got real flirty (we've only been dating for a couple of weeks and this was our first real alone time together) and she asked if I had a boner. I said yes. She asked if she could feel it. I said yes. So she grabbed it (without going in my pants) and said that she wanted me to grab her boobs. So I did and we played around for a while, during which I played with her nipples, rubbed her V (staying out of her pants) and she dry-humped me some. Keep in mind that we are both virgins and she's my first gf. She really liked my boner, and touched it almost the whole time. So my question is this; should I have escalated it? Gone into her pants or asked her to go into mine? I'm not talking sex, (we're only 13 and we didn't have a condom) but maybe a BJ or HJ? No one can see us there unless they're there with us, so we could if we wanted to.

[dreamofdante]

Jesus you're making me feel old, kid. I'm nearly 18 and never had anything close to this shit before...I think I would've asked her at the time if she wanted to do one of those things and then went on with it. But you're young and naïve and in the moment so it's understandable. If it happens again then I would say ask her.

[fordgtguy]

Jesus you're making me feel old, kid. I'm nearly 18 and never had anything close to this shit before...I think I would've asked her at the time if she wanted to do one of those things and then went on with it. But you're young and naïve and in the moment so it's understandable. If it happens again then I would say ask her.

Youre a year younger then me and you havent got anything like that before? step up your game get out there dude. And to the original question just let things flow stuff will get more intense when you two get more comfortable together. Youre only 13 take your time dude

[dreamofdante]

Youre a year younger then me and you havent got anything like that before? step up your game get out there dude. And to the original question just let things flow stuff will get more intense when you two get more comfortable together. Youre only 13 take your time dude

I'm ugly.

[fordgtguy]

I'm ugly. no one is ugly just get out there my dude you will get some quick.

[dreamofdante]

I've tried for six years man...

[fordgtguy]

I've tried for six years man... I just seen your picture i dont see a problem.

[dreamofdante]

I wish I could say the same about myself, bud.

[KoolKid96]

Jesus you're making me feel old, kid. I'm nearly 18 and never had anything close to this shit before...I think I would've asked her at the time if she wanted to do one of those things and then went on with it. But you're young and naïve and in the moment so it's understandable. If it happens again then I would say ask her.

U're not alone bro haha

[Saint of Sinners]

Ahem guys, Focus on the question at hand....

Well, I think you should only do what you both feel comfortable. If both of you are ok with it then ask at your discretion.
If not, then don't force her, and don't let her force you. Most guys forget about the second one.

[ska8er]

whats so weird? ive been there. i dont have a g/f but this girl
and i got each other off.

I've tried for six years man...

dude girls r more horny than they were six yrs ago
i guess. tho i had a girl touch my wee wee in first grade.

[dreamofdante]

dude girls r more horny than they were six yrs ago
i guess. tho i had a girl touch my wee wee in first grade.

My "was-going-to-be" stepsister tried to rape me when I was six and God only knows if she would've if my Mom and I had stayed. That's about the closest I've come to a sexual experience. I still haven't kissed anyone. But girls being hornier than they were six years ago...Can't say as I've seen that one lol.

[ryanpeterson832]

Im sure another opportunity will present itself.

[deregisterme]

So on tuesday, my school had a basketball game that my gf and I were staying for. It started about an hour and a half after school ended. Me and my gf went to a secluded forested area near the school to pass the time before the game. We put our backpacks down and we layed down next to each other. She then sat on my lap and we got real flirty (we've only been dating for a couple of weeks and this was our first real alone time together) and she asked if I had a boner. I said yes. She asked if she could feel it. I said yes. So she grabbed it (without going in my pants) and said that she wanted me to grab her boobs. So I did and we played around for a while, during which I played with her nipples, rubbed her V (staying out of her pants) and she dry-humped me some. Keep in mind that we are both virgins and she's my first gf. She really liked my boner, and touched it almost the whole time. So my question is this; should I have escalated it? Gone into her pants or asked her to go into mine? I'm not talking sex, (we're only 13 and we didn't have a condom) but maybe a BJ or HJ? No one can see us there unless they're there with us, so we could if we wanted to.

Basically it what you said at the end, you can ultimately do what you both want to do. Next time if you ask her, and she says no, then stop. Again you also seem to realise not to go the full way and risk getting her pregnant.

[ComfortableInChaos]

Yeah, I would wait for you and her to be about 14 or 15... You're only 13. And most guys your age have barely even discover how to beat your beat...

[ska8er]

:(My "was-going-to-be" stepsister tried to rape me when I was six and God only knows if she would've if my Mom and I had stayed. That's about the closest I've come to a sexual experience. I still haven't kissed anyone. But girls being hornier than they were six years ago...Can't say as I've seen that one lol.

maybe ur giving girls some bad vibes an pushing them away
because of the rape experience that almost happened. I cant
get girls to leave me alone-they r oversexed. they go for my
buldge right in school. it gets annoyin an embarrassing.

[dreamofdante]

:(

maybe ur giving girls some bad vibes an pushing them away
because of the rape experience that almost happened. I cant
get girls to leave me alone-they r oversexed. they go for my
buldge right in school. it gets annoyin an embarrassing.

Wanna trade, mate?

[Dark Hatred]

So on tuesday, my school had a basketball game that my gf and I were staying for. It started about an hour and a half after school ended. Me and my gf went to a secluded forested area near the school to pass the time before the game. We put our backpacks down and we layed down next to each other. She then sat on my lap and we got real flirty (we've only been dating for a couple of weeks and this was our first real alone time together) and she asked if I had a boner. I said yes. She asked if she could feel it. I said yes. So she grabbed it (without going in my pants) and said that she wanted me to grab her boobs. So I did and we played around for a while, during which I played with her nipples, rubbed her V (staying out of her pants) and she dry-humped me some. Keep in mind that we are both virgins and she's my first gf. She really liked my boner, and touched it almost the whole time. So my question is this; should I have escalated it? Gone into her pants or asked her to go into mine? I'm not talking sex, (we're only 13 and we didn't have a condom) but maybe a BJ or HJ? No one can see us there unless they're there with us, so we could if we wanted to.

NO. I am 13 and if that was me I wouldn't have even done that...you guys will break up and see each other at school and it will be so awkward...and the word will spread and the whole school will know...stay away from that man. Seriously.

[FameMonster]

NO. I am 13 and if that was me I wouldn't have even done that...you guys will break up and see each other at school and it will be so awkward...and the word will spread and the whole school will know...stay away from that man. Seriously.

I think that's good advice. I was going to say something similar. I'm not 13, but I definitely wasn't going that far at 13. No matter how private you think a relationship is, eventually everyone will know what happened.

To the OP, You said you have only been going out for a few weeks. Well, I know in early teen years that is like months, but honestly give it some time before you start anything sexual. Get to know her some more and then after a few months of dating then MAYBE take it to the next level.

[nklarke]

So my question is this; should I have escalated it? Gone into her pants or asked her to go into mine? I'm not talking sex, (we're only 13 and we didn't have a condom) but maybe a BJ or HJ? No one can see us there unless they're there with us, so we could if we wanted to.

There isn't a unique answer, it depends on you 2. But it seems that your gf is very horny and would want your dick very soon. Are u sure she's virgin?

[Ninjakilla579]

There isn't a unique question, it depends on you 2. But it seems that your gf is very horny and would want your dick very soon. Are u sure she's virgin?

I know for sure that she's a virgin as in she's never had sex. I know she gave her ex a handy a few months ago, and I think she blew him also.

[Jstr]

A blow job and a hand job are all versions of sex
unless you dont feel comfortable, then there is nothing stopping you
if you want to go further next time remember
that STD/STI's can all be transmitted through any wet encounter.
Condoms work most of the time. That also includes pregnancy pills

also maybe you'd like to wait a little longer until you go further just to make sure your mature enough (or however much mature you want to be)
and that the relationship doesnt become a relationship based solely on sex.
that is all :)

[and__1]

Hold up. So you're only 13... and you've been dating for a few weeks. I'm guessing you're only in middle school. What the hell are you doing? Slow down! You're way too young and naive to even be doing stuff like this, and you're getting too sexual too fast. If i were you at that age I would of felt so uncomfortable. Work will get around fast because you're in middle school and you'll be surrounded by drama. You don't want that. If i were you I would just tell her that you are way uncomfortable with the way the relationship is going and that you want to slow down.

[dball37]

Well, for one thing, it doesn't help to think about this after the fact. But, in my opinion it went as far as it should. only escalate if both of you are comfortable with it

[Catholic Guy]

If it was me, personally, I would have but it's all about if you both feel ready and you both want to do it, don't go rushing into these things and ruin them for both of you, you need to talk about it before anything else happens so that you both know how you feel about it because it sounds like she was up for it, you should get a condom just in case and you should ask her if she wants you to do anything with your pubes because that might be a turn off for her

[Ninjakilla579]

Update for anyone who gives a damn: We broke up a while ago and now we see each other at school and it's pretty awkward and I made some bad choices on that day.

[Thomas52]

so you see.....for sure its to soon for things like this in age of 13.....if you do things like this in this age, what you will do in ageo of 15 ??? and then we are asking why girls are not virgins in age of 16 ??? because of experiences like this in this age !!! most boys would like to have a girlfriend which is virgin, but how can they be, if they have experiences in age of 13 ???

[squares]

Yeah, you should have if you don't get much alone time, but my advice would be to not worry so much about it as another time will present it's self soon if you wait.

[Harley Quinn]

Please don't bump old threads. :locked: