Weird Cousins

[cbflword]

Okay, so I don't know where else to go to ask about something like this. If I told my friends, they would probably get weirded out. If I tell my family, it might wreck relationships unless I know that my cousin is actually being weird and just doesn't realize that he is crossing boundaries.

So, my cousin is in college, has been there for about two years. He has a girlfriend, is well groomed et. all, and has a normal social life, so he isn't really abnormal.

I am a girl, sixteen, three years younger than him. About two or three years ago is when he started acting kinda weird to me. The first thing that happened that I just kind of wrote off was when he put his arm around me during a car ride. Of course I asked him to move his arm.

The second thing was during the summer, I was really sunburned, and he asked me if I was sunburned all over (we were in really close proximity, in a hallway in my family's vacation home). I told him 'Of course, I was wearing a bikini.' He then pulled my shirt collar down and looked down my shirt. I was so shocked I didn't know what to do for a couple seconds, and then I just walked away.

I really don't know what to do. I know this is weird. He is always trying to spend time with me now, especially alone. Is this weird or does he not realize that I am a female with boobs now and you can't be so close to me? We were never really that close, anyways... although we did grow up together.

I always kind of had a crush on him... but I know this is weird, and I don't want to act on instinct.

This is my second thing, I have another weird male cousin. I don't think any of my other female cousins are dealing with this, so it is frustrating because I have no one in my family to really talk to about this.

This cousin is in the armed forces. He is more distant (the son of my father's cousin). I've only met him a few times when I was 10 (during a family member's wedding). Anyways, about a year ago he sent me a friend request on Facebook. I accepted because he is family and I didn't want to be awkward.

He keeps giving me a lot of attention on Facebook. I don't really know him and when I look over his wall, he flirts a lot with girls. He keeps asking for my phone number and calling me 'pretty' and 'beautiful' and 'smart'.

What should I do about these two cousins? I really have no clue on how to react to either of them or how to get them to stop being freaky.

[dreamofdante]

Do you feel weird when these things happen or do you in your mind think it's weird? There's actually a difference.

[Blood]

I don't know what state you live in, but in my state sexual relations between cousins is illegal. The first cousin seems to be pushing this limit, so if I were you I would definitely steer clear of him and try not to be alone with him AT ALL. I've dealt with something really similar to this and that's the best advice I can give you. When he's around, always try to be with someone you trust.

I don't really know what to say about the second situation. If you feel uncomfortable dealing with him on Facebook, you'll probably feel the same way dealing with him through the phone? You don't owe him your number, so don't let him pressure you into giving it to him. Then again he may just want to get to know you better to tighten family relations. It just comes down to what you feel comfortable doing

[ksdnfkfr]

If someone is making you feel uncomfortable,
then tell them point blank.

[cherylcherylX2]

What Ezra said. Speak up if you're not comfortable with what someone else is doing to you.

[Dark Unicorn]

I agree with the above post.You shouldn't have to put up with it if it makes you uncomfortable.Tell them that.If they continue tell a relative you trust and ask that they talk to your cousins.If either cousin gets upset with you,you should just remember that they have no right to be because they brought it on themselves.Boundaries should not be crossed.