curious but to an extent?

[tisser]

so I'm 18 and for a long time I've been really curious. I see guys and I think they're physically attractive and fantasize but the idea of being emotionally attracted to a guy just isn't there. I've always wanted to experiment but only with a guy in the same situation as me that would never label himself gay or bisexual because it's a very specific attraction. I love girls as well, though. Physically AND emotionally connected to girls. Frankly, I've always wanted a guy to mess around with on when we felt the need and always keep it under wraps without thinking about labels. idk guys are just attractive haha but that's the extent of my attraction.

Do any other curious guys ever feel like this?

[Swagging god]

yes I've felt like this since I turned 19

[milo03]

Exactly how I've felt for a while now.

[tisser]

Haha good to hear I'm not the only one...so you guys would never date a guy either?

[Living For Love]

What do you mean by "dating a guy"? Hanging out with him, like going to the cinema or something?

[tisser]

No, I mean strictly a relationship...like boyfriend and boyfriend. hanging out isn't weird or anything

[sqishy]

so I'm 18 and for a long time I've been really curious. I see guys and I think they're physically attractive and fantasize but the idea of being emotionally attracted to a guy just isn't there. I've always wanted to experiment but only with a guy in the same situation as me that would never label himself gay or bisexual because it's a very specific attraction. I love girls as well, though. Physically AND emotionally connected to girls. Frankly, I've always wanted a guy to mess around with on when we felt the need and always keep it under wraps without thinking about labels. idk guys are just attractive haha but that's the extent of my attraction.

Do any other curious guys ever feel like this?

Have you tried the Kinsey Test?

[Living For Love]

No, I mean strictly a relationship...like boyfriend and boyfriend. hanging out isn't weird or anything

Oh, ok, I think I would, but I wouldn't want to have sex with him. Still, I'd prefer to be loved by a guy than being loved by nobody at all...

[tisser]

I understand. I guess you're right. Who knows how that could evolve. Maybe into something more.

And I did take the Kinsey a couple of times in the past, forgot my results

[itsthat0n3kid]

im the exact same way.. dont know what to call it though.

[tisser]

im the exact same way.. dont know what to call it though.

I guess we're just messing around for now

[Hermes]

Have you tried the Kinsey Test?

Well, there is the Kinsey scale. Look it up - there is an article in Wikipedia. The essential idea is sexual orientation is much more variable than the labels straight, bi and gay can adequately describe so Kinsey used a multi-point scale. Someone posted a link to a test that purporyed to tell you where you are on the scale, though I'd be sceptical of that.

So things are not black and white. Like you I have the "whole package" attraction to girls and I am in a relationship with a girl at the moment. We like to do things together, she turns me on and I love her. We do everything from hug and kiss to sex. Before I met her I had tried mutual masturbation with another guy and it was fun and, if I wasn't in a relationship and the chance presented itself again, I'd do it again. I don't have any desire for anal sex with a guy, though, and I don't either have any desire to kiss one.

So, in order to be attacted to girls you don't have to have absolutely zero atrraction for guys. The important thing, really, is if you take a long term partner who will it be? If it's a girl you are on the conventional and easier path and won't have to answer too many questions. If it will be a guy then you are on the more complicated path and have to deal with doing something other than what those around you expected.

So to be clear, that two way divide: conventional (easy) path and the alternate (harder) path, because there are only two sexes, is about lifestyle and how others see you. The relative atraction you have for each sex and exactly which elements of sexual or initimate activity you would want to do with each is about how you feel which you don't have to share with everyone else and you only need label it if you want to.

[tisser]

Yeah, I don't find the test to be very accurate. But yeah, you're right. I guess my sexuality is fluid for the time being

[loki2000]

yeah i feel this way too