what do i do?

[SilentCutter]

I'm not sure if this goes here, but I'm confused. I have two situations.
1: my brothers aunt has a 7th month old daughter. She's a healthy baby, always has clothes on her back. Here's the problem: The aunt hasn't seen her daughter in 3 weeks going to be 4 next week. She willingly let her sister take her for two weeks. Hasn't spoken to note seen the baby, but only for one day. She recently made m theny parents the godparents. Then she gave the baby to us, who she hardly knows. I mean for all she knows we could be killers (we're good people by the way). When we told her her baby needs to be with the mother she said "i guess I'll take her, but I'm working so I'll give her to a babysitter." She's not making any effort on getting her daughter. When she was staying with us, she left for the entire day sometimes overnight leaving her with us. Is this a form of child abandonment? My mother and I really want to call CPS.

2: my brother and his mother really want the baby (same baby^) to stay with them. So the aunt let her visit my brothers mother. Now they're telling the aunt she can't have her baby back. Plus the baby's mom doesn't want to argue so she doesn't get her back. From what I've seen, the mother only visits her child. Concerning my brother and his mom, would this be kidnapping? My brother even stated many times "we're not going to give her back"

[mrpieface2]

1: I would really talk to the aunt. Don't call CPS just yet.. See what's going on with the aunt. Maybe she has a medical condition and can't take care of the baby or something.

And for #2, I don't know if I can help you, sorry!

Hope this helped!
Alex

[karl]

Well, I would get CPS involved. It's too complicated and not fair for you to take any responsibility in.

[SilentCutter]

Thank you both. And no she has no medical issues.

[Katiya]

No. CPS will give the baby to a foster home where she will be MUCH worse off. Trust me. Better off with a setter or a mom. Besides its not worth the trouble and bad blood you will create.

[SilentCutter]

Okay thank you all for your advice. I'll just keep my mouth shut. It's not my place to say anything.

[Luminous]

This is something you should get CPS involved in.

[Dennis Chaney]

CPS is not worth the Hassel to be honest, I've filed with them before over my sister and had viable proof and testimony from others and it did nothing. The best course of action is to get one of your family members (anyone 18 or older capable of taking care of a child) to file for custody over the child and have testimony that the mother is incapable of taking care of the child.

[Cromm]

Your use of relationship titles makes it a bit difficult for me to follow who's who. Maybe you could use names (fake names) in the future to be more distinctive.

Anyway:

1) Not having interest in your new-born is deeply disturbing to me, but you might not know all the factors involved. "Is it child abandonment?" If she left the baby in your care, told you when she would pick up the baby, then didn't show till the next day AND couldn't be contacted the entire time. YES, that is child abandonment. If you had called CPS that day, they'd have taken her. Now... all you can tell them is that she seems disinterested he her child. They'd investigate, but as long as the kid is healthy and safe, they won't do anything.


2) This is where I had trouble following... Is 'the aunt' not 'the baby's mom'? Regardless, if the mother (or legal guardian) of the child asks for her safe return, and your brother refuses, YES that is kidnapping. (Actually, kidnapping, child endangerment, interfering with custody of a child, and several other felonies.)

If the mother is so apathetic and your brother wants (as is able to) raise this child, why not offer to adopt? Once the mother has signed over legal custody, your brother becomes the defacto parent. With all the rights and responsibility thereof.


~CC

[joejoe]

See what's going on with the aunt.. Then go from there