Depressed girlfriend

[DecNK11]

(I wasn't sure where to post this)

My girlfriend has just been diagnosed with clinical depression recently, she has had alot of things going on this year, her mam died a year ago tomorrow, her uncle raped her, she is finding it hard to cope with paying for her school (she goes to private school because her uncle was gunna pay for it) she has been out with a few bastards over the past year and she even started smoking which is bad enough and then she got caught, her dad is making her lie to the social worker and she really hates him, everyone at her school are bitches to her because she isnt a stuck up snob and she has been breaking down alot...all this has happened and she has just turned 14 in december

i just want to know what to do to try and make her feel better... i know there is nothing i can do to make her better but at least make her not feel as bad, i love her and i really want to help, thanks anyone who can help...

even if you can just relate to it, it would help me because im fellin depressed about it aswell

[thesphinx]

The best thing you can do too help her is be there for her, is she talking to anyone about this? I have had Severe clinical depression and I have dealt with it and recovered and its made me who I am today.
It's as curable as a broken leg its just needs time to heal. But it sounds like she has a lot going on so I HIGHLY recommend if she isn't already talking to a therapist.
If you have any more questions about depression I know a bit from personal experience so feel free to contact me.

[DecNK11]

me and her talk about it and she talks to it with a counsiler and a few of her friends, im there as much as possible its just i never know what to say or anything like that, i really widh i knew what to do

[thesphinx]

I understand where your coming from, It can be really hard to understand what someone with depression is going through and how you can help them.

[byee]

Ask her.

The best way to learn is by asking, ask her what you can do to be supportive/helpful. With the serious stuff, encourage her to talk with her counsellor, either alone, or with your participation.

[thesphinx]

I agree with Sam ask her. (would have given you rep for that post but I have to spread it around:P)

[DecNK11]

thanks, i will be seeing her tomorrow to be there for her and we are gunna talk about it so i will ask her about it then

[thesphinx]

Good Luck! keep us updated.