How can i get over her?

[kire]

Two weeks ago, i had to break up with my girlfriend. It's a long story why, if you want to know then you can read my thread, "Is this considered cheating?" in the dating and relationships section. Anyway, now i'm depressed because she has a new boyfriend, and i have to watch them be together in school. I still have feelings for her, and I get really depressed when I see her with her new boyfriend. I just want to know how i can get over her.

[sqishy]

Two weeks ago, i had to break up with my girlfriend. It's a long story why, if you want to know then you can read my thread, "Is this considered cheating?" in the dating and relationships section. Anyway, now i'm depressed because she has a new boyfriend, and i have to watch them be together in school. I still have feelings for her, and I get really depressed when I see her with her new boyfriend. I just want to know how i can get over her.

On having experience with getting over someone I really liked, it's not easy at all :( . I know many people say this, but know that there are more people out there, and don't live the present by things that have happened in the past. Try to focus on different things, take what has gone wrong in the past as learning how to cope better with the future.
Hope this helps. *hugs*

[TheMightyBruce]

First, I am sorry to hear that you have recently broken up with someone you currently still have feelings for. It is always tough when things like this happen because we are having to change our lifestyle in which we were, for the most part, previously contempt with.
In order to get over this, you must realize that only you can take the actions necessary to "move on". Only time and your ability to adjust are the only things that will allow you to move on. You may choose to distract yourself as mentioned above, or choose to dwell on this small feeling of loss for a little bit longer before deciding it's time for a change.

You already understand why you feel the way you do. You've said it before. You still have feelings for your ex and your previous topic of "cheating" brings up the matter of trust and attachment. It also must hurt you that your ex has already picked up on a new boyfriend so quickly. You must be assuming that she's already moved on...sometimes questioning if she ever really loved you. Your previous thread indicated that this action was probably the best course of action for you and that you seemed sure in carrying it out. Keep in mind as to why you did it, and what you thought it would bring you.

I will say that there are possible alternative explanations as to why you feel the way you do. As I mentioned trust and attachment behavior plays a role in this topic. You didn't seem too trustful with your ex with this new guy friend. You also seemed to crave attention from her when her attention shifted from you to the other guy. Perhaps you have experienced something else that has brought out this behavior. You may have also failed to satisfy her interest in a particular area in which this guy friend may have, however please be clear that this was probably not your fault in any way. She did not seem to indicate to you clearly as to what this matter was and she may ultimately have insecurities of her own that prevented her from communicating effectively with you.

But I digress. You said it yourself. You didn't think that you two were meant to be a couple because of the events that occurred. If it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be. You will be able to use this experience as a learning experience in finding what you look for in a partner, what behaviors you tolerate better than others, and why you react the way you do. More importantly, you will come to learn how well communication and understanding each others feelings towards different things will be in the success of your relationships.

I wish you the best of luck.

-Adam

[Dark Unicorn]

All I can say is time heals.In addition,just try to distract yourself and meet other people.